Im sitting here reading all your posts about how scared you all are. Girls, It will all be ok.
I am 24. I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 16, had her when I was 17. When I told my Mom about her grandchild coming into the world she did not say one word to me for 6 months. After the 6 months it was only angry words. My daughters father got into drugs while I was pregnant and I thought I was going to be raising this baby alone.
I was sad, devastated. But I took all of this and I decided that I was going to be the best parent I could. I was going to prove everyone wrong. I never left morning sickness be an excuse. Up until I had my daughter I worked. No matter how I felt. I walked to work every day and never spent a dime that I made. I went to school everyday. Had perfect attendance.
About a month before I had Morgan my mom started being nice again. Not overly nice. She didn't want me to think it was ok. The night Morgan was born my mom was by my side the entire time. She never left the hospital. She held my daughter, loved her. From that moment I decided that I would NEVER let her act like a parent or feel like a parent to my daughter. They are best friends now. My mom calls Morgan her Little buddy and my Mom says all the time she cannot imagine her life without my daughter.
It was a year and a half before I had a sitter for my daughter. Outside of daycare while I worked and went to school. I held two jobs for the first year and went down to one. At a daycare where I could be with my daughter all day, get a discount and work with kids.
While all this was going on my boyfriend, Morgans father, was cheating on me with every girl at every party he went to. I cried. a lot. But my happy go lucky daughter always knew how to make me smile.
I discovered that all those friends who said they would be there for me... lied. I made friends, who are there for me. Who I laugh with. Who are Aunts to my daughter. Whose kids are cousins to my daughter.
I finally put an end to my relationship. I could not handle the mental abuse I LET myself go through. And I for gave him. He and I have the best co parenting relationship. He is dating someone who is amazing to my daughter and who makes him a better parent.
I gave up on guys after that, and wouldn't you know it... my night in shining armor walked right into my life. He is a single father with full custody of his daughter and takes amazing care of her. He is amazing to myself and my daughter and I have never been this happy.
Moral of my story, It seems hard. You WILL cry a lot. Even with your baby you will feel alone. But smile. Own your actions and forgive. Being a teen mom with a lot of disapproval around you is not easy. It will get better.
I am 24. I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 16, had her when I was 17. When I told my Mom about her grandchild coming into the world she did not say one word to me for 6 months. After the 6 months it was only angry words. My daughters father got into drugs while I was pregnant and I thought I was going to be raising this baby alone.
I was sad, devastated. But I took all of this and I decided that I was going to be the best parent I could. I was going to prove everyone wrong. I never left morning sickness be an excuse. Up until I had my daughter I worked. No matter how I felt. I walked to work every day and never spent a dime that I made. I went to school everyday. Had perfect attendance.
About a month before I had Morgan my mom started being nice again. Not overly nice. She didn't want me to think it was ok. The night Morgan was born my mom was by my side the entire time. She never left the hospital. She held my daughter, loved her. From that moment I decided that I would NEVER let her act like a parent or feel like a parent to my daughter. They are best friends now. My mom calls Morgan her Little buddy and my Mom says all the time she cannot imagine her life without my daughter.
It was a year and a half before I had a sitter for my daughter. Outside of daycare while I worked and went to school. I held two jobs for the first year and went down to one. At a daycare where I could be with my daughter all day, get a discount and work with kids.
While all this was going on my boyfriend, Morgans father, was cheating on me with every girl at every party he went to. I cried. a lot. But my happy go lucky daughter always knew how to make me smile.
I discovered that all those friends who said they would be there for me... lied. I made friends, who are there for me. Who I laugh with. Who are Aunts to my daughter. Whose kids are cousins to my daughter.
I finally put an end to my relationship. I could not handle the mental abuse I LET myself go through. And I for gave him. He and I have the best co parenting relationship. He is dating someone who is amazing to my daughter and who makes him a better parent.
I gave up on guys after that, and wouldn't you know it... my night in shining armor walked right into my life. He is a single father with full custody of his daughter and takes amazing care of her. He is amazing to myself and my daughter and I have never been this happy.
Moral of my story, It seems hard. You WILL cry a lot. Even with your baby you will feel alone. But smile. Own your actions and forgive. Being a teen mom with a lot of disapproval around you is not easy. It will get better.
