how are things with...

[Lau88]

Your partners atm? Is your relationship still going strong or has it kind of hit the rocks?

bit nosy i know, but im just interested as mine seems to have changed.

 

[Rcx]

Me and hubby have been arguing a little bit at the moment but over stupid stuff. I feel like he's not helping me out as much as he was in the beginning and it's as if it was all a novelty at the start and now he's not as bothered.
But I know it's mainly hormonal so I'm not too worried.
Hope things are ok with you x

 

[firefly15]

We're arguing a lot more than normal. DH seems to have a bad case of the pregnancy hormones too and I can do nothing right at the moment If he has to wash a plate or wipe the side for any reason he's flying into a temper that I haven't done it and constantly making comments about me not pulling my weight which is annoying the hell out of me. I have sciatica at the moment and I asked him to change the bed for me this weekend as it hurts like anything for me to do it at the moment. His reaction? Why should I have to do it, you're the one at home all day

I think it's a combination of me being annoyed more easily due to hormones and him being a moody arse because I'm not 'putting out' at the moment due to feeling sore, tired and huge. Hopefully it will calm down a bit soon as he's driving me insane with his moodiness. He definitely seems to have sympathy symptoms!

 

[Lau88]

Im not even arguing with oh but we just can't seem to stand each other atm. I don't feel like he does much with our 2 year old other than wind her up when I've just calmed her down. He has bought nothing or prepared in no way for new baby and doesn't seem like that will change any time soon. We've barely spoke all weekend, he came to bed at 2 ish morning waking dd so while he went to bed it was me that had to get up and see to her, just as it was me that had to get up with her when she woke for the day. I know a lot of it is hormones but there's stuff I've not mentioned that tbh make me wonder if there'll be a relationship by time baby arrives.

 

[EmzyJA]

Funny you asked actually. Mine is driving me nuts!!! Moody all the time, hasn't been particularly nice to our daughter, doesn't show me much love or anything at the moment. Tried talking to him tonight and his excuse is he works too much and is always tired. Blah blah. That excuse doesn't wash with me. He needs to sort himself out. I know he's never perfect but I think it's bothering me more at the moment. I know I'm not going to get much help from him when this baby arrives as it's always going to be the same excuses. He seems to think I laze on my bum all day whilst he's working but that's not the case. I try to get everything done so when he is home we can spend time together. Think I'm feeling a bit down and a bit lonely anyways. Ah that's life though ay.

 

[MummyToAmberx]

It always changed in pregnancy for us.
Always goes back to normal for us after the birth

 

[mrspeanut]

Some days we really pull together and get loads done - we're hoping to move house within the month so we're packing around looking after the kids, housework and working. Other times we're tired and running on empty and snap at each other. He doesn't get ds1 a lot of the time and they wind each other up and argue, that annoys me because ds1 is only 3! Ridiculous!

 

[vickyandchick]

Oh lord, hit the rocks is putting it lightly.
My OH left because he couldn't deal with everything, he said he still feels the same way about me and that it's work and missing his family so he doesn't want to be with me anymore.
Makes perfect sense. NOT.
Everyone says he's just having a meltdown and to wait for it all to blow over but, quite frankly, if he can turn around and leave when I'm 5 months pregnant with his son then I'm never going to trust him again.
He has no money as his bills are so expensive and has not bought anything nor contributed to any purchases yet even though he said he'd pay for the pram
He was always so tired and stressed so hardly ever showed me any affection and made pathetic excuses for his behaviour.

Time apart is helping but I don't know, for us to get any better he's going to have to change a lot of things. I know he's looking for another job and to change his car so it's steps in the right direction but I'm not about to wait around.

 

[Lau88]

Nice to see I'm not alone, not that I wish grumpy men on any of you but you know what I mean. I'm not convinced it will change after birth, it didn't first time it actually got worse. Having said that there were a lot of outside influences, but even though he promises it'll be different this time it seems like it's going the same way.

 

[EmzyJA]

What's with these men ay??

Mrspeanut, my husband is the same with our daughter and she's 3 too. He always winds her up then wonders why she doesn't go to him for cuddles etc. it's drives me mad, it's like having two kids already.

I've spent my evening trying to cheer him up and maybe get some conversation but just feel like I'm being ignored. Makes me feel crap!! He's off for 5 days now! Help me!!! Lol

 

[Hoping4Four]

Stronger than ever over here!

We had some really rough times during my last pregnancy and since then my DH has made a LOT of effort to change for the better, so now this time round it's amazing. He even quit smoking 8 weeks ago and I couldn't be more proud of him!!

 

[TryinFor1]

We argued a lot when pregnant with my son (apparently I was hard to deal with) and it really escalated after he was born, almost to the point of divorce. Then...I got pregnant again. We decided not to divorce but we did start seeing a counsellor and its actually helping a lot. We don't argue nearly as much. We did yesterday but it wasn't that bad. Were on a road to relationship recovery but the pregnancy has helped our relationship this time.

 

[mrspeanut]

What's with these men ay??

Mrspeanut, my husband is the same with our daughter and she's 3 too. He always winds her up then wonders why she doesn't go to him for cuddles etc. it's drives me mad, it's like having two kids already.

Lol I told them both off today for arguing with each other! Ds1 is a bright button and he knows how to get a rise out of dh. He plays him up big time. I wonder why dh doesn't learn??!! You're right, it's like having another child!

 

[Jinga]

I'm sorry so many of you are having difficulty dealing with your partners!

The relationship between my husband and I is pretty much the same it's always been, which is pretty good since we both generally have a chilled out personality. We aren't really the type to fight, pregnant or not. Honestly, I think we may actually be a bit better now that I'm pregnant. It was VERY stressful to be TTC for so long, so we are both delighted and relieved now! I admit he doesn't always do as much at home as I'd like (at least not without me asking a few times), but he's excellent at kid-duty on the weekends so I can have some quiet time to nap, run errands, read, etc. He may not EVER empty the dishwasher or cook dinner, but he's a devoted father and husband so I can look past the little things at what's more important ... like him running out to get me ice cream for my urgent cravings

 

[BabsJ]

Right now, we are doing great again. But about 4 weeks ago we hit rock bottom. A long complicated story why( I wont bore you with), but it was a combination of him and me getting on each others nerves, he suffers from depression, him missing his daughter, me being a little bitch when I felt so sick in the first trimester and money problems etc. Basically I wasn't very easy to live with and I admitted that. He hasn't.. yet. Oh well. He took a breather for a week and to see his daughter and ever since that we are doing better. There are certain things he did I wont forget and cant forgive right now, I might change my mind in the near future about that. ( like him " walking out" on me while 6 months pregnant is a bit hard to grasp still).

Right now, we are feeling happy again and looking forward to the birth of our baby boy.

 

[cupcaker]

Hmm well coincidently I've had a shit day relationship wise. Yesterday I had a rare couple of hours without oh or my one year old. I spent the time blitzing the spare bedroom ready for baby #2, which admittedly included possibly too much heavy lifting and lugging around but I was feeling determined and nesty. Today I wanted to just have an easy going day. I picked up some paint at diy store with my son then came home to my oh just getting up at around 1pm! Later some comments arrived about how he must have really needed the sleep! So red mist was already setting in as I barely Ever get to sleep in. Later, he starts tweeting on about why my clothes weren't put away and other such bitchy moans suggesting any mess and clutter is all down to me. My reaction was very ott Having busted a gut yesterday so yes I was feeling sensitive, but actually regardless, I do far far more than my share the whole time. I cleared all my things away (so more lifting abd carrying, cutting my nose off to spite my face) and piled anything of his I could possibly find in a large, obnoxious and unhelpful pile in our bedroom (guitars, books,gaming crap etc). I am very quick to lose it at the mo as he isn't doing nearly enough to support me.

 

[MommyFirefly]

It's been about the same! DH has an awful case of "pregnancy hormones" from time to time and gets snappy/moody, but it passes quickly.

 

[VickyLou]

I'm in the same boat. The first 12 weeks he was so good and caring towards me. He wouldn't let me lift a finger around the house ( my GP did order me to bed rest though) the last week or so though we have had a couple of arguments, to the point I've ended up in tears. I'm bit a cryer so I guess that's hormones. I hope it doesn't continue for much longer cause I'm terrified about stressing baby out, he doesn't seem to grasp that though.

 

[caitlyn2009]

Things are great between my OH and I... we have our occasional disagreements, but that is no different than before I became pregnant. Someone on my FB just shared this story and it really hit home for me.... maybe you ladies will feel the same

https://www.scissortailsilk.com/2014/01/24/before-you-were-mommy/

 

[MamaLa]

Currently feeling ignored by my boyfriend, and very unappreciated. He really went 36 hours without calling or checking in on me. I know that he's visiting with family, but its like he forget about his budding family over here. Gosh. Very sad and emotional over here definitely thought he was laying in a ditch somewhere.

I've been wanting to look at stuff for the nursery, but he obviously doesn't want to be involved. Well that's at least how I feel.