I'm scared and worried about the future.

[jessicaR4bbit]

I am ashamed to admit that I was fully dependent on LO's dad for financial support. Now that we're not together, my plans have to change, and I'm so upset. I really wanted to stay at home with the baby to raise him (was a homeschooling hopeful) but I just can't see how I can stay home and write my books for a living with no money coming in anymore. I was going to look for a part-time bar or waitressing job to do in the evenings, but LO is still breastfeeding 24/7 and I had no intention of weaning him yet. I am just so confused and scared. What am I going to do now? All my future plans have been shattered and they were what I really wanted to do in life... being single is as if I've made a huge sacrifice and I know I'll regret it when I'm older. I never wanted that. I can't afford daycare either. F$%^ I'm lost and confused. Just wanted to air that out somewhere before marching down to the benefits office.

 

[Dream.dream]

Take a deep breath first. Plans may have changed but if the relatio shop didn't work I'm assuming there was a reason .

Being a single mom doesn't might make something's a little hard but not impossible. And sometimes there are things that do need to be sacrificed, but being a single mom means you have to balance what's really important to you with what's realistically possible .

Keep your chin up. Being a single mom isn't always easy but the rewards are so much more .

 

[Dezireey]

I think the hardest stage of being a single mum (in financial terms) is if you are alone in the babies early stages of life. It's just a no brainier. A mum has to stay at home and breast feed and can't very well put a new born in nursery etc. It's also difficult because of the age of your child. But try hard to see it as just a stage in your life. Seek help, get benefits, sell things on e-bay to get money, budget like never before etc etc. Yes, it's tough, but does it have to be like this for the rest of your life? No, it doesn't and keep that in your head to motivate you.

If you know in your heart you have made the best decision to leave FOB, then stick with it. Never go back to a man just because you need his money or think you can't cope alone. You can and you will.

Babies eventually turn into children and then they go to school. These are the years ahead where there will be more sanity and better job prospects. You will also probably meet someone else who will help with running a household and pay his share of the bills in future, so it's not all doom and gloom. I have had ups and downs in my life. I was poor as hell ten years ago when I had a leg injury and couldn't work and lived off cans of soup. But as soon as my leg got better and I could get back into work again, life just went ahead and got better again and I had money.

Just look at it as a stage in your life sweetie and just enjoy your LO as much as you can at this stage. Before you know it, they will be all grown up!

Hugs xx