How do you deal with the anxiety of pregnancy after mc?

[Mrs Dragonfly]

I had a mc in August, on Monday I found out we're pregnant again. Mixed emotions of joy and fear. How do you deal with the anxiety of a previous mc? I know that many women go on to have a full term pregnancy after a mc, but I'm just so scared it'll happen again. Every time I'm at the bathroom I'm checking and every cramp or twinge makes me freeze up.

 

[xxmyheartxx]

I've just found out today, after 2 back to back losses, I'm absolutely petrified if I'm honest. If I could stick my head in the sand until 2nd tri I would be doing that. Sending lots of positive sticky baby dust to you

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

Thank you, lots of sticky dust to you too. I hope our nerves settle down soon

 

[ttc126]

I had a chemical, 2 mc and then got pregnant again. I ended up losing that one too, after all looked well, but really all you can do is decide to be positive and not worry about it. Worry changes nothing. You have every chance of success. The same as someone who has not had a miscarriage. Focus on the positive. Tell yourself that it's a new pregnancy and repeat loss is not common.

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

Thank you TTC, I'm sorry for your losses. It's true, worry changes nothing and just makes us feel like crap. I'm pregnant today, thankful and pray that I'll be pregnant tomorrow too.

 

[ttc126]

I truly believe everything will be fine this time! I'll include you in my prayers.

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

You are so kind TTC, thank you.

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi ladies
I am in the same boat. Have had 3 losses already with no children and and pregnant again 6+4 and I am petrified.
I have my first ultrasound tomorrow morning and I am dreading the outcome. All my symptoms are fading. Just like last time. I have spent the weekend in tears preparing for the news. But at least this time I am aware and it won't be as much of a nasty shock like my last MMC.
Praying I get a happy surprise. I would be so shocked if anything is there as my intuition is saying otherwise.
Pregnancy after a loss is so tough. It's the waiting around which is the worst. I'm sure you agree

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

Trying I'll be keeping you in prayers for a great scan tomorrow

 

[Trying4first1]

Ladies I have good news.
Scan went well. I am measuring a few days behind but got told it's normal for so early on. She adjusted my EDD due to my cycle being slightly longer at 31 days. So my measurements are not far out at all it turns out
I was in tears the moment I walked in the room. Then when she said there was a heartbeat I was so shocked! Was the best thing ever.
We are not out of the woods yet but it's a start. Next scan is in two weeks. Praying for more growth between now and then.

 

[xxmyheartxx]

Ladies I have good news.
Scan went well. I am measuring a few days behind but got told it's normal for so early on. She adjusted my EDD due to my cycle being slightly longer at 31 days. So my measurements are not far out at all it turns out
I was in tears the moment I walked in the room. Then when she said there was a heartbeat I was so shocked! Was the best thing ever.
We are not out of the woods yet but it's a start. Next scan is in two weeks. Praying for more growth between now and then.

Thats fantastic news hun, huge congratulations xx

 

[Trying4first1]

Thank you. It's the best thing that's happened to us all year xx

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

That's fantastic news!! Praying baby just keeps growing and growing!

 

[floridamomma]

Just remember today you are pregnant. Today you and baby are ok. Unfortunately after miscarriage we don't get to be "expecting a baby" we get rock be "pregnant". We take it day by day and that's all we can do.

 

[Trying4first1]

I agree.
I literally take it day by day and am thankful for each day. I am not even looking forward to the next scan as I know it can all go wrong. I look forward to just spending each day with my baby inside of me x