i dont know what to do..

[emalou90]

so cutting around the small talk, fob has decided to say he cant afford £200 (even though thats a figure he offered me) a month for our daughter. he said £150 is all he can give me. Yet this month he can only give me £110.

cant help but feel im being messed about
i dont want inconsistancy.

 

[gemabee]

csa!

 

[lulu35]

i have 3 girls to an ex (not this babys dad) he pays me 200 a month for them but sometimes its less but he always tells me well before hand what he can afford that month and im fine with that as long as i know, he also takes the girls every weekend (fri-sun) and buys them whatever clothing they need throughout the month...does your lo's dad have regular contact with her or contribute towards other costs for her?...if not then its not fair of him to keep changing the goal posts...what i will say is that if you go down the csa raod they will award you 15% of his take home pay for her so if you know what this is you could work out if mabey you will be better off going down that road...goodluck xx

 

[teal]

Might be worth while going down the csa road if you feel he's going to mess you about.
I don't know too much on it since I don't claim maintenance but sending you hugs

 

[suzanne108]

CSA definitely!!

Hope you get it sorted

 

[xoxsarahxox]

my ex partner (father to my first son) also offered me £200 a month for ou son when we split up. i never saw a penny. whne i took him to th csa the prick lied t them. cause he works for his mum and dad they swindle the books so his wage slip says he earns £110 a week when really he is taking home over £300 a week and i no this for sure as thats what he earnt in the 2 and half years that i was with him. so now he pays £5.00 a week through the csa and there is sod all i can do about it :/

 

[emalou90]

thats terrible Sarah i don't know what you could do to help your situation, sounds so frustrating! xx

 

[emalou90]

thanks all you ladies.. i dont know if i want the csa road? everyone says im being too soft, and in a way i think i am but another way i dont want to make his life hard just because mine is, you know?

trying to go about it all amicably but feel like im getting nowhere, he's not sold the car we jointly bought, he hardly contacts me about seeing amelia, i have to ask him. and he's not bothered looking into selling our jointly owned home.. which is stopping me from gettnig any help finding a council home because i should technically be living there

my parents are now getting on my back to sort it out but i dont know what to do, its all so daunting for me. legal advice, i mean, im 20, what the hell.. its just too much.

xxx

 

[gemabee]

thanks all you ladies.. i dont know if i want the csa road? everyone says im being too soft, and in a way i think i am but another way i dont want to make his life hard just because mine is, you know?

trying to go about it all amicably but feel like im getting nowhere, he's not sold the car we jointly bought, he hardly contacts me about seeing amelia, i have to ask him. and he's not bothered looking into selling our jointly owned home.. which is stopping me from gettnig any help finding a council home because i should technically be living there

my parents are now getting on my back to sort it out but i dont know what to do, its all so daunting for me. legal advice, i mean, im 20, what the hell.. its just too much.

xxx

i'm sorry but i'm gettin slightly frustrated.
u don't want to make his life hard jus because urs is?
ur life is hard because of him!
he won't sell the car / house u BOTH own.
u obviously don't have a choice but to go down the csa road so do it!
if ur not prepared to do that then u can't really complain... the csa is there for situations like this.
jus phone the csa... they do everythin for u... stop makin excuses nd make this man accept his responsibilities.

 

[jaala]

Ahh i understand the softness of the female heart! But make him pay up sweetheart! Be stronger for your children Im sure your not wanting his money to just go out and buy lipstick with. Even the little things add up.. the unexpected costs.. like needed a new tv stand bc yours has sharp corners and no shelves to hide wires.. baby gates.. they are not cheap! Go through your csa there.. do you have any idea what they would calculate off of his wage? Is it more or less than the 200? He mite only end up hurting himself more by dicking you about now!