I dont come in this section much but figured youd be the best to ask....

[Mummy2Angel.]

Well earlier in the year i lost my baby boy max at 13 weeks, it was a stressful pregnancy (even thought short). When i found out i told my mum the day later, my mum and dad done everything they could to try and get me to 'you know what', they bribed me, and my mum told me she would prefer me dead than pregnant. Eventually when i reached about 11 weeks they came around to the idea, saying they would help my and OH get a flat, and help pick the pram etcetc...

After i lost max, i felt like they didnt really care, all they spoke about was me going back on the pill and it not happening again! At the time we were trying i had a job and so did OH, In july i got made redudant, and then found out a week or so later i was pregnant and unfortunaly my OH works seasonally and finishes his job next week (obv we are both looking very hard for jobs) , me and OH hadnt been trying we were more NTNP, and im over the moon, eveything is well this time around but ive managed to hide it and not tell my parents yet.

Really i just want some advice on how you told your parents, and how you would maybe go about it in my sitatuion, my first thought of i to write a letter and give that along with the scan photo.....

 

[DazedConfused]

Oh no! Parents stress is horrible. My parents took it bad. But they fail anyway.

Have to say in person is best though

 

[aob1013]

For me, i just bit the bullet and told them straight out that i was pregnant.

My DF and I went up to my parents and told them. They were not best pleased as i was 18 at the time, but they got round to it pretty quickly.

I think you need to get this out sooner rather than later! x

 

[GemmaLeanne]

i pretty much knew my mum would be shocked but supportive and my dad would hit the roof.. so i just did it. i didnt even give myself a chance to think about it, as soon as i got my posetive at my bf's i rang my mum to tell her i was on my way and had something to tell her (so that she would quiz me when i got there incase i chickened out on the way) and got straight on the bus home with my bf there for some support. i was right.. my dad kicked off bad, he didnt talk to me for 2 weeks solid but it was good to have it in the open
i definately say face to face unless you cant bring yourself to do it, then id try a letter.. it is important you tell them though xx

 

[EmyDra]

Given the circumstances I can't see how they can just expect you to sort of, 'forget and move on'. Losing a baby is so traumatic for anyone and I do not know what I'd have felt if I'd have lost mine (since I'm single TTC is sort of out of the question).

If they understand how hard this has been for you then I would say they should accept it quickly and celebrate in the joy of the baby with you. I hope so anyway, I would tell them soon and explain how happy you are x

Good luck

 

[SugarKisses]

i told my mum straight away and she was worried-because of loosing my baby girl and baby boy, but she was fine with it and supported me from the word go.
As for FOB's parents. We didnt tell them this time till I was 21 weeks, with Sophie I was 22 weeks and Luke I was 18 weeks when we told them. We knew their reactions wouldnt be good....they care more about how we would cope in terms of money, rather than anything else and tbh the 2 times we told them about Sophie and Luke, they were better than we thought they would be.....this time, has been an absolute nightmare resulting in me and FOB ending our relationship. His gran got in my face and started shouting at me and saying some awful things-all because we told them I am pregnant.

Stress from parents is so unnecessary......its your body and your choice after all xx

 

[Yazz_n_bump]

My parents tried to force me to abort my last pregnancy, however it ended up as a MMC. OH blamed them for a while and we all fell out.
3 months later I was pregnant again, while on the pill. I was scared to death as what had happened last time. I bottled it up for 13 weeks and then at my 13 week scan I was told bub's may of been high risk for downs, I got back to my mum and dad's house and cried my eyes out. I ended up telling my mum.
She was in shock and told me to leave the house while she told my dad. My dad was shocked but this time was different. They knew how much last time had hurt me and OH and how much I couldn't bare to loose this baby. After 3 weeks after they got their head around it, they became very supportive and now are really excited. They've helped us get a house and they get on really well with OH now.

Just tell them babes, they may suprise you.

 

[Jadelm]

Just bite the bullet hun, come straight out with it and then it's done! Face to face is best but if you really don't think you can do it then the letter and scan photo is a nice idea good luck hun x

 

[kandyfloss]

Im 24 weeks and still havent told my dad... but then again he sticks around for a week at a time and then dissapears for months so I personally dont think he needs to as he'd only try to make me change my mind etc.

However we thought telling my boyfriends mum was going to be awful, but she took it really well bit shocked as I was on the pill but shes been really good. They'll come round again no doubt xxx

 

[DanielleM]

When I told my parents I was pregnant the first time around I was only 18, my mum was upset and my dad didn't speak to me for a few weeks which at the time I was devestated, but when I was further down the road in the pregnancy they both come round and helped me buy things and decorate the nursery (fob had buggered off by this point) and then when Evan arrived all was forgiven and I was the best thing since sliced bread for providing them with a grandson!!! It all works out in the end. Sadly since then my dad has passed away at the grand old age of 43 (massive shock) and I like to think he had 3 wonderful years with a grandson, all things happen for a reason. When I told my mum I was pregnant this time round (we had been trying and I am 25 now) I just got a massive congratulations. xx