Hey everyone

[xxxbexxy_beex]

Hey im kinda new here ive been floating around this one and the 1st trimester forum to see which one im better fitted in im still not sure tbh lol.
Im 19 and have a beautiful 2 year old daughter, I have a great fiance and great job and flat.
But now im pregnant again with baby number 2 and im kind of freaking out about telling my dad because when i fell pregnant the first time (when i was 16) he stopped talking to me for 2 months and still brings it up how young i was.
But he loves his granddaughter to bits now its just im very worried about telling him again he always said dont make that same mistake again and i have so im wanting any ideas on how to tell him or just hide it untill im too far along to hide it. I dont stay with my parents anymore.
Can anybody help out please?
xxxx

 

[divershona]

i reckon your probably best to just come out and tell your dad sooner rather than later

he might react differently to the news now that he's seen how well your doing with your daughter, and the fact that you're financially stable won't go against you either

 

[Leah_xx]

Hi hun
Congrats by the way.
Im leah Im 17.
I have a week old little girl named gracelynn elizabeth.
You just have to tell your dad straight away.
keeping it a secret wont do anything but make things worst.
You never know it might hurt him tht you didnt tell him.
he might react differently now that you older

 

[Callie-xoxox]

Congrats first off.
And I would tell you dad right away.
Then when you do tell him he wont know you were hiding it from him.
But I would wait untill your 12 weeks just to make sure baby sticky.
Oh and I am Callie I am 19 and I have 3 month old Daughter Named Lyrik Marie.

Good Luck~

 

[~RedLily~]

Congratulations!
I agree with everyone else it's easier to just tell them. I would imagine they would be quite upset if they thought you couldn't come to them.
I'm Kirsty btw I'm 20 and have a 3 month old called Ella (well Elayna really)

 

[bbyno1]

heyy & welcome over
Im Ellie whos a mummy to Aliyah
Im sure he has seen just how well you have coped with your 1st baby and what a great mum you have made so maybe this time he will deal with it much better?you seem to be very stable aswell
goodluck xx

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

:wave: Hello

I'm Laura, I'm 19 too, and have a 14 month old daughter, and I'm now 25 weeks + 5 days pregnant with a little man. I fell pregnant with my daughter at 17 and I had a similar situation with my mum that you've had with your dad. My mum went crazy when I told her about my daughter, but now she absolutely adores her. I didn't live with my parents at the time either (nor do I know). I was terrified about telling my mum about my second pregnancy. I kept it quiet for 4 weeks, and in the end I 'bit the bullet' when I was 10 weeks gone, and wrote her a letter and left it at her house. I explained how it was my decision and we were happy that I was pregnant again and wanted her to be happy for us and be proud that she had raised a daughter that felt she was mature enough to be a mum already. Maybe you could do something similar? I'd always say face to face is better, but after how my mum reacted the first time, I just couldn't face it again and thought the best way would be to let her have some space. By the sounds of things, it might be similar situation for you.

Good luck and I wish you a happy and healthy 9 months.

xoxox

P.s By the way, my mum didn't react over the moon to hear about my second pregnancy. She said 'it was my life, and it wasn't going to change much anyway as I already had a little one' I think she accepted it a bit better than last time. I hope your dad does too.

 

[xxxbexxy_beex]

:wave: Hello

I'm Laura, I'm 19 too, and have a 14 month old daughter, and I'm now 25 weeks + 5 days pregnant with a little man. I fell pregnant with my daughter at 17 and I had a similar situation with my mum that you've had with your dad. My mum went crazy when I told her about my daughter, but now she absolutely adores her. I didn't live with my parents at the time either (nor do I know). I was terrified about telling my mum about my second pregnancy. I kept it quiet for 4 weeks, and in the end I 'bit the bullet' when I was 10 weeks gone, and wrote her a letter and left it at her house. I explained how it was my decision and we were happy that I was pregnant again and wanted her to be happy for us and be proud that she had raised a daughter that felt she was mature enough to be a mum already. Maybe you could do something similar? I'd always say face to face is better, but after how my mum reacted the first time, I just couldn't face it again and thought the best way would be to let her have some space. By the sounds of things, it might be similar situation for you.

Good luck and I wish you a happy and healthy 9 months.

xoxox

P.s By the way, my mum didn't react over the moon to hear about my second pregnancy. She said 'it was my life, and it wasn't going to change much anyway as I already had a little one' I think she accepted it a bit better than last time. I hope your dad does too.

That really helped thankyou xxx

 

[Sophiiie]

congratulations on your pregnancy
I think you should tell your dad sooner rather than later, especially as your circumstances are very different now to when you were pregnant at 16, you sound like you have much more stability. I hope he takes it well, but if he freaks out at first then I don't think it'll take him long to come round to it x