HoneyBee71
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the hospital allowed you to see your baby after your m/c? Then reason why I ask, is because I think this issue plays a big part of me not being able to resolve some of my grief (three years later).
When I m/c'd the hospital was incredibly busy that day. Instead of admitting me to the OB floor, they left me in the ER to deliver. I was 15 weeks pregnant at the time of my loss. The nurse assigned to me was not too swift. I feel qualfied to say this, because my profession at that time was to interview/hire nursing staff and based on her preformance and lack of professionalism, I would have NEVER have hired her....Anywhoooo...
They set me up in a room and left me alone for what seemed like hours. I delivered my son ALONE, and 20 minutes later Nurse "swifty" came back in, peeked under my blanket and wrapped and removed my son. My husband and I tried to stop her so that we could at least see him, but for some reason, she wouldn't let us - she told us that she "couldn't allow it". When asked about the remains, she stated that the "hospital takes care of it." I then asked her if there would be a pathologist report, so we could at least see the reason WHY we lost the baby and her response was... "They don't do pathology on a first time loss". (??????) Having never had a child before, I was not sure what to expect. My head was groggy from the morphine and the pain and my poor DH was devastated and clueless, so he just thought this may be standard procedure. Not long after, the hospital told me to get dressed and sent us on our way (a whole other horror story).
Once I sobered up, I was furious with my treatment that day and quickly shot a letter to the hospital administrator, but never received a response. What I did receive, several weeks later, was a PATHOLOGY bill. I stormed up to the hospital and requested my records wherein, I found out that according to the pathologist that our baby was an "obvious male, perfectly formed." They chalked the loss up to a possible placental abruption.....
Here's the thing... I have NO IDEA where my perfectly formed son went, what they did with his remains, nor did I ever get the chance to see his perfect little face and it kills me. Has anyone here ever heard of this? Is 15 weeks too young to see? Shouldn't the hospital have given us an option regarding the remains?? These questions still haunt me...
When I m/c'd the hospital was incredibly busy that day. Instead of admitting me to the OB floor, they left me in the ER to deliver. I was 15 weeks pregnant at the time of my loss. The nurse assigned to me was not too swift. I feel qualfied to say this, because my profession at that time was to interview/hire nursing staff and based on her preformance and lack of professionalism, I would have NEVER have hired her....Anywhoooo...
They set me up in a room and left me alone for what seemed like hours. I delivered my son ALONE, and 20 minutes later Nurse "swifty" came back in, peeked under my blanket and wrapped and removed my son. My husband and I tried to stop her so that we could at least see him, but for some reason, she wouldn't let us - she told us that she "couldn't allow it". When asked about the remains, she stated that the "hospital takes care of it." I then asked her if there would be a pathologist report, so we could at least see the reason WHY we lost the baby and her response was... "They don't do pathology on a first time loss". (??????) Having never had a child before, I was not sure what to expect. My head was groggy from the morphine and the pain and my poor DH was devastated and clueless, so he just thought this may be standard procedure. Not long after, the hospital told me to get dressed and sent us on our way (a whole other horror story).
Once I sobered up, I was furious with my treatment that day and quickly shot a letter to the hospital administrator, but never received a response. What I did receive, several weeks later, was a PATHOLOGY bill. I stormed up to the hospital and requested my records wherein, I found out that according to the pathologist that our baby was an "obvious male, perfectly formed." They chalked the loss up to a possible placental abruption.....
Here's the thing... I have NO IDEA where my perfectly formed son went, what they did with his remains, nor did I ever get the chance to see his perfect little face and it kills me. Has anyone here ever heard of this? Is 15 weeks too young to see? Shouldn't the hospital have given us an option regarding the remains?? These questions still haunt me...