How long did it take for you to feel ready to TTC again?

[girlinyork]

I'm so desperate for a baby to love and to hold but it feels like I'll never get over the trauma of what has happened. I also feel like I'm betraying the baby I've just lost by wanting to move on and try again. I lost my LO at 7+4 after seeing a HB at 6+5 so this came as such a shock because I thought everything was progressing well. I just don't feel like I'll ever be ready . How long did it take you til you felt up to being pregnant again?

 

[Jackie26]

I'm so desperate for a baby to love and to hold but it feels like I'll never get over the trauma of what has happened. I also feel like I'm betraying the baby I've just lost by wanting to move on and try again. I lost my LO at 7+4 after seeing a HB at 6+5 so this came as such a shock because I thought everything was progressing well. I just don't feel like I'll ever be ready . How long did it take you til you felt up to being pregnant again?

hi

i think it all depends on person. and how your feeling, i MC in aud, and tried again in Oct and now im 9 weeks, but cause i was ready i tried again, although i know how u feel, and its hard feeling sad but you wont forget about the one you lost, ever!

 

[Embo78]

On average it takes me about 3 months before I'm ready again. Physically I'm ready after one cycle but definitely not emotionally. I spend three months saying never again but then, when I'm emotionally better I want to try again.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had three missed miscarriages and saw heartbeat with each of them. It's just heartbreaking

 

[robbo1]

Everyone is so different but l had the same feelings as you re betraying the lost baby im sure its only natural. My first loss was december 10 and i was pregnant again by june 11 and felt l could cope unfortunatley that ended in mmc in aug. After this we werent being careful but not actively trying and got my bfp in dec there l'm quite confused lm happy but wary as not sure im ready to go through it again but trying to keep positive. Its so difficult because you want what seems to come so easy to some people but at the same time im sure you feel the same its the thought of going through the hurt again. I wish you all the best and hope your next pregnancy is a h+h one xx

 

[sunny74]

Takes me about 6 months, i've had 3 mmc
Last one was in october 11, i thought i wanted to try straight away, but after one cycle i knew i wasnt ready, so stoppped OV testing, lo and behold i got pregnant in dec 11 so only 2 months after the last loss.
It is a bit soon for me and my partner emotionally but we are here again now and have to deal with it. Ideally i would have liked another month or two, its a scary thought that we might have to go through it a fourth time but you have to be positive and never give up hope

 

[girlinyork]

Thank you so much everybody. OH and I talked it over - we're going to keep taking vitamins and when I'm physically better get exercising so when we're ready we can get straight to it whenever that may be. We want to get nice and healthy and emotionally heal before we do any baby making though x

 

[SatansSprite]

I had my miscarriage in June 11, I was actually 18 weeks along which I dont know for sure since Ive never had an early miscarriage, but I feel like it was harder for me than an early one would have been. Realistically I understand and know early ones happen, and I prepare myself for that just in case, I wasn't expecting it to happen that far along.

As for when I was ready, I was ready after I got my first cycle. Actually I was ready before but I thought waiting the 1 cycle would be best. It was just what I needed to do to heal, by waiting I was just dwelling on the one I had lost and while I knew I wasn't replacing it, I just needed the process of trying again to begin healing emotionally.