i feel like im failing.....

[teen mummy]

sorry ladies its abit of a rant
lately i feel like im failing in everythin that i do. My school, My daughter.

I worry about the tinyist things like :

will Amelia hate me for not lettin her see her dad (hes a prik, an wanted her to die during birth)?

will i even find anybody who would want to settle down with me now i have amelia?

will i pass my exam so i wont live on benifits?

i have just been feeling really s*** atm. oh an also i thought i had found a really nice guy who would acctually accept me for hu i was but found out he just wanted to use me! y are men such priks!
xxxxxx

 

[AppleBlossom]

Hey hun

First of all, Amelia will thank you for not letting that wanker around her. He is nothing but trouble and completely irresponsible. You would be a bad mother for letting her be anywhere near him!!

Secondly, of course you will find someone! You're only 16, you have your entire life ahead of you! You don't need to rush. Contrary to popular belief not ALL men are complete and utter tw*ts and some do actually have the balls to take on another man's child. Just enjoy your time with Amelia without having a man milling about.

Thirdly, you WILL pass your exams! All you need to do is work hard. It's only for a couple of months and it will be difficult but once they're over, that's it. You will not end up living on benefits all your life. I hate the fact I am on benefits because I feel like a complete stereotypical teen mum. Single, living off the state. Hopefully one day very soon I can get to college and get the qualifications I need to better myself and pay for myself. But for now that's not possible. You need to keep a PMA lol

x

 

[~KACI~]

Whats she said!!^^^ lol

Massive hugs x

 

[xarlenex]

As Bexy said, she will not hate you. Once she's old enough, you can tell her the truth..or as close to the truth as you wish and she'll understand.
I met someone pretty fast after splitting with John, so I can vouch that yes, there are men out there who will take on the responsibility. He accepted me for what I was..stretchmarks, baby puke smelling and all! You will find that too

As for your exams, you can only do your best, if by any chance it isn't good enough right now, whos to say you can't re-do anything at college? I felt pretty down about all this type of thing and my aunt sent me a nice quote..

"Patience and perserverence have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish."
John Quincy Adams

So things might take a while, but you'll get there in the end

 

[LoobyLou75]

I agree with what Bexy and xarlenex said.

I was a teen mum too. Had my daughter when I was 15 and although I was lucky enough at the time for her dad to stick around, we did split up eventually.

I passed my exams, managed to get an 'O' Level then went to college and got an NVQ and have since been on many a training course to get more qualifications.
I know it may feel like you are 'stuck' now, but with sheer determination, you WILL get where you want to be and your beautiful daughter will be very proud of you no matter what, cos the only thing that really matters is being a good mummy and i'm very positive that you are.

As for men, I went through 3 disastrous relationships after the birth of my kids and like you I thought all men were worthless pieces of c**p but I eventually met a wonderful man who accepted me, my kids, stretchmarks, hang ups etc etc and we've been married nearly 3 years and are hoping to conceive our own LO this summer.

Please don't give up hope.