i want to bf in public! tips?

[FsMummy]

ok im gonna need to start bf in public so i can take dd out (shes been stuck indoors all week) but im worried im gonna be flashing my boobs at everyone. what tips do u have for bf discreetly in public. i can put a blanket over us but i still have to pull my top right up. is it worth investing in some decent nursing tops? i dont have any atm. are they more discreet? im really paranoid about flashing my flesh everywhere i dont have a clue how i would tandem feed out n about. im only really talking about going to thge park and seaside and things like that so i could find a quiet empty spot to bf im sure. thoughts ladies? thanks x

 

[spacecadet]

i found a blanket over us seemed to attract more attention!
a zipped or buttoned top and a vest underneath so i caold pull the vest up and unzipp down just far enough so literally just my nipple is 'exposed' and the zipped top is hiding my belly and the vest is coming down just over her mouth slightly .. practise in front of a mirror and get used to latching on first at home till yr comfy with it.. now i can do it without even looking! i use my hand to cover any bits till shes in place..
then u could do what i did and do it in public in the busiest place u can find (our local pub!), after that anywhere else is a breeze!! most peeps dont even know what we're doing! im always getting people coming over to say hello, then getting all bashful when they realise the baby is feeding!
hope this helps and good luck

 

[aevenstar]

I wear two layers too - vest underneath and then t shirt on top - pull up t shirt and leave the vest down (opposite of spacecadet!) I went out yesterday and had no clean vests so was wearing a nursing top, but found it didn't cover enough of my back.

Other tips - don't sit in the window of places with the side your feeding on pointing outwards thinking at least you're not flashing the people inside - I managed to give a cinema queue a nice eyeful yesterday!

That said, after a few goes in public, I'm really not fussed anymore - I'm more embarassed if she's screaming for food!

Good luck

Rachel

 

[FsMummy]

thanks. some really good ideas! im gonna start practicing at home today. oh wants to take them to the park so dd can play with her new rocket so they might need feeding while we're out. if i'm no good i can always run to the car. only thing that really worries me is if they want feeding at the same time because they usually do!

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

I used a blanket the first few times, but Lo don't really like being covered with it. Now I tend to use the blanket while i get him to latch on... then I jsut take the blanket away. i find how he's positioned you can't really see anything anyway. I would rather flash a little flesh then have my Lo screaming the place down for food.

i was feeding at a christening (the party bit) and one of our friends came over and peered and him and was like aww he's sleeping. i shook my head and said 'no he's feeding' he blushed and was so embarrassed 'Started apologising to me.' i tried telling him i really wasn't bothered he couldn't see anyway. Then he said to my other half. i'm so embarassed i wasn't looking at her misses boobs honest.' Lol
so i find others are more embarrassed than I am

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

Oh and good luck with it hun...let us know how you get on

 

[Mervs Mum]

I think Belly Bands are great under clothes so you can lift tops and still have your tummy and lower back well covered up. I wore a lightweight poncho at first but I actually found a pashmina round my shoulders better. I could keep it in my bag slip round my shoulders like it was just something I was wearing, get her organised and drape it across her/me. I positioned myself in corners with my back to people and I honestly never had so much as a side glance. An odd mum would give me a knowing smile.

 

[Babyshambelle]

Im a vest and normal top over the top girl! Pull the normal top up and the vest top down and hey presto! No belly shows because the vest top is in place (you can even tuck the vest top into your trousers) and no boob shows because of your normal top on the top. Once you have latched bubs on, you can push your normal top down to their nose and nobody will give you a second glance

 

[FsMummy]

i think the vest and normal top idea is what ill try. just got to invest in some decent maternity bras now!

 

[Mervs Mum]

This vest/top combo always intrigues me......doesnt your vest get stretch out of all proportion?

 

[FsMummy]

u know what, i think i threw out all my stretchy vests. i was having an "im really pregnant and really fat and nothing fits me" day lol finally, an excuse to go shopping tho lol

 

[Babyshambelle]

This vest/top combo always intrigues me......doesnt your vest get stretch out of all proportion?

Haha, yeh they do...but for 98p in Primark I don't mind overstretching them

 

[FsMummy]

is it worth getting the nursing ones with clips?

 

[Mervs Mum]

I'd hate the way they feel under my clothes! Either that or I'd have to wear a new one every time....move over Victoria Beckham!!

 

[FsMummy]

lol im gonna try it if ive got any vests left from my bout of pregnancy rage lol if not i think ill try the nursing ones. wat do u all think about tandem feeding in public? i really dnt think i could do it!

 

[baileysmom85]

i have a breast feeding cover works good... kinda fits like an apron you dont have to worry about it falling down like a blanket and baby can see my face if i gather it in the middle

 

[charlieann]

i always feel confident enough to do it anywhere if someone else is with me.
thomas sometimes likes to play and spill milk all over me. if someone else is there then they burp him for me whilst i adjust my clothing, holding a burp cloth to prevent accidental flashing.

 

[elm]

is it worth getting the nursing ones with clips?

If you mean bra - yes, vest - no!

I've got a few with clips and still just tend to pull them down, so much quicker and easier!!! I do the two top thing too. They don't go out of shape and they're really cheap anyway I also use some boob tubes I got really cheap from Primark as bump bands that I use.

If you've got a mirror to practice in front of you'll be able to see what you're exposing xxx

 

[JayleighAnn]

I don't like the vest and t-shirt combo, I get hot very easily so I spend all day sweating and I hate feeding with a blanket over us, Halen won't feed properly cause hes all hot and I can't see what I'm doing

TBH I just pull my top up a bit to just above my nipple, once Halen is latched on I have my hand over the top of my boob to keep my big boobies off his nose else lol he can't breath.

My OH says no one can see anything anyway.

 

[Faerie]

I'm like JayleighAnn, I get really really hot so no way I could wear two tops.

For me the best thing has been tight t-shirts or vests that I hitch up to just above the nipple and with her latched on no one can see my belly anyway.

When she was little and not latching on very easily I have a bf cover, the apron thing someone else mentioned, but to be honest it's more faff than anything else and she's more likely to fuss as hates being covered.

I have 3 or 4 nursing tops and wish I never bothered buying them - they're expensive and difficult to use as far as I'm concerned.

I've fed everywhere - restaurants, trains, aeroplanes, bars, benches... I never "get my boobs out" and I'm discreet, most people wouldn't realise what I'm doing but if she needs feeding I'm going to feed her.