Just about broke my heart :'(

[wishuwerehere]

My lg came back from a few days at her dads today. She was a bit upset when he left, and she started to cry, I gave her a hug and said it was ok and she could talk to him on skype etc and she said

"But it's so HARD having two families and not seeing them at the same time"

I nearly started crying! My poor girl is there any way I can make this easier for her??

 

[Dezireey]

All you can do is give her plenty of love and attention and hopefully her father will too. It's a situation that can't be rectified and most young children just don't understand relationships, it's very black and white to them. Just know that you are doing your best and as she gets older, she will understand more and more that these things in life happen and it's no reflection on how much she is loved.

 

[Sweetkat]

You could say that she doesn't live with uncle & aunt, grandma and granddad, cousins etc & that while in some families everyone including grandparents live together in many families they don't but doesn't mean all the relatives don't love each other, can't see each other etc. plus do you not think she just repeated sth someone else said? Sounds very grown up to me

 

[Soanxious]

It is heartbreaking to the parents as we don't know how to help our children to understand, as someone else said with children things are black and white, and time is an eternity.

Just explain that they are loved exactly the same by both parents and to make everyone happy this is the best way and they get the best of both worlds, two homes, two birthdays, 2 Christmas's etc... there are books out there age appropriate to read to children or for children to read about parents splitting up and how to help them through it.

They will settle down.. and hopefully they will become friends with other children in a similar boat so they know they are not alone.

You are doing a grand job!

Wish you all the best!