hormonal worrying and teary

[laura109]

I always worry about my partner being safe. He travels all over for work and is often in the streets at night or travelling late. I always worry he might get attacked whilst walking you see horrible things on the news so much these days. I keep worrying when hes driving too i am scared hell crash because his job puts him under constant pressure. Early starts and late finishs are getting him down. He has not taken a week off for a year but luckily hes requested one this week.

I am constantly worrying about my family and friends being safe too. I just know nowheres safe anymore. Ive been having bad dreams in the night too. How can i shake of these horrible thoughts

 

[noon_child]

I always worry about my partner being safe. He travels all over for work and is often in the streets at night or travelling late. I always worry he might get attacked whilst walking you see horrible things on the news so much these days. I keep worrying when hes driving too i am scared hell crash because his job puts him under constant pressure. Early starts and late finishs are getting him down. He has not taken a week off for a year but luckily hes requested one this week.

I am constantly worrying about my family and friends being safe too. I just know nowheres safe anymore. Ive been having bad dreams in the night too. How can i shake of these horrible thoughts

Sounds like you have always been a worrier but now your hormones have exacerbated it all.

I just know nowheres safe anymore

Was there a time you though places were safe? What has changed?

I could quote statistics at you about how we (humans) are actually living at the safest time ever in history right now. We have vaccinations, excellent medical care, access to clean water, armies to fight our battles for us; and cars are the safest they've ever been with anti-lock brakes and computers that control how the car reacts in a skid, air bags, seat belts etc. but I don't think any of this will stop you worrying. You are trying to get to a point where you can "know" that everyone is safe, but really we can never know, and learning to accept the unknown is the key to letting go of worry.

I had CBT for excessive worrying and it was really helpful, but it took me a while to access the right counsellor for the right amount of time (usually you just get six sessions in the UK but I found a scheme where you got 24 sessions!).

 

[seoj]

I do think worry is one of THE more wasted emotions... but obviously, we ALL worry from time to time... I have anxiety, so it's something I've worked on over the years... and when major life events have occured, that for sure makes it harder to control (especially after my Mom passed). I will say that counseling and meds have really helped... I was resistent to meds tbh. So I just pushed through and dealt- but, at the end of the day, I was tired of feeling overwhelmed ALL the time... it was this underlying feeling that was always there. And usually I did well at hiding it (denial yup)- but, I realized I wanted to feel better... to better react to my anxiety and just be an overall happier version of ME! I was me- but not the me I should of been for my family. If that makes any sense? But now- I'm able to handle things better and stay calmer in stressful situations. It's not like I never stress - nothing is a magic cure, but I feel better overall. And counseling is a great outlet as well-- also working out, taking a break and breathe when needed etc... as life is busy! Crazy! And full of the unexpected- and there will never be any guarantees... but I can't control that. Only my reaction to it all.

Just look into options- find things that help YOU hun. It's about what helps you and your situation... but there are options for sure. Best of luck!

 

[Scottish mum]

Don't be alarmed but there's a condition for that ! I had this when lo was first born but it passed very quickly. I use to worry that lo would get I'll, or have an accident I would invision us getting involved in car accidents and it was awful. I use to worry so much. Your heads a powerful thing! I'm sure it's attached to anxiety.

If it's unbearable I would suggest see your gp. I think it's how you handle this emotion that tells you if you think you should seek some help. Xx