Is anyone getting married that doesn't get on with their inlaws?

[subaru555]

We've had a few "issues" in the past and I don't like the way they treat my DF. I'm worried it will be awkward but everyone tells me I won't care, I'm hoping this is the case but the more input we need for the wedding from them - the less interested they seem.

Same with our baby as well!!

Anyway, how are you coping with it?

I should mention it's a very intimate wedding with only my family and his

 

[polo_princess]

Well "we" currently arent on talking terms with OH's mum and his sister and havent been since December so who knows

We will invite them to the wedding of course but whether they come is up to them, doesnt bother me too much either way if im honest but it would be nice for OH to have his family there since there is only a few of them.

 

[CandJ]

We currently don't speak to most of my side of the family, mainly the part that is related to my mother. So they wont be at our wedding. None of them know anything about it!!

But thats my decision as I wouldn't feel right having them there, it's only a small wedding so they wouldn't even blend in.

 

[MummyToAmberx]

I've had few probs with oh's mum in the past over amber, unplanned & unexpected pregnancy, off what i was told off my oh i told my mum since then shes never been happy with her understandable, so its more my parents dont wanna be around his. My mam has said me leanne if u get married i dont think i could stand being in same room as them, yet another problem for us.

 

[sleepinbeauty]

My FIL. I can't fucking stand him. He treats OH like dog shit. He doesn't call, doesn't seem to give a crap. We'll invite him, but I won't be surprised if he doesn't show.

 

[susiewusie]

We've had a few "issues" in the past and I don't like the way they treat my DF. I'm worried it will be awkward but everyone tells me I won't care, I'm hoping this is the case but the more input we need for the wedding from them - the less interested they seem.

Same with our baby as well!!

Anyway, how are you coping with it?

I should mention it's a very intimate wedding with only my family and his

Hiya hun i'm in the exact same situation.I don't get on with my OH's family and I'm having a small wedding in june with just his and my family . I'm just trying to not let them get to me and just concentrating on my big day. x

 

[24/7]

Yes!!

 

[lulu61388]

i don't speak to my OH's mother and his sister has decided that if his mom doesn't come/isn't invited then she won't either.

it is mine and my OH's day, we are there to be with family and friends that support us and love us, his mother doesn't and she only acts as a source of stress in our life. in the end it will be her loss that she is not there. my OH's father is amazing as well as his step-mom so we have plenty of people from his side of the family to be there for us.

 

[subaru555]

Yes!! There is a long thread is GS about it, but in short she dislikes me alot, and refuses to see or speak to me and is currently trying her hardest to ensure the wedding doesn't take place!! I don't want her at the wedding, but she's OH's mum and despite everything he still has a relationship with her and for his sake I have said she can come, but it's upsetting me alot already as I know she won't speak to my family which is naturally going to cause a massive issue on the day. I've already started having nightmares about it and just wish she wasn't going to be there so much.

Just think huni, in 2 months it will all be over and we'll be our DF's Wife no matter what they say! x

 

[QueenMummyToBe]

I wouldn't say I don't get on with them as such but..

OHs mum, step dad and dad are so difficult to talk to, trying to get a conversation out of them is like getting blood out of a stone!
They haven't once shown any interest in the wedding, no excitement, haven't asked us how the plans are going and it drives me insane.

OH is their youngest 'child' (even though he is 28) and given how excited they were about us having Amelia we thought they would at least have some excitement for the wedding.

And they are always moaning to OH that we don't go and see them (they live 30 miles away) but they NEVER come and see us.
I want to scream sometimes because it works both ways!!

xXx

 

[subaru555]

Queen Mummy - I ticked all those points you mentioned aswell.

God it's so annoying eh? They've visited us twice in 3 years. That was because there was an important matter that needed dealing with.