How long were you advised to wait?

[NDH]

I now there is a lot of discrepancy between the length of time medical professionals say to wait to TTC again following a miscarriage and I'm just a bit curious to see how long everyone was advised to wait following an uncomplicated miscarriage, regardless of whether you actually followed the advice or not.

Please only vote if you had a normal, uncomplicated miscarriage (ie wasn't a molar pregnancy, didn't develop an infection or have retained product requiring further treatment after the initial mc/d&c). Feel free to post any reasons given for their recommendation in the comments.

 

[NDH]

I was told to wait one cycle my the midwife I saw, who later said to wait 1-2 cycles in case of repeat miscarriage. I chose to disregard advice after researching and discovering better outcomes on average for a pregnancy conceived within 6 months after a loss.

 

[coucou11]

Good poll!

As you know, I was told to wait one cycle (for one AF) before trying again. I decided to wait, more for emotional reasons than physical ones.

 

[Mrsgoodhart]

My OB said one cycle was fine but that if it happened before that, not to worry. I asked if my chance of miscarriage would be higher if it happened sooner and he said no, it was just for dating purposes.

 

[kdmalk]

This is a good resource for ladies in the future, Natalie. Such a good idea! I hope you get hundreds of votes!

 

[mum140381]

i was told no need to wait and conceived 10 days after miscarriage but i was very early only 5 weeks.
however my lo had iugr as placenta and cord didn't form correctly not sure if it had anything to do with it and ill never know ? she is fine now at 20 months

 

[comotion89]

told we could ttc straight away she said they normally advise after 1af due to it being easier to date the pregnancy. I don't really cae if they can't date it lol I am ttc as soon as my body is ready

 

[NDH]

The dating the pregnancy excuse is such a lame one since they always go by ultrasound to date it anyway.

 

[Fezzle]

I wasn't told that we couldn't try this cycle (I'm going through what seems to be a straightforward natural early MC right now), but my Dr said to wait until my next AF to start Clomid again.

 

[steph.]

I was told there is no reason to wait, apart from dating. I conceived my dd1 straight after a mc at 8 weeks and have just found out I'm pregnant again after an early mc a month ago.

 

[emma4g63]

i was told to wait 1 af after my d and c 6 weeks ago but i havent and startd TTC 3 weeks ago- no sign of AF yet so hoping its a bfp!!

scared the doctors and midwife will lecture me though and ill be very annoyed!!!

 

[jlw617]

The dating the pregnancy excuse is such a lame one since they always go by ultrasound to date it anyway.

Totally agree! It's so aggravating-I knew something was very wrong before my midwife did(or that she'd admit) because at my 8 week scan the baby was only 6+1, she said "are you sure about your dates?" I told her "100%" yet at the end of the appointment she insisted like most other Drs that "my dates could just be off" yeah they could be off maybe by a couple days or so but not 2 weeks-it's so odd that they insist on using measurements to give you a due date-both my babies were born smaller, but I'm only 4'11 and dh isnt super tall, 5'8-I asked my new OB "isn't it possible those measurements can be off because different babies are going to develop at different rates? She said "absolutely" my youngest daughter was born a month early according to the Drs, but I always thought according to my dates that she was only 2 weeks early, my dates match better especially because she never had to be in nicu (very rare to have a baby 1 month early and not spend any time in nicu) and though she was small 6lbs 5 oz, that's a good sized baby for being a month early-also on a side note, my first daughter was also born 2 weeks early and was 6lbs 12 oz-they were very close in size, both were also 19 in long.

Sorry about the long rant lol! This is one thing that really gets under my skin and the yes Natalie, to make matters worse-they tell women to wait to ttc for at least one cycle for dating purposes!!!!! Why???!!!! They're just going to use the ultra sound date!!

 

[Fleur828815]

I voted 3 months (not 3 cycles). Having said that
- Those 3 months include recovering from the D&C, waiting for first A&F (which could have taken up to 8 or even 12 weeks)
- The doctor said they advise 3 months to allow some time for emotional recovery but there is no medical reason to wait.

They advise waiting for first A&F for dating purposes but Jamie is right, they go by last AF date but what if someone ovulates later or earlier? At my ultrasounds the baby was measuring 9 days behind. I was convinced there was something wrong but the doctor said I probably got my dates wrong or ovulated later. 2 or 3 days, sure, but I'd never ovulated 9 days later so I just knew

I've finished my first AF after the D&C but I haven't ovulated so it looks like I'll end up waiting 3 months after all (and more if I don't ovulate next month either).

 

[NDH]

bump

 

[mummy2o]

I had a late miscarriage at 19weeks on Christmas eve. I got discharge today and the doctors advise was when we felt ready. The reason they like you to wait is to make it easier to date if there isn't anything medically wrong, which there wasn't in my case as I developed an infection causing me to miscarry.

 

[emma4g63]

i posted a few weeks ago.. i tried straight after d and c and got bfp nearly two weeks ago but it ended up being a chemical pregnancy and i bled the day after i found out

my advise to anyone would be just the wait the one month.. i know it seems like forver but i feel like im set back again now as the chemical may mess my cycles up too...
and another loss!! although im trying not to think about it like that

 

[babytots]

With my most recent loss I was told to wait a few months by my doctor to give myself time to come to terms with it. But I was ttc straightaway lol. With my other early losses they said it was fine after my first af and when I lost Jessica my consultant told us to wait a good few months. x

 

[KozmikKitten]

I voted that I wasnt told anything either way. As of now, that is the case. i will be going back to the MD in about 2 weeks for a d&c follow up apt, and I'm guessing at that time they will give me their advice.

With my first mc back in 2011, they told me to wait 3 cycles. (I waited 2 and got pregnant with my son 2 cycles after that, so 4th cycle after mc).
With my second mc, (it was early at 5w), I did not wait til af and got pregnant right away without having a full cycle. That pregnancy ended in my most recent mc (I was 11w but found out baby stopped growing at 8+3).
This time, my dh wants to wait a while before ttc again. I also want to wait. We have not decided how long we will wait. At least 1 full cycle, but possibly 2-3 cycles.

 

[VanillaSugar]

I think it depends on the situation. I've been told three different things for two different situations:

Ectopic, removed via Surgery - 3 Cycles (Not counting first bleed after Betaquants drop to normal).

Early Miscarriage - OBGYN #1: Wait a cycle, not counting MC bleeding. OBGYN #2: I don't see a reason for waiting after Miscarriage. I don't believe it causes any problems.

Personally, and from what I've read online, I think they mostly request you wait one or more cycles after MC only if you've had a DNC, since your uterus has been scraped very thin. A lot of doctors suggest it probably because they want you to give yourself time to grieve the loss.

 

[wantingagirl]

Nat I was told as long as tracking for ovulation I could try again straight away took me 8 months as you know xx