How long did u wait to tell people?

[Orangemelodie]

The first pregnancy we told everyone right away and it ended up being ectopic. Now hubby wants us to wait till first trimester is over to tell ANYbody. Not even close friends and family. I feel like I am lying to them and it's pretty obvious with all my boating and snacking. So when did you girls tell people you were pregnant after a loss?

 

[Camlet]

We waited until I had my scan at 13 weeks before telling anyone. The only person who knew before then was my mother & that was only because I needed her to watch my kids as I refuse to ever take them to an early scan ever again after having my mmc xx

 

[brittybird]

I waited until 12-13 weeks pregnant before I told my family and friends. It was just me and my hubby-to-be's secret. It was hard to hide it for that long, but after 2 losses- I really didnt want people knowing just "in case" something went wrong again.

 

[starburst1979]

We waited til after first scan at 12 weeks to tell most people.......parents, rest of kids etc as I had a m/c at ten weeks in Jan, and hadn't told many we were expecting then......and wanted to make sure all was fine this time! But with our toddler, everyone knew by 8 weeks! Most knew straight away with my first, except my parents......was too scared to tell them cos I was only 18 and waited til I was five months!! Good luck with everything x

 

[ginny83]

We want to be well past our 12 week scan before we tell family/very close friends.

We're actually not planning on telling anyone else - they can just figure it out as it becomes obvious (hopefully!!)

 

[korink26]

I had an early scan at 7 weeks and after that we told our immediate family and then told everybody else around 13 weeks.
I don't think I would have lasted 13 weeks not telling our parents/sisters! I needed them to vent my worries and excitement to

 

[wookie130]

My DH and I have only told both sets of our parents...that way, in the event of a 3rd miscarriage, it isn't such a shock when they get the phone call that we're losing another one. However, everyone else NOT going find out until I can't pull off not telling them any longer...in other words, I'll probably be showing before I spill the beans.

 

[too_scared]

with this one we aren't going to tell anyone until 13 weeks. well, we did tell 2 couples we are close with. i told my best friend right away and then the other couple we told 2 days ago. it is nice to tell some people because it is nice to be able to share the experience.

 

[babyjo]

My MC pregnancy we didn't really tell anyone......we told people after we lost it. This time I was in so much shock to be pregnant I told all my nearest and dearest....OH didn't really like it but I really loved the support that I got from people and it helped to make me stay positive.

 

[z0e_ttc]

i waited to tell people untill i was around 13 weeks just incase anything went wrong again but i told my best friend right away as she found out she was pregnant at the same time. i guess if you have a close friend who wouldnt tell anyone then its ok cause you have someone to talk to other than you partner xx

 

[MrsCrad]

I only told 2 of my closest friends for support until after our first scan which was 13 weeks then we told our families. I think if my husband had his way no one would still know (were now 16weeks+5) Alot of our friends still dont know and were not going to start letting them all know until after our 20 week scan

 

[ThinkPositiv]

We want to be well past our 12 week scan before we tell family/very close friends.

We're actually not planning on telling anyone else - they can just figure it out as it becomes obvious (hopefully!!)

you are just like me....with work at least i plan not to tell anyone until they figure it out when its obvious! a few ppl at work know, but the rest can learn as my belly grows

 

[ThinkPositiv]

we have had to consecutive losses and this is our first baby. we regretted not telling our parents last time and loosing the baby and feeling very lost and defeated and alone and going to them with sad news...we would have rather had their support right from the get go... so we told them straight away when the test turned up 2 lines! other than that, only my sister and brother in law and a few other key people in our lives know.

we just had another scan today and baby is doing great....and i thought we would spill the beans after today, but i think i am holding out. might change my mind in the next few days, but we are starting to tell next weekend, as we have dinner dates with a few close friends.... the secret will be out by then! there are 2 people i feel the need to tell in person, and so i feel i owe it to them before they find out through face book or something!

 

[FeLynn]

with my first 3 pregnancies I hid it b/c I was young but eventually told peopl. With my 4th pregnancy I told people right away it ended in a loss, 5th pregnancy i didnt know about until I was miscarrying and the 6th pregnancy I waited for the heartbeat I wasnt going to tell anyone until I was 10 weeks but I couldnt hide the morning sickness or the cravings or the bitchy mood swings(note I am normally a bitch but it gets 10x worse when I am pregnant) I was worried during this pregnancy that it would end in a loss as well and at 13.2 weeks my babys heart stopped. I found out my baby was the little girl I have been wanting since I was a little girl.

So with my history I will not tell a soul in my life until I can no longer hide it. i would like to keep it hush hush until I am 20 weeks! when ever I get pregnant again!

 

[BabyDragon]

With my first pregnancy, it was a huge oopsie and I had a bit of a hard time coming to terms with the fact that I was pregnant...so it wasn't that hard to keep it a secret... I was planning on waiting till after the first trimester... But I told all my siblings...

DBF wanted to tell the world right away, and at first I was against it, but then when I rethought it, I compromised that since he is the father, he can tell whoever he wants when it comes to his friends and family. He ended up telling the world right away...

Sadly, we lost our angel, but since I never really told anyone, I didn't really have to go through that... DBF did though... and ended up deleted his FB because it hurted too much...

When I got pregnant again shortly right after that, I decided this time, I wasn't even going to tell my siblings... DBF, this time around, agreed that, that was the best route.

With this pregnancy though, I have all the symptoms in the book (Didn't have much the first time.) After my second scan at 7W, he couldnt contain himself and again, told all his family, friends and co workers. At 11 weeks, he took my sister, her DBF, and I out to dinner to celebrate.

At 5W, my sister put two and two together when we went to a bar, and didn't drink...

At around 6W, one of my brother walked in on me throwing up, and when he asked why I was throwing up, I told him 'cause I was sick and he replied with.. "I aint dumb."

At 11W my stomach popped, and my mother flat out asked me if I was pregnant.

I just had my scan yesterday....and I got to see my baby kick me repeatedly, and when the tech jostled my tummy to try and get him to turn over for the scan, he started hiccuping! My heart melted!

I had a whole wall up because of my bad experience with my first pregnancy...protecting my heart...but after yesterday...it all came tumbling down.

This is my baby... and regardless of the outcome, I'm proud to have him, and have made it this far... and I want the world to know of him...since they didn't get to know of his brother....

Hence.. I posted my dragon's picture yesterday on FB.

 

[baileybubs]

Hi ladies.

I am currently querying the same thing. I have just got my BFP today, and although I don't want to get too excited too soon, I also don't want to spend my whole pregnancy worried and expecting the worst so I am goin to believe this baby is my sticky bean!

I have wondered what to do as my df doesn't want to tell anyone at all. Now it's my best friends birthday next week and we are supposed to be going out for cocktails so no doubt I will tell her. And I feel like my mum would never forgive me if I didn't tell her. But his parents weren't over the moon the first time, and we have just booked our wedding for next year and so I just know that will start asking if we should be getting married if we are pregnant. I'm unsure what to do. Although I do know that I have to tell my boss at work as I work in a physical job and with some of my clients theres a risk factor.

 

[ThinkPositiv]

With my first pregnancy, it was a huge oopsie and I had a bit of a hard time coming to terms with the fact that I was pregnant...so it wasn't that hard to keep it a secret... I was planning on waiting till after the first trimester... But I told all my siblings...

DBF wanted to tell the world right away, and at first I was against it, but then when I rethought it, I compromised that since he is the father, he can tell whoever he wants when it comes to his friends and family. He ended up telling the world right away...

Sadly, we lost our angel, but since I never really told anyone, I didn't really have to go through that... DBF did though... and ended up deleted his FB because it hurted too much...

When I got pregnant again shortly right after that, I decided this time, I wasn't even going to tell my siblings... DBF, this time around, agreed that, that was the best route.

With this pregnancy though, I have all the symptoms in the book (Didn't have much the first time.) After my second scan at 7W, he couldnt contain himself and again, told all his family, friends and co workers. At 11 weeks, he took my sister, her DBF, and I out to dinner to celebrate.

At 5W, my sister put two and two together when we went to a bar, and didn't drink...

At around 6W, one of my brother walked in on me throwing up, and when he asked why I was throwing up, I told him 'cause I was sick and he replied with.. "I aint dumb."

At 11W my stomach popped, and my mother flat out asked me if I was pregnant.

I just had my scan yesterday....and I got to see my baby kick me repeatedly, and when the tech jostled my tummy to try and get him to turn over for the scan, he started hiccuping! My heart melted!

I had a whole wall up because of my bad experience with my first pregnancy...protecting my heart...but after yesterday...it all came tumbling down.

This is my baby... and regardless of the outcome, I'm proud to have him, and have made it this far... and I want the world to know of him...since they didn't get to know of his brother....

Hence.. I posted my dragon's picture yesterday on FB.

i love where you say that "regardless of the outcome, i'm proud to have him, and have made it this far...I want the world to know of him...since they didnt get to know of his brother..."

that is how i felt after my last loss...that no one knew about the baby, and although we only had him/her for a short time, we were SOOOO happy, and wished we had told others to share in that happiness with us....so when we were delivered the bad news, at least we had had moments of happiness with others and then to have them there to support us after...instead we felt kind of lost....and went to our parents because we needed them....but we really wished they had known before.