I don't know any more...Am i right? :(

[KaeRit21]

sorry girls this might be long....but i need a bit of advice...

most of u will know about all the on going probs i had with FOB and his family, before he went away.
Now ive had to cut all contact with him as he was sending me letters even though i wasnt responding and he was upsetting me.

his sister, to start with was texting me every day and when i didn't reply she'd text me again. i finally got fed up and told her that i was sorry but i didnt have time to sit around waiting for her to text in order to txt back. her texts are now so few and far between its unbelievable

shes seen Ellis ONCE since he was born, (5 weeks ago!) and the 2nd time she'd text to ask if she could come, she left me sitting in the house all day waiting for her,only to text at 5 o'clock to say she couldnt make it! i was so angry at her, it was a whole day wasted completely.

i then was told just before xmas that FOB had pics up of my LO on his bebo. i was fuming, as 1) he hasnt been around, and he hasnt got any photos and 2) he damn well didnt have my permission to put them there. i was then able to see for myself that it was MY pics that had been put on his pro, and it really upset me. his neice had uploaded them, even though they were private, and that meant she had to have saved them to her ocmp before putting them up. i was so upset i called his sister, asking extremely nicely for my pics to be taken down, as he had no right to have them and that the neice had no bloody right taking them and passing them off as his under the heading "MY precious baby boy!" his? HIS? dont fucking think so!!!!
his sister and neice said they'd take them off...two weeks later, there still on there and she'd even had the cheek to put up the SAME pic for his profile display as me.

his ister has text me twice since to see if she can come down and see ellis and twice av made sure i wasnt going to be in. She wants to come down and take pics, to take into HIM and i point blank refuse to allow it.

Am i in the wrong to be pissed off and not want anything more to do with them? they've done nothing for ellis, and the present she brought down for him when he was born had her OWN little boys name on it!!! it was a memory book and when i opened it half of it has been filled in, she hadnt even bothered to get ellis a new one, never mind make sure that the one she was given me hadnt been used!!!
i dont want them here, and i especially dont want them now that they've deliberately ignored my request to have the pics removed, even though ive reported his profile to the bebo site!

what do you girls think? and again, im sorry its so long!


xxxx

 

[expecting09]

Sounds like they wanna come down and get there own pics so they can give them to him so he can put them on bebo becuase they would be 'his' pics. Your not in the wrong hun, they've shown no proper interest x

 

[lou_w34]

Agree with above!
They've shown no real interest so why should you allow it??

Id be furious too, have bebo replied back to you?

Try not to let them get to you

xx

 

[Ash_P]

No way r u in the wrong! Id be kicking off as well hun. Bebo should either cancel his profile or remove the pics.
They havent bothered there arse to show any sign of concern towards ellis, and from the sounds of things they are just causing u more stress, which in turn will effect ellis. So i would stand by ur guns, keep them outta ur life, and try and keep urself stress free. At least if he writes u can put the letters in the bin without even reading them.

Hack into his bebo urself and delete the account lol Its not like hes updating it!! lol x

 

[teal]

You're not in the wrong I'd be furious aswell. I agree if they are not showing genuine interest in Ellis and causing you all this stress then you are better off not wanting anything to do with them.
Sending you hugs xx

 

[Foxxy]

First of all lots of

I know it's easier to say and harder to do but in such situations when u really can't influence on them - it's better for urself trying to keep calm. I know it's not easy at all, but the more u think about it...the more u will be upset. I genuine beleive - what goes around comes around...so if he and his family act this way...they will get what they deserve in some or other ways...just sooner or later.

 

[tinkabells]

Can you not report the pics? So they have to be taken down or bebo, does it asap themselves?
But i dont think your wrong at all, i would do the same!!!xxx

 

[sweetlullaby]

I would report him on bebo and tell them that they have posted pictures of your child etc and that you want them removed type thing.

Also I would contact him family bring them around and have some serious words with them. Tell them that you dont want fob involved in any way etc and that if they want to see ellis they have to abide by your rules and go by what suits you and your LO. Specify things like no pictures etc and tell them if they dont show up or upset you or make things awkward for you in any way they're out. They wont get to see him and tough sh** but its your LO your thinking of and you cant be hanging around all day waiting on them showing up or having them deliberatly defy you and walk all over you! Stress the whole "one strike and your out" and stick to it hun otherwise they will end up making your life difficult and will constantly stress you out and upset you which isnt good when you've not long had your LO! If they continue to mess you about etc and wont remove them pictures tell them you've had enough and your reporting them to the police for theft of pictures of your LO, and for posting them on the internet without your permission and tell them they will get done for it and possibly be put on the sex offenders list for having images of a baby on their computer without the mothers permission etc!

I kind of waffled a bit but my main point is tell them to piss the hell off and not to mess with you! Be the "bad guy" and dont let them walk all over you!!

 

[tinkabells]

Heard anymore, are the pics still up? xxx

 

[nievesmama]

I agree with what everyone else has said hun. I would be fuming to

 

[KaeRit21]

pics are still there and his sister has had the bare faced cheek to text me and say that is it ok to come down, shes got nappy and stuff to bring down from FOB!!! i asked her how the hell this was possible, ye no with him being fecking locked up and all!! and she replied they'd been bought with his wages that were in the bank since before he went!

He couldnt pay for "His" son's pram when he clearly had the money sitting and told me he didnt!!!, but now hes nearly 6 weeks old hes gna start sending stuff? im fuming. have told the family in no uncertain terms to FECK RIGHT OFF, and that its best of she doesnt contact me again to shove "nappys and stuff" up FOB's ARSE!.

are they now trying to say i cant provide for my own little boy? doing very well on my own thank you very fecking much!!!

have reported his profile back to bebo to say that if they dont take steps to have them removed i will be taking it furthur because he has no right to have them and does not have my permission, could they please see the photos and his profile are removed from the site before i have to report him to the police.
i shall let you all know how i get on.

my rant is done ladies you will be pleased to know, lol, thank you for all kind replies!! your all angels you lot!!!

xxx

 

[sweetlullaby]

Yay!! go you i would have lost it as well lol

 

[lou_w34]

I hope bebo take them down... if they dont, id just contact them again and lie to them saying that he is pretending to be a dad with your sons pics heehee



xx

 

[AP]

Bebo normally give a quick response, thats odd they haven't done anything!

 

[Hopin&Prayin]

I'd be furious too.. Keep at Bebo I'm surprised they did'nt take them down right away....
You don't need the undue stress, I'd tell the whole family to Feck off too... Hang it there you can do this, you have the best part of him, only if the FOB would wake up and share responsibility.. My heart goes out to you... be strong, you'll be just fine...

 

[Hollys_Twinny]

I'd be so angry x

 

[purpledahlia]

are they now trying to say i cant provide for my own little boy? doing very well on my own thank you very fecking much!!!


xxx

they better Effing not be!! What a cheek!

I agree with what everyone else has said!

 

[sweetlullaby]

is there any possibility that bebo has been removing them and FOB etc just keep putting them back on his profile?

 

[KaeRit21]

i dont honestly no Sweetlullaby, but i sent off this HUGE report email to them and ive just clicked on email this morning to one that says that they are dealing with it and thanking me for my report. i dont want you to thank me, i just want you to get his profile off the god damned site, that and all the pics of MY little boy

it still hurts that he and his family even had the nerve...almost feel like theyve stolen my memories and turned them into something..bad?

he gave me the runaround for months and constantly let me down, now he feels like hes got some sort of "right" (yes. his sister has actually said this to me). to have them "he is his dad afterall" oh REALLY? well funny that, coz for months all he wanted to do was get drunk, go out, not pay for anything for his son, and kiss randoms on nights out, he didnt want to know how me or "his" son was doing, he text once in a blue moon, only to let me down AGAIN and couldnt even tell me how many weeks i was when i went for my scan.... oh yes, i see your point there. Daft C*w!

xxx

 

[SweetNothings]

He sounds like he's trying to fake interest in the child so that the whole world thinks he is a wonderful dad when really he doesnt ever show up to see the child or support the child.

I dont normally watch Jeremy Kyle but the other day he said something really smart that kinda bears some relevance to your situation:

Tread water carefully. If he can show up when he is supposed to to see the baby and provide support for the baby then it shows he is a good dad, but if he cant do that then you have the right to hold your child back because by him not showing up its causing inconsistency for the child, instability and its raising hopes that the child will see him when hes supposed to but then gets his hopes crashed when he doesnt.

I'm all for both parents seeing their child, but if one shows no care and doesnt show up then you are essentially saying you dont care and you dont want to be with your child....in a sense you are giving up your rights as a parent, you cant just pick and choose to show up once in a blue moon....there has to be consistency, kids need to be able to rely on their mom AND dad