Hubby thinks section is no big deal!

[ladysarcasma]

I wasn't planning to be pregnant ever again. Not after last time. My first baby was with my ex husband, so this will be DH's first child, and my second.

The first time, I had an EMCS after 32 hours of labor, lots of complications, 4 unit blood transfusion, intubation, infection, and ICU recovery. That was 5 years ago.

Later found out I have an inverted T uterine incision, so it must be a section again. So I've been freaking out ever since I found out I'm pregnant.

Of course I'm happy. I did actually want to *have* another baby. I just didn't want to go through the process again.

So as I'm talking about my concerns (mostly fearing that something catastrophic will happen), DH keeps telling me "That's not going to happen." "There's no way, it's going to be fine." He just "knows" it's fine, it's planned, and there's just nothin' to it. I know he's trying to be reassuring, but it's very upsetting when I'm completely freaking out and he's being somewhat invalidating.

I have 2 months until surgery. The closer it gets, the more paranoid I feel...and the more laid back and groovy he is. I guess if you're not the one on the table, it's easier to brush it off.

 

[Staceyh1983]

Hi. I have had 2 c sections and both emergencies. I am going to ttc feb 2013 and will definitely be having another section I think and the doctor said a planned section is far more simpler and calmer compared to an emergency. My 2 children are from a previous relationship and this will be mine and my husbands first and he just seems to brush it off but really I know he just doesn't want to upset me. I am sure you will be fine Hun and your other half doesn't want to make you any nervous then you already are xx

 

[LDC]

Is there anyway that you could give him some information on sections so that he can have a little read up on the operation? I'd imagine that your OH probably feels a little overwhelmed or that he genuinely doesn't understand your worries or what is involved with a section. He is probably trying to make sure that he can comfort you as best he can, through the reassurance, even if this is making you go a little crazy because of your own worries.

Remember though, this is planned and all of your past experiences will be known by the medical staff so will be monitored much more closely. I'm sure everything will run smoothly just keep talking about your worries so you have people to reflect off

Xx

 

[Staceyh1983]

I YouTube a video and showed it to mine xx

 

[mom of 1 or 2]

My hubs was pretty passive about the whole thing too, until the day OF the surgery when I could tell he was a little anxious and hyper. It's really weird actually, because I have ALWAYS been so scared of having surgery and especially scared of getting the epidural and IV. But I was really pretty calm the day of and accepted it as something that had to be done for the health of me and the baby. I was really looking forward to it since I would be awake during the surgery and could hear and see things (I was even fine during the IV --- after the nurse taking THREE tries to get it in, blood spurting all over at one point and all). I don't know what happened to me, because this was SO out of character for me to be so calm (I'm a naturally high-strung individual LOL) -- normally I would have either freaked out or fainted. So, I think once I accepted the fact there was no other choice, it made me more excited than worried.

You WILL be fine though.

 

[j1405]

i think that men dont grasp the fact that a section is still major abdominal surgery. the media makes it all look so simple... just a quick incision and out pops the baby, close you up and thats it! put him on that table and it would be a whole different story

but i think even though you are freaking out, its in a way better to have a calm relaxing hubby than one freaking out with you as it would just stress you even more. planned sections tend to go allot smoother and calmer... minimal chance for complication because everyone is prepared whereas with an emcs everything happens in a craze all at one.

i'm having an elective section again and i must say when its planned its actually a beautifull experience and you can rest assured no labour, no emergencies.. just a safe way to take out your brand new baby!

 

[lili24]

Mine was the same until the day of the surgery and then it hit him! Having a planned caesarean will be so different to your previous experience though, it will be so much calmer and hopefully a much more positive experience for you with a quicker recovery.