How do you get through your sisters baby announcement

[sharpie8383]

I found out yesterday that my sister was pregnant and hit felt like someone punched me in my stomach. How do I feel happy for her? A little backstory...my sister has always felt that the world revolves around her, that she is entitled to everything. I have struggled for everything I have and worked hard my entire life because I always felt like if it was something that I wanted I needed to figure out how to do it and I didn't want to put that burden on my parents but everything always was given to her or she found a loop hole to get what she wanted.

I want to be happy for her I really do but it is really hard. What really made me feel even worse is that my sister couldn't even be bothered to say anything to me and was mad because I was upset when she knows my struggles. My mom even wanted her to say something to me, like it's going to be okay you will have one when it's your time or something like that and her response was "what do you want me to say I'm sorry...that's the stupidest thing I've ever heard" and she walked out and slammed the door.

She doesn't even like kids she thinks they are annoying. She can't even be bothered to take care of her dogs. She brings him to my parents house and leaves him there for months.

My heart breaks a little everytime I hear and announcementertainment but yesterday I felt like my whole heart broke...how do you deal with it

 

[msbene]

((( HUGS )))

This is a very tough situation and my heart breaks for you. I'm thinking of and praying for you...

(sorry I havent figured out the smileys, else I would place some here)

 

[abennion]

You fake a smile and cry when you're alone with DH. I've had three SILs announce pregnancies in the time we've been trying (18 months), and two of them have given birth. My MIL gratefully had the insight to warn me before SIL #2 announced her BFP a week after we had our CP. I cried all day, got it all out of my system, and then was able to pretend I was happy long enough and then disappear with my nieces and nephews out of sight.

Hang in there *hugs*

 

[sharpie8383]

Thank you for your replies and your kind wordz...my sister and I have always had a complicated relationship so its really hard but I know I'll come around eventually I just don't think it is going to be soon because of things that have happened this past year and how she treated my mom.

 

[VivaLaMrs]

 

[MissDoc]

I agree, you smile and wish her congratulations, and then you cry and process on your own with your partner and friends. We really struggled with conceiving, and it was really hard to watch family and friends get pregnant with kids they weren't even trying for or didn't want (or need, in some cases). Now I'm on the other side in that it finally happened for us, and it's really heartbreaking to watch those of my friends who are struggling with TTC or repeated losses because I so desperately want this for them too, and it makes me feel a little guilty. TTC and fertility struggles and then even pregnancy afterward, it's all so stressful and difficult. I'm sorry you're going through this and I so hope that when it does happen for you, it's all that much sweeter. Good Luck!