How long will this last. UPDATED pg 2 & Original POST

[WeAreA6pack]

I lost my baby at almost 7 weeks. I started bleeding 2 weeks ago and today the scan showed the sac (although empty now) same size and in the same spot.. It is so dissappointing when your body will not work properly.

On the bright side I guess failure to attach was not a cause. So that gives me more hope that the next will stick..

(UPDATE)

After waiting 6 weeks for a my natural miscarriage to complete, I ended up having the D&C Friday 08-08-08.

I went for my follow up scan the day before. Not only was the sac in the same spot but it had grown. It went from a 6-7 to 8-9 weeks in size. It was still empty. My Doctors are so wonderful, they said that it is proof that my body likes being pregnant so they felt it was time to intervine which I felt at peace about.

I have to say I was still dissappointed that I had to have the procedure but it went textbook with no complications. I did feel the most weepy as they took me to OR but I was able to keep my emotions in check.

All my children have been delivered by c-section so I all I could think going in is that my next procedure should have been a happy c-section not this. Luckily they gave me meds that mad me so loopy that I don't remember anything after they wheeled me into OR or before they took me out.

Thanks to all of you for your stories and support. It has truely been a GOD send for me. I am very grateful for finding this board. I hope that I am able to return the favor and someone else will be helped by knowing they are not alone.

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry for your loss xxx

 

[Barneyboo]

Sorry for your loss

 

[superp123]

Oh hun, I'm sorry that you're going through this. The whole experiance is so distressing and to be waiting this long for it to be over must be so difficult for you. I don't have the answer for you but talk to your doc if you've had enough there's no shame in asking for a D&C. That's what I did last month after waiting for two weeks... it was just too hard emotionaly and physically draining and I told doc as much, he suggested the surgery for me. As sad and shitty as it was, I did feel better knowing it was over and I could move on through the grieving process. I kept feeling like I couldn't greive over something that was still there. I dunno... that's just me.
Hope you feel better soon. Here if you need to chat.
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[WeAreA6pack]

I guess I should have been a bit clearer. I went for my first scan at 7w 2d and we didn't have a heartbeat we had a sac and saw the fetal pole. The dr. thought maybe I was just a bit earlier. (closer to 5th and 6th week) I knew I wasn't and I knew that it wasn't viable. I went again 10 days later and it was the same (no growth) So a non-viable pregnancy was confirmed. I had another follow up scan today and the sac was still there. My Drs. are wonderful and have said that at any pt if I want to have a d&c they would. I just really do not want one. So they are allowing me another 2 weeks unless I develop a fever. I have another appt in a bit over 2weeks and at that time they will rescan. At that pt he would want me to go ahead and schedule a d&c. For me emotionally I just fell that I would do better going it natural if possible, and my drs. say that it is completely my decision at this pt if I am willing to continue to wait.

 

[shmoo75]

I am so sorry for your loss hun. My m/c happend straight away at 7wks 4days was scanned at 7wks+6 and there was nothing left it had all gone in a couple of days. I bleed for a total of 9 days not heavy all the time ended up being just like my AF. I am so glad that my body did what it was supposed to do when there was something wrong with my LO. As heartbroken as I am to have gone through it, it was much easier then having to experiance what you are going through. One of my bestfriends had an incomplete m/c 4yrs ago where she started bleeding then stopped, had bloods taken and hcg was dropping also scanned and to be told there was a sac but no heartbeat, she was told to come back in 2wks and if the m/c had not completed by that time she would have a d&c. My friend now wishes she had pushed for a d&c there and then as, she didn't start bleeding again until 11days later. It felt like losing her LO all over again. I personally think if after 2wks after your original scan there was no growth and you hadn't started bleeding again, your body probably wont do what its supposed to do and waiting another 2wks is just prolonging this terrible time. If you go back in 2wks and told it is still exactly the same and yo have not started bleeding again will you insist on waiting another 2wks? Surely this is not good for your overall physical and mental health? I hope the m/c starts again and completly finishes for you quickly but, if not I hope you will decide to have a d&c so you can start moving forward and not be in this horrible limbo that you are now. Sending Apologies for such a long post but, I have been trying to understand why anyone would rather wait however long it takes for their body to do this naturally when it isn't showing any signs of doing so.

 

[WeAreA6pack]

Thank you for your opinion. I am bleeding, and have been for two weeks. I have passed a great deal of tissue and the fetal pole itself has already passed. The only thing remaining is the sac. My bleeding has not been severe, I have no fever and the cramping is mild and seldom. If at all possible I would like to avoid the procedure. I really would like to have another baby. With a d&c there is a risk of puncturing the uterine wall, which could possibly lead to a hysterectomy. Complications with anesthesia are always possible.
My Doctors and I have discussed it in great links and the choice to have or not to have one at this point is based on what I want and what I can emotionally handle. I have not insisted that I wait, I have asked their opinion and they have said if I can and want to wait it out it is fine. If I am tired of waiting I may have the d&c. We also believe that it is a very good chance it will complete naturally since I have continually passed bits of tissue on my own. For me I have 4 children at home ranging from 2 years to 10, and I do not want to have any procedure that I can avoid. I accept that in the end I could possibly end up having one anyway, but again I may not. The only complication from waiting it out is, infection. I have had NO signs of infection and they saw none. My doctors have instructed me to monitor my temps. And at any point they rise above 99f then I am to call immediately.
I really am not in limbo emotionally, It is actually giving me the extra time I need because my intention is to start ttc as soon as I have one full cycle and I feel at peace with it being a month or two out before I begin to obsess with temps, CF and POAS.
I hope this has explained my desire for it to be managed naturally if possible. I am sure that this isn't what some would want but for me I am more comfortable with the waiting game then having the procedure at this time and it feels right for me. I was prepared today to have the d&c if My Doctors felt it was needed. Since they did not think it was something that was necessary I will give it more time. I am quit certain that when I return they will want me to have one if the sac is still there. At that point I will. I have no desire to go against medical advice, and at this point my Doctors
(Both of them) feel that waiting is not a problem, and is entirely up to me.

I am not thrilled that it has taken this long, I had hoped it would be quick.
Regardless I do not believe that even if I end up having to have a D&C I will regret waiting to see if it will pass naturally.

I am so sorry for your loss hun. My m/c happend straight away at 7wks 4days was scanned at 7wks+6 and there was nothing left it had all gone in a couple of days. I bleed for a total of 9 days not heavy all the time ended up being just like my AF. I am so glad that my body did what it was supposed to do when there was something wrong with my LO. As heartbroken as I am to have gone through it, it was much easier then having to experiance what you are going through. One of my bestfriends had an incomplete m/c 4yrs ago where she started bleeding then stopped, had bloods taken and hcg was dropping also scanned and to be told there was a sac but no heartbeat, she was told to come back in 2wks and if the m/c had not completed by that time she would have a d&c. My friend now wishes she had pushed for a d&c there and then as, she didn't start bleeding again until 11days later. It felt like losing her LO all over again. I personally think if after 2wks after your original scan there was no growth and you hadn't started bleeding again, your body probably wont do what its supposed to do and waiting another 2wks is just prolonging this terrible time. If you go back in 2wks and told it is still exactly the same and yo have not started bleeding again will you insist on waiting another 2wks? Surely this is not good for your overall physical and mental health? I hope the m/c starts again and completly finishes for you quickly but, if not I hope you will decide to have a d&c so you can start moving forward and not be in this horrible limbo that you are now. Sending Apologies for such a long post but, I have been trying to understand why anyone would rather wait however long it takes for their body to do this naturally when it isn't showing any signs of doing so.

 

[superp123]

I'm sorry if I offended you in any way, it is absolutly your choice. I see no reason at all why you shouldn't wait for a natural mc, if that's what you choose to do. I was a bit confused by your first post.
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[jerseyshoregirl]

My story is very similar to yours. I was 8wk4d when I had a "natural" m/c last Wednesday night. I am very thankful that it happened that way, especially as I had a D&C scheduled the next morning. Having my body do what it needed to on its own certainly left me more at peace with the situation.

I am very sorry for your loss and can sympathize with where you are at right now...
JM

 

[WeAreA6pack]

I'm sorry if I offended you in any way, it is absolutly your choice. I see no reason at all why you shouldn't wait for a natural mc, if that's what you choose to do. I was a bit confused by your first post.
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I was not offended at all; on the contrary, I was grateful for the caring and supportive responses. I just re-read my post and figured I needed to clarify myself a bit. I tend to be long winded when it comes to posting on boards and in trying to avoid doing that I passed over details. I really do appreciate the support I have had in just reading the other stories on this board let alone the kind and caring words I have received. It is something that is difficult to talk about to my family and friends because for the most part they just don't know what to say. And I have realized that many people don't understand why I don't just get it over with and go for a D&C, I am not completely sure why myself sometimes but for some reason my heart and head are telling me to wait when the options have been presented to me.
See, long winded.
In short I just wanted to explain myself a bit better and in no way did I mean for either post to be defensive or negative to previous responses.

 

[shmoo75]

Thats ok hun I am just worried and concerned about you especially as I now know you have 4 young children at home. Any medical procedure has to be planned milatry fashion I would think. I know over here in the UK a d&c is a day thing so you go in and come out again the same day with being sleepy at home. Not helpful when you have other children to look after. Fingers crossed you don't need to have one but, once the m/c is over it could take up to 7wks before you have your 1st AF. I was lucky from begining of m/c to when my 1st AF started was 32days and hopefully I am due on again on 29/07. Fingers crossed you don't haveto wait to long for your AF hun so you can get back to TTC if thats what you want to do. Thinking of you and fingers crossed

 

[golcarlilly]

Hi there, just read your thread and wanted to say you are in a similar situation to my miscarriage, I didn't want to have a d&c either and after failed medical management I did eventually pass everything naturally - it took a long, long time though ( I bled for 39 days on and off) and really was the most awful experience of my life, others kept advising me to have the d&c and 'get it over with' but it just wasn't the right option for me although at times I wanted to just say ok to shut them up!!

I think everyone knows in their own mind what is best for them. Good luck hun and I hope it is as short and painless (emotionally and physically) as possible for you

 

[millymolly]

Hi..sorry to hear of your recent mc.

I have had both ERPC and medical management of mc and both were for different reasons and were right for each of the mc's. My first missed mc was at 10 weeks and I had no bleeding/pain and only found out the baby had died (7weeks+2) at my 10 week dating scan. Because I had no symptoms of mc and felt pregnant, I decided on an ERPC despite the risks of anaesthesia, perforation etc..as you mentioned. I didn't know how long my body would start to deal with the mc and could not cope with feeling pregnant and having a dead baby inside me....sorry tmi!

However, for my 2nd mc this year (8 weeks +2), I did not have the pregnancy symptoms that I normally have and had started spotting so knew my body was doing 'something' already so opted for the medical management. This was because my body had started mc which was different to last year, and didn't want to take unnecessary risks again. Also, my OH wasn't allowed to stay with me last year when I had my ERPC,as in Shropshire, I had to go in to hospital the night before. We found this hard as we wanted to support each other and couldn't! It was painful and not a nice experience and did take longer but was right for us on this occasion.

We are all unique so you have to do what is right for you.

Take care
x

 

[WeAreA6pack]

(UPDATE)

After waiting 6 weeks for a my natural miscarriage to complete, I ended up having the D&C Friday 08-08-08.

I went for my follow up scan the day before. Not only was the sac in the same spot but it had grown. It went from a 6-7 to 8-9 weeks in size. It was still empty. My Doctors are so wonderful, they said that it is proof that my body likes being pregnant so they felt it was time to intervine which I felt at peace about.

I have to say I was still dissappointed that I had to have the procedure but it went textbook with no complications. I did feel the most weepy as they took me to OR but I was able to keep my emotions in check.

All my children have been delivered by c-section so I all I could think going in is that my next procedure should have been a happy c-section not this. Luckily they gave me meds that mad me so loopy that I don't remember anything after they wheeled me into OR or before they took me out.

Thanks to all of you for your stories and support. It has truely been a GOD send for me. I am very grateful for finding this board. I hope that I am able to return the favor and someone else will be helped by knowing they are not alone.

 

[todteach]

I'm sorry about your loss.

 

[tansey]

Sorry for your loss but glad that it all went well. Take care. xx

 

[superp123]

Again I'm so sorry for your loss.
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