Hormones leading to bad decisions

[crownest]

So I had myself prepared to have my baby thousands of miles from friends and family while my husband worked away for 10 days home for 5. I have all my baby stuff. Now my husband has been laid off and we are talking about returning home but I have now set my heart on it. I'm 23 weeks so time is ticking to safely fly and pack up. The thing is I think I now want to go even if my husband gets another job, I'm unsure of weather I'm making a rationale decision or is it the hormones. If I stay i will have little help and quite possible be practically housebound due to my joints and -30 weather, if I go home my MIL and SIL are 5 minutes away and I only be 3 hours from my family but we will have to share an apt with my BIL for few months before we can move back to my apartment. My head is spinning

 

[LilianA]

Personally i prefer to be in my own place and do things my way with out I laws interference..but ive been living this way for so long i am so used to it..why dont you just leave it to see if he gets a job or not

 

[crownest]

I should clarify that I get on really well with my IL so living near them is a plus, they respect boundaries yet are always there for me. They really are like my other family. When my husband worked away I used to go for Sunday dinner I usually ended up staying an extra night or two.

 

[BunnyN]

It would be a shame not to be close to your husband during the time you have your baby and during its first months. A baby is only little once, you don't realise until after how fast that time passes, and you don't get it back again. I can totally understand why you would want to be closer to the support of family and friends though. I think it is sensible to want both husband and family close, not just the hormones speeking. You are just feeling torn because you are in a position of choosing between the two. I don't know what your circumstances are so can't say what you should do but loosing his job and new baby on the way might be a good time to talk about making changes, even if it means him having a not such good job close to where your family live? It would be a good idea to at least tellhim how you are feeling.

 

[crownest]

I think we are leaning to both of us going home ☺