Is TTC taking its toll on you?

[polo_princess]

Just wondered if TTC is becoming more and more of an emotional rollercoaster for anyone else the longer it goes on?

Im starting to have a bit of a tough time with it at the moment, now that i know chances are it isnt going to come naturally. Im doing my best to stick with a positive attitude but its reaaaaaally hard!!

How is everyone else in here coping? How is it affecting your relationship? Good or Bad?

 

[Sami]

I'm also finding it quite hard, we've been trying now for just over 2 years, I've had some tests which haven't shown anything in particular, except that I have slight PCOS, whatever that means

It can cause some problems within our relationship, mainly due to my moods, especially when comes to visit!!

I am also trying to stay posative but sometimes it's really hard when all you want to do is cry

Also, I'm really happy for everyone that gets a but sometimes I feel so jealous, is this normal??

 

[Arcanegirl]

The biggest thing with our journey is not knowing what the problem is!
Id say i actually cope with it all quite well, i do have my down moments but ive accepted that its taking a while and just see it as more time for us to prepare ourselves mentally and finnancially.

 

[Sami]

I think you're right, but I must say that this site has really helped and been so informative. Through BnB I've come to realise that as my cycle is so long it probably means that I'm not ov, which is something the docs never told me!! I always assumed that if you got you would ov!

I have just made an appointment to see my doc again as I'm going to find out about clomid, from what I've read on here and on the net, it seems that it could help! Fingers crossed!!

 

[lady_gibrill]

Hi all,

I too find it somexs draining. Been trying for 2 yrs now n i too have boarderline PCOS which means i have d spots n hair but do oulate I am currently on my 1st round of clomid.....
I think my main problem is stress related but ive tried all i can to get rid of stress...

It is hard when the arrives u try not to get upset n i just think that god will give me a baby when he thinks it is right....But i do get hurt when others that dont necessarily want a child get a bfp.....

Not those trying them im happy for n it ives me hope that it can happen....

it takes a toll sexually too cause u try to enjoy it as u waould nmaking love normally but u r trying to get a bfp so sub conciously makes an impact....

Im norm only bad for a day or 2 then im ready to start again.....

Good luck all

 

[Amanda]

We're finding it tough cause we know we can have kids, but it's just not bloody working!

I conceived Kayleigh while on the pill and using condoms, and Charlie was after 5 months of trying, but it's now been 18 months!

And the doctors just don't seem to want to listen because they know there's nothing medically wrong. I keep saying - yes there wasn't then, but there might be now!

 

[Tilly]

How long have you been TTC polo princesS?

 

[maz]

I am finding ttc very much a rollercoaster ride. I am generally a very positive and upbeat person, but do let things get to me emotionally. Some days I just want to hide under the duvet and cry

I'm starting my first cycle of clomid on thursday, and going for a reflexology consultation on friday. Medically, I have been told that I am fine, and DH is fine too, so I'm hoping it is stress related, and that reflexology will help to reduce stress and get everything back in sync.

I have to say though, that I find it hard to visualise myself with a bump... Does anyone else find that difficult?

 

[genkigemini]

I have good days and bad days. (Just read my journal to see that bit of bi-polarness.) I honestly think that several years ago (99-06) it was harder on me. I would cry if af came (which was only 2-3 times a year) and cry when I got BFN. However now I think I am a bit jaded to it all. I just try to do the "right" things and pray it works. So far Met is not doing ANYTHING for me but I still try my best to be positive. (I can not wait until May when I go back to the GYN)

 

[polo_princess]

so im not the only one who finds it hard sometimes.

In total ive officially been TTC for just over 2 years, but ive been complaining that something isnt right with my lady bits for almost 5 years now, the doc seems to have linked the two, even though she has no idea what it is yet.

I manage to cope with it fine, i get down when i think about how badly i want to give my OH a child.

 

[Tilly]

Aww

 

[NeyNey]

To be totally honest, at the moment it's really getting to me. Only because of the lack of AF which is really starting to get me down. I've gone from being frustrated and annoyed to just plain sad.

I've stopped taking Met in a desperate attempt to bring my AF on. As soon as I do I will begin Met again and then I will be able to begin Clomid too.

It will be 3 years this Sept. And I will be 30 in January, I feel like I'm on a train thats running out of tracks. I want 3 children, yet I seem to be going through hell just to get one.

so yeah, pretty quiet lately....Just trying to keep myself sane.

 

[loopylew]

i've been tc 7 months, which i know isnt long compared to some of you ladies but i get down just the same. I've been charting for 2 months and now see i have a short luteal phase. Ive started taking B6 and using a clearblue fertility monitor so if the B6 does make me ovulate earlier i will know when. Dr has said she won't do any further tests till we've been ttc for a year due to me being on the pill for soooooo long (11 years). Gonna go armed with loadsa evidence in Sept 08 and ill tell her whats wrong!! Last w'end i was really down as i knew AF was coming, not feeling too bad now/ Like others i think its more of a rollercoaster with ups and down, not sure how ill be after 2 years of ttc though xx

 

[MissMonty]

Hi Loopylew - we've been TTC since Sep 07 too. This is our 3rd cycle of using the CBFM and Af is due this weekend - I can feel AF coming and know this is not going to be my month again. The past 7 months have gone really quick for me during that time I have seen 3 friends have babies and 1 get pregnant.

I find it more difficult when Af arrives then a few days after I try to get positive again. We have started to make plans so we have something to look forward to each month - like going out to eat, booking gig tickets and generally making sure we spend quality time together whilst we can.

We're going to go the GP in Sep 08 too - although the CBFM booklet suggests visiting the GP if you have not conceives within 6 months of using the monitor so might go in June/July 08 is not successful by then xx

 

[Carolina]

This is my 7th cycle as well. Weve done everything were meant to do and nothings happened. I got diagnosed with adenomyosis a couple of months ago. Everytime af arrives it hurts more, i get more disheartened and af is more painful every month...i nearly went to casualty last month. My gynaecologist only gave me 6 months of pain releif becasue he thinks ill be pregnant by then ( I think the only reason he thinks this is because of my age)I may have endo but im too scared to get the lap done..im scared if i get it done theyll make a mistake or they will tell me i will never be able to conceive naturally or by ivf but every month i have af things could be getting worse...and im only 25!

I think you girls who have been ttc for over a year are 2 are amazing i dont think i would cope anywhere near aswell I hpoe you all get answers/bfps soon!

 

[Michy]

This is our 4th cycle, so I suppose not too long really. I get really frustrated just before af is due - I hate the not knowing, but I try to pick myself up after it has shown.

This is the first month we have really gone for it with bding sessions (every day since the last day of af) so I am praying that does the trick.

 

[secondchance]

it's bad for me,dh gettin tired of hearin about it, seems like he wants to avoid me around o time,I think its b/c he knows then it's another 2wks of hoping then crying when af shows.

 

[Chellebelle]

We have been TTC for almost 3 years and I am on my 5th round of Clomid, and it is really getting to me more as time goes on... but I can never see myself giving up hope, so that worries me even more as if it goes on for another 6 months, I don't know what I will be like.

My OH is great, he supports me and listens to me when I get down and when I am talking about it all the time - positively and negatively, and he comes to as many appts with me as possible, but I do still get angry and take it out on him quite a lot.

It just isn't fair, there are so many wonderful women in this forum and elsewhere who would give their right arm for a and it would be the most precious thing to them in the whole world and they have to go through the traumatic time of TTC... whereas the 14 year old at my local chippy who got 'caught out' for the second time is now heavily pregnant and doesn't have any idea of how precious it is... I am not saying that for all teenage pregnancies, but she doesn't look after her first child even.

All I can say is your time will come soon, and the amount that it will mean to you will more than justify this TTC time. I know that the first day of holding my will make me look back on this and think "it was all definately worth it".

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