XoXoHearts
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I don't mean to be a total downer but I am pretty upset right now. Years ago I was forced to make a very hard decision, I was with my now ex fiance and we had a son, 8 months in he decided that I must have cheated. I had one week to leave with my son and no one to help me and no where to go. I literally had nothing, no money, no car, no place to stay (I called over 20 people only to hear "no" when I asked if I could stay a few days on their couch with my baby). I knew that if I worked very very hard I could raise my son but he wouldn't have any of my time and I would barely be able to provide for him because I didn't even have an education. I decided the best thing for him was to do whatever it took to give him the life he deserved. He went to a wonderful family that can give him the world. Fast forward: We weren't actively trying but when it happened I was happy and sad. I feel like having a new baby is wrong that I shouldn't have another one because I couldn't keep my son and I feel guilty because I am happy. My partner and I decided that even though we're only 8 1/2 weeks along we would tell some of our close friends. No one is happy about it. I've heard that I don't need another baby, had someone ask me if I'm going to give this one away too, and the only person that even thought to say congratulations was the receptionist at my dentists office when I called to ask if I could still get work done. I know it shouldn't matter what other people think and I should just be happy because having a child is supposed to be a very happy occasion but I'm very sad. Why would people say those things to me, they know the full story, they've seen how many hard years it took for me to be functional again, yet they chose some of the worst things possible. Am I a terrible person because I gave my son up for adoption? I did what I thought was the right thing. Is it wrong that I'm having a new baby? Is it okay to be happy?