Highly Annoyed by these Deadbeats

[mamashakesit]

I'm not sure if the hormones are starting to kick in with a vengeance, but the last couple of days, I've been finding myself extremely irritated with not only my ex, but also with all the guys I read about on here or who I know who don't take care of their kids.

What is WRONG with these men? How can anyone possibly find it OK to ditch the mother of their child and leave them with a ton of responsibility while they go live it up in bars, screw other woman and ride their $40,000 motorcycle around (that last one is especially for the ex) but not contribute a cent towards the care of their child?

Do they not take a look around at men who have done this in the past and see what sad, sorry losers these guys turn out to be? And while I'm ranting away, how about the women that date them? I can understand somewhat if you are young and dumb...I went through my share of losers myself, but seriously...some of these women are old enough to know better.

I guess our pound of flesh is that they'll regret it someday. They always do. I'm not sure if I've ever heard of or know of a guy who hasn't. I'm so pissed off, so hurt and so bewildered as to why anyone could or would do this. Thanks for letting me release some rage. I'm going through a rough spot.

 

[surprisebaby]

it gets me really angry too! my fob doesn't want any responsibilty for our child. doesn't want to ever see her and hasn't paid a penny. i find it disgusting so totally agree with what you are saying.

has this happened to you then?

 

[mamashakesit]

Well, the ex left me at 7 weeks pregnant. He was supposedly really excited, as he spent his entire childhood in foster care. He's been dating one bar fly in particular (who is a twice divorced 39-year-old with 2 teenagers), who he apparently dumped to come back to me and be a father and have a family. Just a couple of weeks later, I found texts on his phone from both her and another woman (supposedly the wife of the guy that bought a motorcycle he fixed and sold...rigggghhht). After he didn't even call me on Mother's Day, I sent him a few vile texts about what a piece of s**t he is and how I would have the a beautiful baby in 6 months and all he'd have is a used up bar skank, etc, etc (lots of rage in those texts, lol). He's since changed his phone number and I haven't heard from him in a week. I'm still pretty pissed and hurt. I know I'll feel better in a few weeks...but I'm still on the dark side right now.

 

[scottishgal89]

i know how you feel. i get so angry about some threads i read to. its so unfair that they act like this.
try not to take it to heart and concentrate on you and lo.
as for your ex. just leave him be. its his loss hunni. try not to send abusive messages or anything because it could come back on you at a later date.
hope you start to feel better soon xx

 

[Laura2919]

I'm actually one of the lucky ones. Chloe and Jaycee's dad would fight me all the way for them. He wouldnt ever give up although he admitted he came close a few times cos I havent been the easiest of people just simply because he is a sly wind up merchant lol!!

Lol. Anyway, I do still get annoyed at some of the posts and wish I could conk their heads together.. I wouldnt be without the girls I dont know how they do it!! ARGH men!

 

[surprisebaby]

Well, the ex left me at 7 weeks pregnant. He was supposedly really excited, as he spent his entire childhood in foster care. He's been dating one bar fly in particular (who is a twice divorced 39-year-old with 2 teenagers), who he apparently dumped to come back to me and be a father and have a family. Just a couple of weeks later, I found texts on his phone from both her and another woman (supposedly the wife of the guy that bought a motorcycle he fixed and sold...rigggghhht). After he didn't even call me on Mother's Day, I sent him a few vile texts about what a piece of s**t he is and how I would have the a beautiful baby in 6 months and all he'd have is a used up bar skank, etc, etc (lots of rage in those texts, lol). He's since changed his phone number and I haven't heard from him in a week. I'm still pretty pissed and hurt. I know I'll feel better in a few weeks...but I'm still on the dark side right now.

i'm sorry you feel like that. it hurts so much when you're treated so badly when you're pregnant. i know i craved the support of the father of my baby and it would have made me so happy if we could have had this little family together. but instead my fob ignored me and stopped all communication with me.... its not how you imagine your pregnancy to be is it? the thing is you can't change how someone else acts.

it is horrible cos you imagined that you would both be together and he seemed to really want that at the start and now he is acting like this. instead of being with you and potentially being really happy he is dating this skanky bar (maid?) and ruining something that could have been so special between the two of you. and with mothers day been and gone that was opportunity for him to show that he cared....

but i am sort of going through a similar thing. i want that support and attention, but it doesn't happen.... so i suppose we just have to find it from else where.

i don't know if this makes any sense. trying to write whilst breast feeding!

xxx

 

[mamashakesit]

It would be so much easier if I could just get it out of my mind for awhile...it's just always there. Even though I'm working all the time during our busy season at fun events, it's still in the corner of my mind. And even when I'm planting one of my 10 zillion flower gardens, which is my favorite de-stresser, it's still there. I go to bed with it on my mind, I have nightmares about him, I wake up with it on my mind. It's exhausting. Hopefully soon it will mellow out a bit. And that's probably when he'll start calling and want in again...*******...lol.