How do you date as a single mom?

[Mommy2B08]

LO is with me almost all the time and I just don't feel comfortable having her around anyone I'm dating especially if it's not serious. So what do you do? How do you make time to date? I can't get someone to watch her all the time and then even if I do go out once in a while I start feeling guilty. It's just like a loose loose situation for me.

 

[mom94]

I have the same problem, I love my son. But I dont want to be single my whole life. I go out only when someone wants to spend time with him and offers. I take it as a offering, I'm not pushing my son on anyone and he gets to spend time with family. There's no feeling gulity, moms need time away from our little ones lol. Theres no shame in that fact. Just let it take its course and remember if it does get serious is the man capable of helping and being a good parent, not now but in the long run?

 

[Dream.dream]

I use to get a baby sitter once a week to go out . The rest of the time is talk on the phone or computer , FaceTime . And then of it's a bit more serious have them over after LO is in be for the night .

It's not easy and you don't always get a lot of time but I figures it's better because it weeds out anyone who isn't worth it. If they can't handle working around what's best for LO then they get the boot

 

[Becky61]

With difficulty!

Luckily FOB is in LOs life, and has him overnight once a week. I make time to date then. We occasionally want other nights out, like at the weekend (FOB has him overnight mid week every week) and i pay my sister an hourly rate. He occasionally comes over after LO has gone to bed too.

I used to feel guilty. But im a woman as well as a mum. And seeing my now BF, makes me happy, being a happy mum=a happy baby. Please dont feel guilty. The times i go out at the weekend and get my sister to sit, LO is in bed anyway, so he isnt missing out on time with me.

You will know when you feel ready. After 9 months of never leaving my LO, i needed a break. I felt guilty at first, and still do sometimes when i look forward to my night out, getting ready etc.

But we had a life before our LOs, no man will ever come between me & my son. But you need to be "you" again once in a while.

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