How do you keep up the momentum?

[wannabemummyb]

Does anyone else find that LTTTC takes all the passion out of a relationship?

We've been trying for 4.5years now, dh has been having some anxiety performance issues and I hate to say it but I just don't enjoy bd anymore. We only seem to do it around fertile window and don't at other times.

Is it just me? Please tell me we're normal! Lol

 

[MnGmakes3]

My H also has PE, borderline ED (I think) and it seems it's only worse when he knows it's time. I try not to tell him but if it slips or he sees an opk in the garbage he freaks out for a few days. Cialis helps him only slightly, most days it's a waste of $.

Try to keep your head up girl! I can definitely relate that is not easy. We've only been TTC for a year so in comparison to you that's nothing but I still feel that everything happens for a reason. Have you guys tried any of the rx drugs? ?

 

[wannabemummyb]

My dh is borderline ED too, he's even seen a doc about it as we were worried it was prostate or something but the doc basically said its in his head. It only started once we started trying.

I try to hide fertile time from him too but it just means he's even less likely to want to bd! It ends up in a vicous circle as he freaks then it doesnt work well, so he won't try because he thinks it won't work.

He also doesn't want me to take clomid or anything yet, as hormones etc seem to properly muck my body up.

The FS we were seeing was useless, they don't seem to voluntarily put you forward for tests etc in the uk, you have to fight for everything!

Sorry to hear you are going through the same. I hope you get your bfp soon x

 

[MnGmakes3]

It sounds like I could have written that to the T!! My H says the same thing about it being in his head. He's seen a Urologist and told him that as well.

With us though he'll be ok for a day or two and then he thinks it won't work again, gets himself all worked up and it's a vicious cycle just like you said!!

It's so good to know there's others in the same situation. I feel so helpless some days for him mostly I wish I could fix it.
Can you try to talk to him into Cialis? It's iffy but like I said does work 90% of the time.

 

[wannabemummyb]

His GP has actually prescribed viagra to him to help him out.

Mines the same as yours, will be fine for a bit then get it into his head things won't work, gets in a state then bingo it doesn't work.

It is great to find someone else who understands....i also want to fix it and try so hard not to get frustrated with him x

 

[MnGmakes3]

Be careful with the viagra. We found that his BP skyrockets and he gets major headaches. Plus, it worked for the first few times and then stopped working all together.

I hope you guys have better luck with it though!

 

[wannabemummyb]

He found the same with the BP and headaches, so takes half a tablet, which reduces that but still seems to help him x