Nosy_Cow
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We had a discussion early on about a home birth and he was really up for it. I mentioned it to my MW yesterday and she said as long as my 20 week scan is clear she shouldn't see a problem with a home birth. I've got to go back just after my 20 week scan to see her and if we're still up for it we will be referred to the home birthing team who will take over my care.
I told OH all this last night and now he's not so sure. He keeps saying things like "I'd prefer you in a hospital!" and "What if something goes wrong?" I've tried explaining to him that I'll have 2 MW's present at the birth with a bottle of gas & air. I've told him if anything went wrong the MW's would make sure I'd get to the hospital quickly and that I can back out of it at any stage!
I think his main reason is because I had a long and hard labour with our first daughter. She was an ethical prenatal loss at 25 weeks. I was in labour for 14 hours after being induced and was pretty out of it for most of that time. But I had the choice of drugs then and I will only have gas and air this time so hopefully won't be so out of it! Also I'm hoping for a hynobirth this time!
2 slight problems we do have - we live in a 2nd floor flat (2 flights of stairs) and the hospital is 30 minutes drive away.
Have you got any tips on trying to convince him a home birth is better? Or should I be considering a hospital birth - baring in mind the stairs and drive? Should I give in to him and have a hospital birth?
Sorry for the long post!
I told OH all this last night and now he's not so sure. He keeps saying things like "I'd prefer you in a hospital!" and "What if something goes wrong?" I've tried explaining to him that I'll have 2 MW's present at the birth with a bottle of gas & air. I've told him if anything went wrong the MW's would make sure I'd get to the hospital quickly and that I can back out of it at any stage!
I think his main reason is because I had a long and hard labour with our first daughter. She was an ethical prenatal loss at 25 weeks. I was in labour for 14 hours after being induced and was pretty out of it for most of that time. But I had the choice of drugs then and I will only have gas and air this time so hopefully won't be so out of it! Also I'm hoping for a hynobirth this time!
2 slight problems we do have - we live in a 2nd floor flat (2 flights of stairs) and the hospital is 30 minutes drive away.
Have you got any tips on trying to convince him a home birth is better? Or should I be considering a hospital birth - baring in mind the stairs and drive? Should I give in to him and have a hospital birth?
Sorry for the long post!