Infertliity is on my SHIT LIST

[Tigger Momma]

Ladies, I may need a faith booster tonight. I went to my doctors appt and it didnt go as expected. He said that I am fine and that on a scale on 1 to 3, I am a 1 which is good as far as my cervical displasia goes. That I am happy about BUT............He also said that he will not be putting me on Clomid ( this is the 3rd time he's postponed it). Its like every appt I go to, he puts the promise of Clomid off and its getting annoying. He said that if I got pregnant and my cervical displaysia went into severe that that would be bad but I can keep on trying naturally!!!

I just dont get it. I might as well go on birth control to almost guarantee my cycle regularity (my cycle regularity was apart of the reason for my initial doctor's visit to him, my cycles were very long and it totally messed up my sex life as I had close to none, I was ALWAYS on my cycle, I can count how many times Ive BD since APRIL 9th of this year, DOC thinks I didnt ovulate all last year because my cycles were everywhere) If it's ok that I get pregnant naturally then why not give me Clomid??? If it isnt then PLEASE prescribe birth control because at least then, I'll have some type of normalcy...........I forgot to request birth control when I called. I'm gonna call back tomorrow and ask for it. Which the doc should approve. Im just really annoyed and I feel like Birth Control is a way of stopping me from obsessing and symptom spotting every month. I actually gave up TTC or actively TTC a few months back and just said whatever, UNTIL I met this new doc and he seemed very hopeful and gave me a sense of calm. Now I know that God should be giving me a sense of calm but I DO live in the earth realm and some physical confirmation does help ALOT. Im just really upset and pissed to have hit ANOTHER Brick wall after getting some hope. I need lots and lots of advice on how to get over this other than, it will happen when Its meant too. Maybe some personal stories about how you felt better after hitting a brick wall. Doesn't have to be TTC related.

Sorry for rambling...........Just needed some advice.thanks

 

[JASMAK]

Can you go to another DR? Get a second opinion. That is what I am going to do. I speak up at my DR's...and let him know when things aren't cool. I ask questions, and I point out mistakes. I tell him what I want, if he doesn't beat me to it (which he has lately, but initially he never). Don't be afraid to be ASSERTIVE.

 

[Tigger Momma]

I'm not naturally an assertive person. I swear I need classes on it.............I suck at it. I just smile and say ok and then bitch about it later. Thanks and I'll try

 

[JASMAK]

I'm not naturally an assertive person. I swear I need classes on it.............I suck at it. I just smile and say ok and then bitch about it later. Thanks and I'll try

I used to be the same way. It isn't easy. But, then I had my daughter who was born with severe health issues, and has a dissability. If I never spoke up, she would end up in the hospital severly ill (five times in her first year). One time, she was close to death. I fired the family DR and told him to "get out" when he came to visit her at the hospital, and I swore I would never ever let a DR misdiagnose me or anyone else in my family again. My sister is an ER nurse, and she says that DR make mistakes all the time. The nurses do alot of the work, and usually tell the DR's what to do. My fave phrase to DR's now is "OK, can you just write in my file that I requested _____, and it was refused". That gets them moving pretty quickly.

I know, it isn't fun because it is confrontational, and I too am not a confrontational person either. Is this a GP, or a specialist? I would request a specialist if this is not one. GP's really have no clue about anything infertility related. Also, you can seek a second opinion.

 

[Tigger Momma]

This is the GYN that specializes in fertility at my hospital, through my health care, I am not authorized to go anywhere else except that hospital but with another doctor, I have had the most luck with him, which is another reason why it bugs me soo much. I am going to call his nurse in the morning and make an appt with him and make sure that I understand all his reasoning. I will not leave until I KNOW what is going on and why, I'll have him put me on birth control. The thing is when, I'm in front of him, I forget all of my questions and writing it down doesnt help cause I forget to take the paper. Other than that Im stuck unless I want to pay out of pocket. Thank you soo much for responding and listening to me rant.

I kinda feel like his comment to keep trying was patronizing me because if he suspects that I didnt ovulate all last year because of the length of my cycles, then you can pretty much bet I wont be ovulating anytime soon and I'll need help. Thus baby making will be futile cause there wont be an egg to fertilize!!!!!!!!!!!! Of course he can't confrim this and noone can cause the body does what it wants but still, why try if I havent ovulated in forever............Pointless. Im soooo tempted to just buy Clomid and take it BUT I'm a wuss and I know I shouldint

 

[MrsJD]

Can you go to another DR? Get a second opinion.

Here, here! I agree!

If you don't want to confront them, phone and make an appointment with someone else.

 

[Trying4ever]

I agree.....are you in the UK? Write to the PCT and hospital and complain...then they will do an internal investigation and get a second opinion...at least then you know that you have been listened to. Infertility is the biggest shit.