It's been a long time coming.

[shaunanicole]

But I am here now.

 

[expecting09]

Helloooo

It's good that you want to leave all the crap behind and don't feel you need to go into it. I totally agree with you about the body issues, stand me next to a girl without a baby at my age and I wonder what one a bloke would go for But one day, when your ready you'll meet a man who will love you for you and not your body.

As for the money, I'm sure your stepmum would understand that you don't have alot of money. Do you still speak FOB? Is there anyway you could try and talk him round into paying her back?

 

[lauramarie]

can relate to a lot of what you have said, also don't know how i explain to my son that his dad didn't want him and how i'm ever going to meet anyone else, as i now hate my body!

is there any way you can get financial help from FOB? we have the csa here, who will track FOB down and make them pay for their child.

you seem really strong and it's good that you feel ready to move on x

 

[sweetlullaby]

agree with ladies above its hard but we manage hun! Sorry to read and run got a LO who's just woke up Your avatar pic is so cute!! xx

 

[shaunanicole]

Thanks girls! I really appreciate all your kind words, I needed it.

 

[toonlagoon]

i can not relay relaite to how he treated you beacuse my babay daddy is not like that he just can not be assed he woudl rither stick with his new gf that dose evrthign for him than stad by me and the babay hes bacily told me he dont wont nothign to do with the babay at all wich upsets me more than anythign but as you seid im going to have to brign up a babay all alone and that it not going to have a daddy to relye on as my dad is amazing with me and my bro and i could not have gone throght life with out him and so i dont no how my babay is going to !!!
but i can defo relaite very very closly already to how you feel about getting a new man i when out with some mates on sat night i never been out dancing sober so that made my self esteam go down alot but just feeling sooo much bigger then evryone els already got strech marks what if no gye wonts me ever agine is all i coudl think!!! it all skars me so much and for you to have got so far gawwwd i realy have the up most respect for you i relay dont no how im going to cope would you liek to send me a privet messge and have a proper chin wag ?? by teh way i have not had the babay yet that why i seid already got streach marks lol
relay relay sorry baout spelling i have dislexier !!! get so imbairsed off it!!

 

[nievesmama]

Huge
I know what you mean about body issues, eurgh i hate mine!!
You sound very strong and are doing a fab job x

 

[Singl3Daddy]

Hi.. i hope for all the best for you.

 

[teal]

Sending you hugs

I also worry about how I'm going to explain to my little one that his father wasn't interested

xx

 

[starbucks101]

Darl, I dunno how old you are but you do look pretty young...

The benefit of that is your body will fix itself, But you have to give it time, Ava is only 3 months?! (i think!) it takes 6 months just for your womb to go back to its normal size...

It took you 9 months to grow your little girl, its going to take around the same time for you to recover from it. Your a young healthy girl, I know its hard but try not to get too torn up about it.

As for the FOB situation, What kind of life is he really having? Is going out and getting "stoned", drunk till you pass out and having no recolection of the things you've done really much of a life?

I see things plastered all over facebook from people i used to go to school with and just think WTF? Why... surely feeling like your dying the next morning isnt worth it?

Anyway i digress!!

Your doing fine, You'll continue to do fine! Give yourself a break and a chance to be the mum that you know you will be! xxx

 

[bloodbinds]

Big Hugs!


I couldn't have written all that myself - your story is so similar to mine!!

I concieved Bella the day i moved in with FOB, which was only the 4th time i had met him (crazy!) After i found out what he was like i left. Cuz he was a pillock. I get NO help from him and he hasn't seen Bella since her birth and i feel like he is mssing out on SO much and Bella is missing out on having a dad!

So i know exactly how you feel - it sucks!

So *Big Hugs*! We can do it without them! xx

Also i'm right with you on the body part - though a little worse as i put on 5 stone in my pregnancy and still have 2 1/2 stone to lose! My belly is all saggy, and i have horrible red stretch marks all over my body. What guy is ever going to want me?? I hope it improves soon, and hopefully will convince a guy to fall so much in love with me that he wont care what my body looks like!! Lol.