Hi, 38 with 13 year age gap!

[VICKIMUM]

Hi to everyone

Looking to make some new friend and compare notes!

I am 16 weeks pregnant, and not finding this pregnancy very easy so far! I already have a 12 year old daughter, so it feels like starting all over again. Anyone else in a similar situation?

Very excited, but also very scared. Having problems with raised BP and headaches, and terrified of developing pre-eclampsia.

Would love to chat xx

 

[dragonfly36]

I am 14+3 and my youngest is almost 10. I also have a 13 yr and 18 yr so I am in the same situation. I totally feel like I am starting all over again, beccuse I am, but at least I will have a lot of help.

 

[MamaD]

Hiya! I'll be 38 when the baby comes, and I have a 10 y-o, 12 y-o, 15 y-o, and 18 y-o! I definitely feel like I'm starting from scratch, but at the same time I'm really looking forward to sharing this with my four children. This baby is going to have an audience all the time, and be so spoiled with love!

I've always had high blood pressure during pregnancy, but I'm hoping with all the help I have, that this time will be different. Also, I'm older and wiser so I know to drink loads of fluids, which I didn't always do when I was younger. xx

 

[jojo1972]

I'm 38 and my youngest is almost 16. I already have 2 boys aged 18 and 17 and my daughter is 15. LO is due on her birthday. I've found this pregnancy very difficult so far but so worth it. I've had bleeding been diagnosed with SPD and GD so not an easy time atm lol xxx

 

[seoj]

I'm 37 and pregnant with my first, but have a 14yr old step-daughter at home full time. She is with her Dad and I 90% of the time... only has limited visitation with her mom. So I am her mom really... and been raising her since she was just 9yrs old. I know my hubby feels like he's starting from scratch, but is SO super excited to experience this adventure again in a new way (as he was a single parent for 7yrs before I came along). He has such a close bond with his daughter- and it only makes me more excited to have a new LO running around soon. Our oldest kid is also super excited to FINALLY be a big sissy. Even though I'm sure there will be some "adjustments" with the spot light not being on her all the time... LOL... it just feels like the perfect little piece to complete our puzzle

Hope things get better with your pregnancy... but well worth it in the end regardless.

Best of luck

 

[XxChristinexX]

I`m 38 with a 6 year old son,& found out just a few days ago there is another one on the way. Just when I thought I was getting my independence back,up pops this. Worried sick,scared to death......hopefully neg feelings will fade,been walking around in a daze since I found out

 

[Mrs_X]

im not on this board as im 23, however my little sister was born when i was 12 and i love her to bits! . we are the best of friends and although we live 400 miles apart we talk on the phone every night and gossip .
i really bonded with her by helping my mum change her nappies and feeding her. i gave her lots of cuddles and interacted with her when she was growing up.
now im pregnant, she will be 12 years when baby is born so shes in no position to moan lol.

 

[goodie]

hi I'm 38y an have 4 ds, 17y, 15y, 13y, an 12y. This will b mine an dh's first child together, dh also has 3 children, 15y dd an twin dd an ds who are 12y in nov, feeling very rough so far, never felt like this with an of previous pregnancies hoping things settle down soon, hope every1 doing ok

Amanda xxxx

 

[VICKIMUM]

Thank you all so much for your replies. So nice to know that i am not alone on this journey. I think some people think i am a little crazy with a 13 year age gap, but i really hope it will only bring us closer together as a family. My daughter does seem pleased, but she is very social, and loves to spend time with her friends, which is really good. I just hope its not too much of a shock to her when the baby comes! (and me!!). I have a lovely partner this time around whom I know will give me all the love and support I need.

Wishing everyone all the luck in the world x x

 

[Kas75]

I'm 35, 36 in Dec! My son will be 12 in Aug and we are around 7 weeks preggars at the mo! We had two losses last year so very scared atm and have not really told anyone as sooooo scared DS doesnt even kno yet! Taking things one day at a time right now. Scared and excited with each passing day! H&H 9mths everyone! xxx

 

[Angelic bee]

Hi there, I'm also one with age gap children...well hope will have. I've got a 14 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I'm 8 weeks pregnant and we had a private scan last Friday and we saw a little bean and heard a 125 heart beat! Very excited. My daughter had for many years wanted a brother or sister - she begged me for ages to buy one (she was about 10 at the time) . Think she thought i was Madonna or something. Now i am pregnant she hasn't been as excited as i thought. She said she was getting used to be an only child!
xxx

 

[VICKIMUM]

My daughter is exactly the same as yours. She will be 13 when the baby is due in January, and like you say, does not seem overly excited. She seems more interested in her social life at the moment! I guess this is quite normal, coming into the teenage years. I am sure that they will be thrilled when the babies arrive. I was banking on some help x x

 

[MummyMEE]

HI Vicki! I too am 38 and have a 13 year old, I feel such a novice again!! Everything has changed since I had my son and I am slowly getting used to all the new terminology and equipment around. I will admit to thinking my friend was talking about a vibrator when in fact she was talking about a buggy (Quinny Buzz) LOL. x

 

[miss_amy]

I'm in a similar situation. I am 37 and have older children almost 15, almost 13, and 9. I thought my family was complete but then a little surprise (or should that be shock!)turned up last year and I now have baby Shana.

I can't decide how I feel about it. In one way it feels a lot better, more relaxed and like I know what I'm doing but then worries that this one will grow up almost as an only child. My eldest 2 live with their father close by, my 9 year old was abducted abroad by her father a year ago , long story (maybe I will write about it when I work out which forum to put it in) but she isn't with me right now. Hopefully will be soon. So it's just me and the baby..it is like starting again.

I think it's hard having to deal with teenager issues and baby issues all at once. Sure I have more grey hair!

 

[hadak]

Hi
am 43, pregnant and have an almost 13 year old. Yes it is very much like starting all over again with parenthood! Currently 24 weeks.

 

[Avon]

18 weeks. No easy ride. dont remember having such difficulties first time around. At least I am beginning to feel normal, no metal taste in mouth all day. Sleeping is proving problematic, dont remember so many instructions previously on best sleep positions.

 

[Maple Leaf]

I haven't been on this site since 2009.! We decided to stop TTC after 18 months and I went back on BC. After a DVT scare a few months ago I stopped taking the pill and was waiting for an appointment to have a mirena coil fitted.. Lo and behold I now find myself pregnant! I will be 38 also, with a 13 yr old daughter and a 10 yr old son. My DH and I are still in a daze and can't get our heads around it. We moved to Canada from the UK 4 yrs ago so it will be interesting to see the differences in pre-natal care. I will be due April 12th 2012.

 

[Louise73]

Hi there I'm 38 and have a 17 year old son. Will be 13 weeks tomorrow x

 

[xxembobxx]

I have 2 teenage girls who are wrapped up with their own social lives but love LO to bits (and babysit now and then too!) Also have an 11 yr old DD who is amazing with her little brother, she was always great with babies and toddlers at the nursery when she went to after school club and has excelled in her role as big sister.
It was a bit daunting starting again but it feels so right, still can't believe we have a baby in the house again!

 

[stickybean4]

Hi there! I will be 18 weeks tomorrow. I am 37 with three teenage sons who are 16 17 and 18. they are so excited about this pregnancy. Have you ladies gotten any rude comments. i actually was asked if i was crazy getting pregnant again. i just ignore them