How do you stop crying?

[2yrsandwaiting]

Hi, just found out yesterday that I'd had a missed miscarriage. And i can't stop crying. How do you do it? AM crying at my desk, in my car, at home. And just when i think i'll be ok , they start again.
I know that no one can actaully answer that question, i guess i just needed to get it out.

 

[honey08]

so so sry hun, i went thro the same last march,first time id ever been pg and it was just devastating and still is aswell, but i knew more than anything i wasnt guna give up, i wanted this baby more than anything ....... so after i had a dnc, i just got my head round ttc again (of course id cried n cried) 7mth later i was pg again,and its going grt hun xxx
mmc/mc happen so often and its truly heartbreaking,i wud say inculd u OH and c how he feels aswell,cos he will be just as upset hun and convused
wishing u the best for the future xxx

 

[Widger]

Really sorry that you are feeling so low and sorry for your loss. We have all been through it on this board so you should get lots of support. I had my missed miscarriage 2 weeks ago tonight (well found out). Every now and again I still cry... it is natural. At times though you will feel numb too. Emotions everywhere. Hope you feel a bit better soon.

 

[TTC LADY]

Very sorry for your loss - I've not been through it so have no idea how you are feeling, but just wanted to send you my best wishes.

Can I ask did you have any previous scans ? or was it your first scan yesterday ?

 

[2yrsandwaiting]

"Can I ask did you have any previous scans ? or was it your first scan yesterday ?
Today 12:19 PM"

TTC Lady- I actaully had 2 other scans one at 6.5weeks and one at 8.1 weeks, i went in yesterday for blood work and she offer to give me a scan (i guess they were not busy or it was fate) and thats how i found out, baby measure just over 8 weeks with no heart beat.

 

[scrubgrub]

You just found out hun, I think crying is a very healthy way to express your emotions and deal with it. My DH just held me as I sobbed that evening. I sat down and wrote out my whole experience and it really helped me, and then I went and just sat on my couch for three days and slept. It's a bit over a week later for me, and I don't want anyone to talk to me about it or mention it, and I've thrown myself into shopping, and doing my nails and hair, and anything frivilous I can think of to keep myself distracted.
Either way, from me.

I hate that freaking false hope that the scans give you. I had a 6 week, 8 week, 10 week, 12 week and didn't find out till 15 +4. . I swear I'm buying the doppler next time!

 

[becky77]

So sorry for your loss ,i had a missed m/c in oct and had no idea, i was numb for about 2 weeks and cried a lot , but it is very early days for you hun , you will probably go through this for a little while and then each day will get a little easier,its a cliche but time is the only healer. honey 08 is right try and talk to your oh and get some support of friends and family, also the ladies on this forum are wonderful and there is always somebody to answer a question or just give you a few kind words.
xx

 

[2yrsandwaiting]

Thanks to all of you for replying.
I'm just completely heartbroken right now. At times am fine, but if someone ask me how i am the tears just start to roll. In my heart i know my little bug was just not meant to be here, but some how that doesn't make the pain less. And i really want to curl up in a ball and pretend its not happening to me. I can just close my eyes and heard those words from the doctor " no heart beat" over and over. And the shock that i felt, i felt like my own heart had stop stop beating.

 

[celine]

Im so sorry hunny *hugs*

 

[MrsJD]

So sorry for you loss!

It's hard, so the best thing to do is to keep crying, with my MMC last July I cried for weeks then stopped all of a sudden one day.

 

[ellie]

i am so sorry for you
i cried almost constantly for weeks ... this is probably the worst thing to say, but time really does help, even though you never stop missing them. it's a year later and i still cry about it occasionally and feel sad about it often. i try to stay positive about ttc'ing now though and being on this forum helped loads - i've said before, if i had found this site at the time i think i would have been able to deal with it better by chatting with ladies who understand.
try to involve your oh as he will be grieving too but remember they will be dealing with it differently.
take care and do what you feel you need to do - sob, scream, stay in bed for a week, get drunk, whatever works for you - and don't feel bad about taking time for you.

 

[Ivoryapril]

I found out 2 weeks ago at my 11 week scan that i misscarried at 8 weeks. I had a D&C just over a week ago and already i'm feeling a little better. I won't ever be ok about it but i've cried and cried and now i need to start letting it go. You're doing the right thing in letting your emotions out, don't try to stop the crying it's good for you. x

 

[Meli]

you are going through something very painful... and it happened so recently. Give yourself some time to grief. Hugs!

 

[honeybunch2k7]

I'm so sorry for your loss, hun.

I didn't just stop crying overnight. It took me time. I'm grateful that at the time I didn't have a lot of responsibilities so I stayed in bed and just cried it out. Eventually I cried less and less.

 

[JASMAK]

Just cry your heart out. It honestly helps. Don't try to stop yourself from greiving. You will probably find that there will be times that you feel a bit better, and then not so great. This is all normal. In time, you will feel better...you won't forget, but it does get easier. I still have a cry once in awhile. I welcome it...as much as I hate it.

 

[holly81]

So, so sorry for your loss. I had m/c at 14 weeks on 19th Jan. MY GP has signed me off work as she was worried abut the stress there, and being able to hide away and cry as much as I need whenever I need has been so therapeutic. I feel I've really had time to grieve - and I think that has been so important. I'm much stronger now altho the strangest little things set me off, but it seems time really does heal - not that that's any help to you right now.

Just let yourself mourn and don't be embarrassed to cry as much as you need to - my advice is let it all out and talk to people close to you, but don't be afraid to tell peripherals to butt out!

Thinking of you xx

 

[colsy]

So sorry. All I can say is that when I m/c, I cried and cried but eventually I got my head round it, and each day I felt a little better. You won't forget, but you will begin to think of other things as well as your m/c, and after a while you will probably even think about TTC again (strange as that may seem at the moment). Loads of us on here understand what you are going through - so do take heart in the fact that you are most definitely not alone in this. It is truly horrible, I know, but one day you will stop crying, I promise. xx

 

[bklove]

I"m sorry you had to go through this. If I could I would kick mother nature for you Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us, keep doing that, and I hope it helps to ease it just a bit more every time.