just a rant....

[ericacaca]

Hi there ladies.

I don't usually post much on this part of the forum.... maybe because I wanted to try and not dwell on the last pregnancy before this little one. But I had to vent somewhere and hope you ladies don't mind reading and maybe even feeling the same way.

I know that some ladies go through really tough times with their kids and OHs etc etc. But for ladies to post on here that they are starting to despise their own children and wish that they weren't pregnant now really upsets me. And I don't want to reply to their post with something like this because I know that they're just asking for a sympathetic ear and the last thing they want is a hormonal post telling them that they're lucky that they have 3 kids already and 1 on the way.

I just think that if she ever had to go through what any of us ladies had to go through she would never even think to say what she is saying right now on here. I wouldn't wish it on her for the world, but it really got me!

 

[melfy77]

I totally understsand! I've had 2 miscarriages, and am pregnant again, praying that this one will stick. And every time I read or hear a pregnant lady complaining about how fat she is, how MS is so hard, how she can't drink alcohol and go out all the time anymore, I just get pissed. Because I want my baby, I want to be fat, have really bad MS, have super big and sore boobs, my hubby would like it I've never had this, and I've lost my babies. Now I'm 4weeks+3 and NO symptoms at all except cramping, so of course I'm worried same thing will happen again

 

[jaggers]

I agree ladies. It's kind of hard sometimes because I NEVER want to wish bad upon others but like my friend who pretty much rubs it in my face that she's gotten prego within 2 months of trying every time and never had a m/c you kind of wish they knew what it was like to struggle a little, mostly so they appreciate it more. I'd glad they never got to deal with it but APPRECIATE IT...
Ahhh. Thanks for venting

 

[Jessica28]

I totally agree with you. I miscarried on Jan. 3rd and had a d & c...there is no worse feeling in the world. Now, I am cautiously a tiny bit pregnant again and I am nervous as hell. Funny how a m/c can take all that excitement away

 

[Pebbles11]

Ooh a good rant, I love it! I had the worst thing a couple of weeks back at a wedding. When I was pregnant with my first (the one I lost) there was another girl I know quite well pregnant and in first trimester as well. She is now 20 weeks. We would have been due within days of each other and had loads of chats about how nice it would be to have babies at the same time. I saw her at a wedding two weeks ago and she totally ignored me! You could tell she was just mortified about it and perhaps she is just emotionally immature but you could tell she was doing everything possible to avoid being near me, I assume its because she didnt know what to say. I would much rather she just had a quiet word to say how sorry she is etc etc rather than just making me and my husband feel really awkward.

Also loads of people at the wedding asked when me and the hubby were planning on babies and that we "better get on with it". One guy pissed me off so much I just said "Well we're trying but my last baby died a few weeks ago" - that really shut him up!