When I had ds 19 months ago my BMI was 35 (the same as this time) and I was never weighed apart from @ my 12 week booking appointment the same as everyone else. I was never weighed again, my weight never even mentioned and I was midwife-led. However, this short time later and they now have a rule that if you have a BMI if 35 or above you have to be consultant-led. I have been so upset about this as I am desperate for a water birth because of my spd. It's what I was planning last time too, but I went 2 weeks over so had to be induced

. But anyway, they will thankfully do reviews here, and finally on Monday I got signed back over to midwife-led!!!! Sooo happy! Basically a while back they did all the checks at a BMI clinic to see if there were any risks because of my weight, or anything that would be difficult, etc... That was all perfectly fine, and I'd had no complications at all, and of course had delivered ok with my last baby, so they said as long as I kept my weight gain to a minimum and baby's growth was normal, I could go midwife-led. So Monday I had a growth scan - baby's size is fine - estimated at 7lb! And my weight gain has only been about 7.5 kilo (god knows how when I'm pretty much immobile due to spd and gave been eating too much chocolate!!!). So yeah, all good for me now

but is shows that you can fight for what you want! At least I was able to here - I know it varies so much from place to place though. Also though, I think it's very strange that they're judging your BMI NOW... Here they just go on whatever your BMI is at 12 weeks... Tbh, they wouldn't even weigh you again here so they'd never know!!!
With regard to labour with a high BMI... I don't think it affected me at all last time. I didn't have the best time due to being induced but I don't think my weight affected it - I actually think I (& my body!) coped very well! I was induced and got to around 7cm without even getting gas & air (wasn't even offered it - got completely ignored tbh and left strapped to a monitor on my back in bed ( which was a nightmare for me with spd) when my waters broke & they couldn't ignore me anymore I went to delivery & got gas & air but then labour stopped progressing do they had to put me on the syntocinon drip - and advised me to have an epidural (due to the drip making the pain way worse), which I agreed to in the end. I also had bad tearing of urethra/labia & internal. It was quite a long hard labour, but that was down to induction and being stuck on my back rather than my weight. I really wouldn't worry Hun... You'll be fine - but do fight the decision if it matters to you x