My OH and I talked about it, we are completely on the same page now and he's even got his other coworker (also female, but married) keeping an eye on her. I picked out a pretty nice bath set (bath salts, lotions etc) and was the one to give it to her, thought that would be nice as she is also a mom and needs to relax. I can't really steal it because it is clothing lol... I know I'm just overreacting to the fact that I know what kind of person she is (very selfish and very promiscuous) and how she thinks of everything in terms of sex. AS for going to work/lunch with him.. can't really do that as we only have one car and he takes it to work.. it's over a two mile walk through town from our house and it's not really weather I wanna get DD out in. As for her being the woman to make him feel good/flatter him, that would never be the case with her as she just unloads a lot of stupid BS on him, which puts him in a terrible mood... or so far as I can tell she still just see him as a friend but she has sneakily flirtatious motives outside just being nice... as I've said before she's gotten things for me and even our daughter. I had thought she might just be a little short on funds, but that thought didn't last more than a minute as she is always spending whether she has the money or not and she was telling my OH that she wanted to see how the clothes fit him.
And yes, at times I feel sorry for her.. but she makes it increasingly difficult to do so. I would go into more detail about her, but I still have enough respect for her in general not to blab about her personal life.. too much anyway. Thank you for all the advice and responses. I've pretty much let it go already, it is just hard sometimes because he spends 10 hours a day with her and I know how some women can be and another thing I find very annoying and off-putting is it always seems like she just has to text him to tell him something stupid the evening before they go back to work or she is texting pictures of her kids to our phone or pictures of her new hair color, hair style, etc., it is not like I am sending her pictures of my daughter, I have like one or twice, but it's not a habit of mine... TBH the fact that he is married doesn't really mean anything to her, but I am glad he is keeping an eye on her and that his other married coworker is keeping an eye on her as well. But I did tell my OH that if I felt she was taking too big of a step over boundaries, I will not hesitate one bit to give her a piece of my mind... thankfully it hasn't come to that and hopefully it won't.