how to cope with judgemental doctors

[dolphin03]

Hi everyone

a little history, I have secondary infertility, basically I went on the pill 6 years ago and never ovulated naturally since I quit. I have hyperprolactinemia and PCOS and hypothyroidism, all making it impossible for me to ovulate onmy own

I have just changed doctors lately because my old GP was very judgemental and kept denying me treatment for my PCOS. I felt so uncomfortable to tell him we want to TTC. anyway, to the point, I have just been referred to a Gynecologist who also seems to be judgemental. When he was asking me if I use protection etc, and I said no, he looked at me as if to say "wow". He asked me "what is your main problem, the pelvic pain? I said no, my main concern is that i'm not ovulating or having any periods. He seemed more interested in treating the lack of periods, not lack of ovulation. We want to start ttc and I would like to ask this gyno for clomid, but I feel so uncomfortable because he looks at me as if i'm stupid for wanting to TTC so young. I'm in my twenties and my partner is 31, we're both adults and I'm just angry people judge all the time, it's my body and our decision and just feel i'm not being listened to, or just looked down upon me? I promise you i'm not being paranoid, the doctors i've had are just plain awful

so , do any of you have any tips on how I can ask for clomid (or any help with infertility?)
have you been through anything like this?
how do you cope in these situations??

thank you

 

[donnarobinson]

You have to tell them hun, I was struggling to conceive my 1st and I just told them look I want a baby, I trying from 20 finally got my bfp when I was 23. X if you don't tell them u want a baby they won't no x and if there rude get a new doctor x

 

[popchick75]

You've got to be upfront with them and just tell them you are trying to get pregnant. If they won't help, move on to an RE who will. Are you insulin resistant PCOS? If so, you probably need to ask about taking metafomin with your clomid.

Look at it this way...you shouldn't feel at all uncomfortable for telling (yes, telling, NOT asking) for help with a medical condition so you can have a baby. You choose the doctor and pay them...they are basically someone you are hiring. They give advice and treatment, and if they are incompetent or not doing a good job, you 'fire' them and 'hire' someone else. The doctor doesn't run the show..YOU do.

 

[Queenofwands]

Hi its must me Uk doctors I had a nasty experience too... but Im fighting back!!!

Im in the process of getting an appointment to got through my results with a fine tooth comb, as now I am armed with better knowledge.
I didn't ask any questions when I finally got my results.

My experience was terrible at hospital.... the doctor didn't come and see me after my opp LAP & DYE.....

I had to wait 2 long weeks for results by me ringing his PA!
I was referred back to hospital to explain my results... I was still in a state of shock I got shown my photos and told even tho both tubes are blocked at distal end not to worry as thy can do some amazing things... so i left happy & hopeful.

My next appointment was with the IVF clinic at the SAME hospital, just different unit...
I arrived at my IVF appointment happy and hopeful I was so wrong!
The IVF doctor refused to see me and it was a nurse that sat me down to explain to me there is nothing he will do for you because you have a daughter (not my hubbys) my hubby has no children i explained....
This doesn't matter.... He will not do anything for you....
I was a mess when I left the IVF unit...
I had to to all my appointments & operation on my own due to my hubby not being able to get time off work...

Since getting over my shock and doing lots of research I have read similar horror stories that here in the UK Doctors are very quick to get you on to IVF because you PAY for it!
GRRRRRRRRRRRRR

So I now have no faith in western medicine as all I have left is natural healing and my faith....
The only thing Im going to push for is a HSG as I have been swatting up on it and because I will awake during procedure so I feel Im in control.

I live in hope that my Dr are wrong and I did have a little trickle of dye or I had spasm during dye test.

Another strange thing.... I had no dye on my underwear after or on my bottom...
AND I was on my period the morning of opp as I came on an hour before opp (sorry tmi)
Doctor still said I was fine to go ahead as I was due to go down to theater...

I have also bought a CBFM to start tracking my cycle Im hoping that with my herbs and healing we might have better chances as I believe my blockage is not a true block and could be light scaring and gunk? sorry tmi.
I will be posting my results good or bad as It may help another further down the line...

Best of luck to you all... sending love light & baby dust xxx

 

[JJKCB]

Im 24 and feel more way supported than I expected, I expected for them to shrug me off like they did in the past with my high prolactin (where they ignored it for 2 years because its medically 'safe' just) but as soon as I said I was trying the transferred me straight to FS and I have tonnes of tests booked already

no one seems to be bothered by my age - maybe your hormones have you feeling a little sensitive to things

as a teenage I had problems with my second midwife - she was very old fashioned and nearly killed me by delaying and not calling the crash team when I hemorrhaged (my OH had to) even my mother said how horrendous she was, but other than her Ive never really had issues with anyone's attitude to my age, your 20s are by far the best time to have a child

 

[JJKCB]

You've got to be upfront with them and just tell them you are trying to get pregnant. If they won't help, move on to an RE who will. Are you insulin resistant PCOS? If so, you probably need to ask about taking metafomin with your clomid.

Look at it this way...you shouldn't feel at all uncomfortable for telling (yes, telling, NOT asking) for help with a medical condition so you can have a baby. You choose the doctor and pay them...they are basically someone you are hiring. They give advice and treatment, and if they are incompetent or not doing a good job, you 'fire' them and 'hire' someone else. The doctor doesn't run the show..YOU do.

actually over here the mass majority is free healthcare so you dont directly pay and dont really get to pick, they can deny not emergency thing because it uses tax payers money it cost a lot to go private