Is there any hope at all

[Reason]

Hi there, I lost my baby boy at 17 weeks gestation in Dec 08. I'm waiting to go into hospital on Sunday to start miscarrying the pregnancy I have at the moment because baby hasn't developed (blighted ovum). have been told I have to have one monthly period before we start trying again. I already have 2 children from a previous marriage (aged 12 and 8) but now I have a new husband we really want a child together. Before I lost my baby in December I'd never had a m/c so was devastated. But this one has really got me wondering if I'll ever have a baby. I know some ladies never give up and have had a lot more m/c's than me and all I can say is that they're very brave to chance it again. At nearly 41 my age is also against me.

I know I'm probably still feeling hormonal because I'm still technically pregnant, but I daren't try again in case this happens again. I don't know if I can go through all the emotions and mental up and down.

Has anyone had 2 consecutive m/c's and still tried? Did you get your baby on the 3rd attempt? Or did you once again lose something precious and how did you cope?

In fact if anyone has any suggestions on how to cope I'd really appreciate them. At the moment I'm just so angry with myself that my body has failed me again. On top of that my dr said this morning that we must have a problem with the embryos if they're not surviving, but that until I've had 3 m/c's I won't have genetic testing.

Anyway anyone's views greatly appreciated and thanks for reading my post. Denise x

 

[Snowball]

I am so sorry for your losses

I lost our little boy at 21 weeks last April and then went on to have 3 early m/c's. I saw my consultant after my 3rd m/c who told me to try taking 75mg aspirin daily.

I took it 1 week before I found out I was pregnant again and now I'm 14 weeks. I just pray this one will come home with us.

There's always hope and I pray you get to take another baby home with you. No one deserves the heartbreak of losing babies

 

[carrieanne]

hi i also am 41 and trying for no 5 ive just last week mc again 1st one in dec we are trying again we went in to this knowing the chances are high for mc at our age but it doesnt make it any easier when we lose our babies but i want a baby so much so im going to keep trying and im sure it will happen eventually for both of us but it is a personal thing and only you know if you want to try again i wish you all the luck sweetie and im here if you want to talk xx

 

[Reason]

Oh crikey at last!!! I really appreciate everyone's support but knowing someone of my age and ttc and being in the same boat with the same worries ............. I desperately want a baby with my hubby but am so damn scared. And the prospect of waiting each month, hoping and praying isn't filling me with joy. I hate that waiting and hoping, really hate it. When I found out I was pregnant on Mothers Day (ha) I thought 'finally no more missed months'. Now here I am again.

Anyway enough of doom and gloom. Fingers crossed for both of us. And likewise if you want to talk/rant etc you know where I am.

Denise x

 

[AP]

Hey honey,

I have to say its been third time lucky for me. It was hard after the second disappointment. It took a while for me to get up and get going again as I just felt helpless.

Give yourself some space and I'm sure you'll be ready soon. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[babytots]

hi denise so sorry for your losses i had 2 early losses last year at 8/9 weeks and then fall pg again in dec with my princess jessica sadly i lost her 2 weeks ago at 19 weeks. after my 2 first losses i found it easy to move on (though not forget) and we decided to ttc straightaway. this time round its so much harder but i detrmined to get my much wanted 3rd healthy baby in my arms and give my daughter a sister or brother.

to you am sure one day we will all get our babies. x

 

[lauraperrysan]

Hi, so sorry to hear of your losses. I too have now suffered 3 early m/c's in the last 18 months, they were all around the 6 weeks mark. I started testing today to look into reasons why however only 10% of women who have testing recieve an answer apparently. Fingers crossed for us both. I read you were concerned re your age being against you, im 21 so it can happen to anyone.
Also in reagards to coping, as much as it hurts to think about it for me each time it has got easier to cope with as I'm kind of half expecting it. Still heartbreaking tho.
Wishing you lots of luck xxx