Honest opinions girls.....

[emaritska]

Hi all,

Hope all mummies, kiddies, babies and bumps are doing well x
Some of you may know we recently welcomed baby no 3 into the world (now 18weeks) and I'm surprised at how many people are saying to me "hope your finished!" "3 is plenty" "you don't do pregnancy well quit whilst you're ahead" etc etc

I always really wanted 4 and still do (dh may take some convincing ) but everyone seems so against it in a very judgemental way as opposed to a caring /concerned about preemie way .......
financially I don't need to work so I'm at home with the babies, we do so much fun stuff, always have 1:1 time (th through careful planning) etc i honestly feel I have enough attention and love to go around another one.....

What do you guys think? Is 4 too many?

 

[AP]

It's never too many - its just about whats right for you and your family. Sod others opinions! It's not them bringing up your children!

 

[emaritska]

Thanks Hun!!! I feel that way (90% of the time) but occasionally get worried about others reactions or feeling like I need to justify myself! We've been lucky that although all have been early, none severely so, and all are healthy. It is likely the next would be early just because of the pattern I've followed with the other 3 however I'd be hopeful of making it to at least 35 weeks again

 

[Srrme]

I wouldn't listen to them. 4 is not that many! Your family is complete when you say it is.

 

[jandksmommy]

You and your hubby do exactly what you want! It is no one else's business at all. My last baby (#3) was a micropreemie and is our wonderful little miracle. Since she was born, I have heard the same thing over and over again... "You are done right? No point risking another preemie!", "You will make sure that there is no more pregnancies right?". I am so tired of it!!! We have no intentions of adding to our family but that is just not anyone else's business. I find these repeated comments to be extremely offensive.

To be honest, I would have loved a fourth but Reese being born at 23 weeks and the long 4 months in the NICU ended that dream. I just couldn't go through that again so am over-joyed with my 3 beautiful children.

 

[ihave5boys]

I am on number 7. Yes i wanted them all but some came when we werent pkanning on them. I told husband when we were sitill innfriend stage i wanted 8. But #2 was born at 33 weeks. And i had fFN test come back posituve a week ago. Now husband telling me he done. I tell him we will talk about that in a few years after i havent been preg for awhile and see if my feelungs are the same or not. But his parents asked him when he was getting fixed after he told tgem we were preg with #2. Before i had my last my dad said he was scared to see me have anymore only cause i type 2 diabetic. I never have alot of issues during preg. But i get unvimfy faster because i have had this many. But the thing tgat bugs my husband isthat peopke think our sex life is free to talk about because we have 6+kids. Go with what ypu want not everybody else.

Vicki

 

[kit10grl]

I get this too. That we shouldn't have another cos there is a slightly higher chance they could end up 'like her' meaning DD and her genetic condition. When we explained we might still have another it then became oh well at least they can test for it now they know what to look for. Meaning we could not continue the pregnancy if the baby was affected. No one seems to get it would be too late for me by then, I would already be having another baby

 

[JJKCB]

my mam says the same to me (I only have 1 and hes 5) I just ignore her even though I want to scream at her