Ive met someone else... Now what?

[Becky61]

I have been on 5 dates with this guy, and we really like each other. We have made things "official" and have said we are now in an exclusive relationship.

He too has a child, who is 9. He sees her at weekends and is best friends with her mum, which i think is totally fantastic.

I didnt tell FOB (who is very active in LOs life and we get on well) that i had been on dates... I told him tonight, and he flew off the handle, asking why i hadnt told him sooner etc. I said i didnt see the point until i knew i liked him and that it was going somewhere.

I geuss my question is, what happens now? How do i difuss this new awkwardness between me and FOB? When do you introduce FOB to the new BF and LO etc? Its hard to see my new bloke as LO only goes to his dads one night a week, is it acceptable to have him over at mine after LO has gone to bed? (FOB would hate it!)

I have my sons best interests at heart, and his safety and happiness is my only priority.

Im so new to all this!! Any advice or previous experiences very much welcome. Thank you.

x

 

[Quackquack99]

I am in a similar situation, Ive been on 8 dates with a man who lives in the local area and I recently told fob that I was seeing someone as I didnt want him to hear it from someone else. He took it surprisingly well but we still haven't made it official and he hasn't met summer yet.

I say enjoy it! The hard bit is over and I guess for fob it was probably shock that took him aback.

 

[Dream.dream]

Personaly I don't introduce anyone to my children until we've been together at least 6 months and fob has to do the same anything before 6 moths to me ist a serious relationship and I don't want people going in and out of their lives . Also I meet his gf and he's met mine before they meet LO so that everyone knows each other and there isn't an animosity .

 

[Becky61]

Dream.dream thats kind of the unwritten rule me and FOB have, no introducing til 6 months.

Is it ok to have the new fella visit whilst LO is in bed at night? And if so, what happens if he wakes? Otherwise i can only see my new BF once a week And thats if hes free the one night i am.

x

 

[Dream.dream]

Dream.dream thats kind of the unwritten rule me and FOB have, no introducing til 6 months.

Is it ok to have the new fella visit whilst LO is in bed at night? And if so, what happens if he wakes? Otherwise i can only see my new BF once a week And thats if hes free the one night i am.

x

That's what it was like with me and dS2 dad when we were dating , we would only get one date night a week where we would go out and he would come over after LO was asleep but only one day a week and I did talk to fob about it so he wouldn't get upset

 

[Charlee]

I think it's amazing that you aren't rushing him to meet your little one, so many of my friends who have kids have their new bf practically living with them after a week!
I think its fine to have him over when LO is in bed, if he wakes you can just excuse yourself to settle him?