How do u cope/handle with dickhead FOB's? Rant & advice needed please!

[xSophieBx]

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[RiverSong]

It sounds like it's all part of their control, or trying to gain some anyway. Just try and ignore their comments and stick to your guns don't let them con you into anything. And as her primary care giver, if you dont think he will look after her properly dont let him see her for prolonged periods. Her well being comes first and he may be the father but that doesnt mean he is capable.

Sorry i couldnt be more help. Stay strong.xxxx

 

[laura1991]

Just ignore him aslong as you don't feel comfortable she doesn't have to go anywhere! He doesn't deserve her! Don't let him get to you, just concentrate on your beautiful little girl. He should be greatful your letting him be her life!
I can't believe his family didnt buy her proper presents! How can you resist buying her clothes and toys! There pathetic! Xx

 

[GersPrincess]

Oh flower, it really sounds like he is just dragging more family members into this in a desperate attempt to piss you off... Maybe he feels like his usual methods aren't having the same effect on you anymore?

If it were me in this situation, I'd be tempted to text back and say that no, I hadn't wondered where her presents were, given that she is only a few month's old and has no concept of gifts/who's bought or spent what etc, and I'd also say something like, how nice it was of them to already be thinking a few years down the line as most people just buy age appropriate gifts, rather than thinking long term...... All said majorly sarcastically btw !

As for advice on how ti deal with fob, I haven't anything useful to say. I've not seen my ex for 5 years now. Last time I saw him he made me so mad, I almost ran him over!!

I hope things get better for you, but in the meantime, at least Lily has one super parent, and that's all babies need xx

 

[xSophieBx]

Thankyou for the replies Calmed down abit now hehe, I need to stay strong for Lilys sake xx

 

[18singlemom2b]

your daughter is so beautiful first of all!

also, i know how you feel...FOB's can be so stupid, seems like their only goal is to try and ruin everyones lives. i totally can understand how you feel. hopin things get better for you xoxo

 

[leoniebabey]

bigs i know how it is to be controlled.
Be strong and be firm. I would be tempted to text back and say, lovely thought but you may as well not bother as she wont be staying

 

[AppleBlossom]

Another controlling fob here too. I take no notice now tbh. He also said he has bought furniture for her room when she was about 1. She's Now 2.5 and yet to use it. Just ignore it. I wouldn't let him have unsupervised access to her just yet either, he sounds like the kind of guy who would do a bunk with her. He needs to sort himself out, you need to tell him that and make sure he knows there will be no overnight contact either

 

[bw1691]

another overdemanding one here too.
after three months you can see he still doesnt look relaxed even just holding him. The look on his face when he starts to cry used to be funny because it was like what on earth do i do with this, but its getting a lot less funny now. He wants me to leave baby with him to "give me a break i do too much" but ive said over and over again the looking after him part is easy and my favourite thing to do, its the having someone on your back the whole time who isnt supporting you thats the hard part. He lives with his parents with no spare bed or bedroom and even they all have been saying you'll have to come and stay over sometimes? where? on the sofa? im another one, you can forget it until he's four, and I'd still have to be forced unless God creates some miracle that turns him into someone who acts like a dad! xx

 

[littlekitten8]

I've been quite lucky recently cos FOB has decided to just pretend he doesn't have a son. But he was like this. Constantly demanding to take J back to his parents house etc. He is barely 23 and a complete waste of space. He hasn't even seen his son in a year yet he seems to think I'm just going to hand him over! Yeah right! Stay strong hunni. Don't let him get you down. He can't force you into anything and no court will grant overnight access until the child is old enough to tell you what happens if anything does. My niece didn't start overnight access until she was 4 years old.