I did it!

[sue_88]

This evening at 5:30pm I opened my case with the Child Maintenance Service (CSA).

He has other children, and will receive paperwork through the post. If he is still living with his wife this could cause some s**t but Millie has to come first.

Cheating, lying, having a wife whilst trying for a baby (for 3 years!!) with me will not bring you good karma!

Now we wait......

 

[Dezireey]

Oh well done honey! you did it. Once the money comes in and it helps with the baby it gives at least some comfort that he is being (forced) to be responsible for his actions.

It really is not for you to worry or concern yourself about his wife etc. He shouldn't have pissed you about and lied to you. This is what you get when you treat women like this, its tough really.

My ex will now have two children to pay for and he will be really skint after this kicks off properly. The way I see it, less money for him to spend on his new woman and her kids. She will probably get suspicious and wonder where his money is going? and if they end up living together, well, he can't hide that for long and lying to her now saying he has 'no kids' and I am a crazy psycho that's making it all up (yes, he has told her that) will be proved wrong.

Hang in there and keep going with it, well done, its worth it!

Hugs xxx

 

[Dream.dream]

Oh my what a dirtbag ! Hope he gets what's coming to him

 

[sue_88]

He text me tonight and said he wants her every weekend, hope he's bluffing as that's not happening.

 

[Dream.dream]

He text me tonight and said he wants her every weekend, hope he's bluffing as that's not happening.

He won't get every weekend that's laughable . Usually dads get every other weekend

 

[sue_88]

He's being an arse, basically saying stop the claim and no contact or if I continue with the claim he will take Millie each weekend.

Using the kid he doesn't even know as a bride and punishment. We'll let him take me to court, that'll go down well. Dick

 

[Jox]

He sounds like an idiot he's just trying to scare you off, don't let him!!

Well done for putting the claim in xx

 

[babycrazy1706]

What a twat!!

Well done you!! Xx

 

[teal]

Omg he had a wife while trying for a baby with you! No words really! Where do we find these men?!

Every weekend is laughable! Well done you on claiming CSA. I've considered it but my ex got very nasty so I've not claimed anything.

xx

 

[sue_88]

I'm considering cancelling. He's threatening me & it's frightening. I don't want him near Millie or me & he knows where I live. I've blocked his number now. I wish I hadn't done this now, I've been so upset the last couple of days. We were fine, don't know why I needed to go and ruin it

 

[teal]

That's would worry me too. It's not fair that some of us are scared into not claiming because of threatening behaviour.

Do you think he would follow through with taking you to court? I hope you're ok xx

 

[weebubba]

Report his behaviour! Could it be possible that it's really him who is worried about what he has done already in the hope that threatening you will mean he can have a hassle free life if you back down i.e. All mouth and no trousers.

Why should he get away with not putting his hand in his pocket he was happy to create life and that comes with moral and financial obligations.

I hope you get matters resolved in your favour. Good luck.

 

[Dezireey]

Oh sue, don't cancel CSA. That is exactly what he wants you to do. I have suffered the exact same thing for the past year and he used the fact that I was still in love with him to emotionally blackmail me into not claiming money. Whenever I backed off, he was lovely to me and kept in touch and tried to offer help ( not financial) I thought that was better than nothing. Since I discovered all his lies ( he has a job on the side, so is not 'poor' and has now got another woman and let's her kids call him 'dad' despite him saying to me he 'hates kids' and that he could never be with anyone else after me) I have been strong and forceful and motivated to be unafraid of him. Not told you guys on here but he actually posted on his blog page, (day after I contacted CSA) that he wanted to shoot us and have the wisdom to hide the bodies. He later retracted it and said it wasn't meant for me ( yeah right) when I called the police and also told his new woman about him abandoning his child ( sadly for her, she has ignored me and believes that I am making it up and don't actually have a child!?. LoL ).

So...no matter what he says or does , don't listen. That is their game. Threaten you to back off. Nothing hurts them more than a big dent in their pocket. Your child needs financial support and it's the law that he provides it. If you are worried, call the police and social services and tell them he is blackmailing you, tell HIM you will do this if he continues. Better still, next time he gets in touch, tell him you will have a nice word with his 'wife' ( if you haven't already? ) and show her evidence and tell her all about his indiscretions. ( in some cases, CSA payments can be hidden from wives, so don't think just because you are moving forward, she will find out)

Play him at his own game and firmly and resolutely tell him that you will not be blackmailed and he will not have access to your child, ever.

Be strong, you can do it. If I can do it ( and I backed off for so long) then you can do it too!

 

[Mummy1995]

Call the police and report him hun. Try to push for an injunction so he can't come near the two of you. Don't cancel it hun. It'll only teach him a) threatening behaviour gets what he wants and that b) he can walk all over you. Massive hugs. He's just trying to scare you so he doesn't have to pay! Xx

 

[Jox]

Dezireey is right!! Don't let him scare u off!! That's all he's doing! He's scared of his wife finding out, well he should of thought of that. Notify that police on the threats, no phone calls with him, just texts/emails so u have the proof! U need to do this for your daughter and u r string enough to stand up to him xx