Hey ladies...

[lou_w34]

.

 

[nievesmama]

Hi hun, Christmas was ok. The kids loved it so im happy with that.
I didnt hear from their dads but then my babys dad isnt allowed to contact us, but my sons dad said he was going to ring to speak to him....surprise, surprise he didnt!!!
I dont blame you for the FB thing, when my LO was born a so called friend cut and paste pics of her and gave them to her dad. It sickens me to think he has pics on his, that were taken in my new house, that he has no rights to. IMO theres a reason he has no pictures, he harrassed us from day one, so why should he steal mine and parade her to all and sundry with self pitying comments under them.
Ive deactivated mine as ive always had a totally private profile , but now cant due to new settings.
As for seeing him hun, only you can make that decision. I know where you are coming from about half assed attempts, my sons dad only bothers when hes bored.
Hugs hun xx

 

[teal]

I hope you enjoyed your first Christmas with Scarlett

I would do the same as you on facebook - I also have mine set to the highest privacy. I've made sure that no-one on my friends is linked to my ex.

His half assed attempts aren't fair to you or Scarlett - he should be wanting to be involved all the time not just on special occasions.

Sending you huge hugs

 

[expecting09]

Kacie had a lovely first christmas. Not a word from FOB, I've not heard anything since he wanted my address and I didn't give it to him, so things are looking good, and I'm hoping he has got the message now!

Bloody typical that he only wants to come round when there is something going on... I know it's not the same thing, but my dad is like that, only ever hear from him if its someones birthday or he wants something

I know what you mean about the facebook thing too, me and FOB have a mutal friend, and this friend commented on some of my pictures of Kacie, and FOB could look at the ones he's commented on, I don't understand all these new privacy settings so I don't know if he can still see I don't think your unfair from stopping him seeing them, they are YOURS and Scarletts photos, memorys, fun times.. not his!

 

[tinkerbellita]

Not a squeak from fob.

 

[lou_w34]

Glad everyone had a nice xmas =)
It was lovely spending it with Scarlett, even though she slept through all the present opening... they were practically all hers aswell lol

Glad noone thinks im being unfair not giving him my fb! I dont understand all those new privacy settings either! But i set my photos of scarlett so that only certain friends can see them, so hopefully they are safe!

And dont be sad tinkerbellita... its his loss entirely

xx

 

[DizzyMoo]

Nope jaxs dad hasn't been in touch since i was 29wks preg

 

[teal]

Glad it's not just me who was confused by facebooks new privacy settings!

Dizzy - love your avator picture So cute!

 

[DizzyMoo]

haha thanks hun xx

 

[surprisebaby]

Not a squeak from fob.

same here. nothing.

 

[tinkerbellita]

Not a squeak from fob.

same here. nothing.

We've got a right pair aint we?!

 

[Emma1980]

not heard nothing from him, knocks me sick as more than anything we stayed friends after we split, til i finished work (i worked in the pub he lives at) so as i dont go in there no more, i hear nothing from him, even with 12 inches of snow and no way to get out - couldnt even check i was okay...

just deleted him off facebook, i'm done with him.

 

[sweetlullaby]

Hey, also been a bit rubbish at replying recently lol these LO's keep ya really busy!! cant believe two weeks have past!

Well xmas was good, Matthew got spoilt rotten! and slept through all his presents lol FOB text me on xmas eve asking how me and the wee man was. I didnt reply....then he tried to phone me yesterday and i text him asking did he try to ring me and he said yes he wanted to know how matthew was doing and "stuff" i said he's doing great and he said good. we need to talk about me getting to see him because i want to get to see him. well my reply was quite cheeky....lol i said you do realise that you getting to see him is on my terms(as in stop harrassing me). he's a newborn baby that isnt in any kind of routine and working out you visiting aint an easy thing to do.He isnt a novelty item you goggle at in a zoo. he isnt gona sit for an hour being looked at, he could be sound asleep, wide awake, crying, getting feed or changed or bathed etc. I got a reply saying yeah i on that. but as you say im the dad. and i have the right to see him too and i WILL get to see him...... Well i seen that text message as a threat as in he will "make sure" he gets to see him type thing. So i replied saying that you may be the dad but ur the one wanting a dna test and if you continue to harrass and threaten me you can take me to court because you'll not get to see him.

I havnt heard anything since. Bet i get a soilicitors letter for the new years. Im just not having any of it at all. Im not having him harrassing and threatening me and Im not having him treating my son like some sort of possession of his which is the real impression im getting. He can go and f*** himself. Im not getting walked all over and having him constantly contacting me making "chitchat" and demanding stupid things. I have better things to do.

Sorry kind of ranted a bit...lol as per usual xx

 

[xJG30]

Xmas was good over here, Tom enjoyed it.

His dad's parents/grandparents sent up a few presents and his dad sent up a £40 voucher (that's it) for toysrus and a letter asking to come up in Spring.

What's wrong with coming up for xmas ffs.

 

[teal]

sweetlullaby - well done you on not letting him walk all over you
That's what I'm scared of - my ex deciding he wants to see the baby (once he's here) and threatening me if I don't do what he wants

 

[leeanne]

Just reading through these and to all of you!

Sickens me that men don't take an interest in their own flesh and blood. So sad!!! But, in the end, it's their loss and you ladies will get all the love and attention from your LO's

 

[sweetlullaby]

Teal...if he does threaten and harrass you...keep a record of everything you can! My way of looking at it now is that i just dont care and im not letting him scare or intimidate me! If it does end up going to court etc FOB is going to look like a right d*** for harrassing and threatening someone who was just about to give birth and then harrassing and threatening again less than two weeks after giving birth. Also various other things like the fact that he's demanding a dna test. hasnt bought a single thing. hasnt been involved. hasnt even said anything about providing financially etc or offered. At the end of the day i reckon FOB is just going to look like a complete idiot!

 

[KaeRit21]

i had a good christmas, despite the fact it was nearly ruined by FOB's family...his neice was one of my friends on my bebo...ans she took ALL my photos of my wee boy, and added them to assholes profile proclaiming how he was a proud daddy to a precious baby boy!
well i went nuts when i found out, and ordered her to take them ranting about how she had no bloody right, they were set to private for a god damn reason, he hasnt done one thing for him and then went and got bloody locked up!!
well theyve ignored my request for MY pictures to be removed from his profile so im now ignoring all contact requests from them. i cant trust them and as far as im concerned they can make the most of the pics theyve got...its the last theyl see of him...i feel like my memories that i made with Ellis are tarnished somehow now...like he's managed to take something away from me...maybe im being silly...but im feircely over protective of him and i still see it as she had no right to take that away from me.

but even in the midst of all the drama, we had a great xmas and new year...with Ellis sleeping through...um...like, all of it lol. hope everyone had a nice time and i wish us all many happy times for 2010

xxxxx

 

[nievesmama]

Oh hun thats awful, ive had the same done to me with photos but on Facebook.I ended up taking all photos down as they are mine, and why should someone whos seen my LO for all of 10 mins when she was a day old act all proud and use them for sympathy.
Huge hun. As my mum said at the time thats all hes got a few pics, but in a few mths your LO will have changed so much he wouldnt be able to pick them out in a roomful of babies.
But i agree it does tarnish your memories youve made, but you can make new ones.
Glad your Chistmas was ok apart from that x

 

[KaeRit21]

thanks sweetie im glad im not just over reacting!...this is true but those photos were of Ellis's first few days and those are moments that were MINE. idiot even had the CHEEK to put up photos of ME with ellis as well as various other closes friends and family. half of whom he's never bloody met. the git!!!.
angered me even more when i saw all these comments from people who hes been telling that i was just being a bad bitch not letting him see ellis, all going "awww he looks so like his daddy, u must be so proud!" i really struggled not to cry. one, he looks hee haw like him, he so like my brothers and 2, daddy? proud? HA!!!!

ok, im stopping now before i go and get all worked up again lol

xxxx