how do you know

[Mynxie]

when it's time to give up?

is there a time to give up?

I dunno, just feeling very disheartened by it all atm, 3 years almost and 2 MCs....and a very dodgy fertility doctor who doesn't bloody listen....but I'm restricted to the fertility treatments anyways cause of the RSD....

oh I dunno, just random thoughts

 

[AquaDementia]

don't give up. find another doctor who is more sympathetic and who can understand how much all that means to you.

 

[Mynxie]

huni, I'm under the best clinic in the north east, but I don't get to choose the doc unless I go private, which I suppose is an option but if I go NHS with them first, it'll drastically reduce the cost....but I'm not sure that they can safely do anything...I mean I lost the full use of my arm cause I had blood taken...dread to think what some of the other stuff will do to my stupid body, I hate my stupid bosy........................

 

[justme00]

Have you ever considered using a surrogate or adoption? These are things I begin to think about when I get disheartened like that. I know it would just all be much easier if we could have our own child and the drop of a dime like everyone else. It's a good sign that you can at least get pregnant. I've been of b/c for over 2 yrs and not even a slight positive pg test. I wish all the best in whatever you choose to do. Don't ever give up though!

 

[Mynxie]

I'd not get very far with either tbh, cause apparently adoption and surrogosy laws are very similar/the same, and I've read that excuses are made to stop disabled people adopting...especially those who need care themselves. Surrgousy though, it would break my heart if they changed their mind, not to mention that I'd want to use my ovum, which tbh the risks of harm to me would be the same as IVF, so neither are an option.

thanks tho huni

 

[Suz]

Dont Give Up!!! Never Give Up! But I do think taking breaks every now and them is Healthy....

 

[Mynxie]

not planning on giving up....just kinda ...oh i dunno, i'm crap with words now....

just, do you think there comes a time when you give up? Do you think you know when that time comes? When is enough enough....that kinda thing...

 

[coccyx]

We had 6 misc before we had our first daughter, so sort of know how you feel. NEVER give up hope, maybe a break when you are feeling down as it can be hard mentally. Positive thoughts coming your way, 2008 could be your year.

 

[FJL]

I think although it is nice to have adoption and surrogacy as options, we want nothing more than to carry OUR own child without outside worries. I have to admit that I would be devestated if these were our only options. Every woman that wants a child would want to carry their own child and go through the pregnancy, birth etc I think.

As far as knowing when to give up Mynxie, I don't know hun. I think its a personal choice. We're only 14months into our journey and we're lucky enough to have options such as IVF, but I often wonder how many negatives we could take on such treatment before we decided that 'enough is enough'.

I think we could all carry on if we were guaranteed that there was a baby at the end of that very dark tunnel, but the fact that there are NO guarantees makes it so, so, SO much harder.

Good luck Mynxie, I hope so much that everything works out for you one day, resulting in a H&H 9 months and a healthy baby of your own

 

[gaby]

Hun, I know a couple who tried for over 10 years and now have 2 great kids. Don't give up Just maybe don't do all the stuff like charting or other thigns that are supposed to help. How about just don't protect & leave the rest to nature. I know you'll always have it on your mind that way, but I think less so than properly trying.

I'm sorry though that it's taking so long for you. It must be awful, but I really hope you don't give up. I'm sure it'll happen for you

 

[avistar]

I am sure if you think your ready to say enough is enough, you'll be wondering about it forever after you stop. I wish nothing but happy thoughts and baby dust for you!!! Perhaps taking a break would be good just to step away from ttc for a while ~just a relief and relax your mind and body. My thoughts are with you!

 

[PitBullMommy]

DH and I decided to stop treatment after two years. We also put the adoption process on hold and decided that we weren't going to do it, that we were happy with just being us and our animals. Two weeks later we got a BFP.