Just don't know what to do

[Grieving30]

Hi everyone, I would really appreciate any advice. I posted about my situation with FOB last week (see my thread "single, pregnant, broken hearted"). He hurt me very badly and treated me horribly. Last night he apologized and he wants back together. We talked a bit and he wants to talk again tonight. I'm feeling so low. I discussed it with my sister and she doesn't think giving another chance is a good idea. I didn't talk to my mom because she despises him. I really don't see how I could trust him or we could have a healthy relationship. But I love him and I'm having his baby. I just don't know what to do and it's so difficult.

 

[Dream.dream]

Honestly your sisters right it's not a good idea , not good for you and defiantly not good for your baby . Honestly I understand how it's hard because your pregnant but you have a child to think about and seeing him treat you badly will hurt your child .

I don't see how someone could change in such a short time so I would wait it out and jut work on being civil for you child's sake

 

[Grieving30]

He contacted me today and I told him I don't think we should talk anymore unless it's about baby and that we just can't be together anymore. Feeling very sad.

 

[Dream.dream]

I'm sorry .big hugs .

Focus on your little one , you have a a beautiful little baby . Look forward to that

 

[Dezireey]

I'm sorry. It's tough when someone has hurt you so bad. I loved my FOB so much, still do but the pain he caused me prevents me from ever trusting him or even contemplating a relationship with him. I would just say ' no way' if he wanted to make it work again. How can you? How can any woman be with a man who leaves her when she needs his love and protection the most? It destroys a woman's heart and there is no going back. If you can perhaps remain amicable and friends during your pregnancy ( avoid stress and arguing, so keep things calm) then maybe after baby is born you can just discuss in more depth about why you don't want him back and what he is going to do for your baby.

 

[Grieving30]

Thanks so much ladies. I felt really sad about it most of today. He texted me this evening saying he misses me and doesn't want to be with anyone else. I responded that I just don't see how I could trust him. I think it might just be better if I stop responding altogether unless it's about our baby.

 

[Jamielee]

I was 3 months pregnant with my second when I split with FOB after I found out he cheated on me. But there was
No trust for a long time though as well. I made the right decision.. If you read my most recent post ... You'll understand why! Nothing good would come for getting back with him for those reasons. You can still be good parents apart. And you'll also relise this when your baby is born - mothers intuition .. And your Mums instinct is 99% right always! It's very strong of you to take
This into your own hands. Because I'm telling you now as soon as the baby is born you won't even be bothered about him and it will make
Him jealous! Happens with all FOB's from what I've gained from other mums. Your baby comes first and so do you. Do what it's best/right for you - no one else. People can only speak through experience. I hope you're okay soon. Send me a message if you want. Not long now till you pop! If I don't speak to you before congratulations xxxxxxxx

 

[Grieving30]

I've been busy with work so I've been better. Seems the weekends are more difficult and that's when I miss him.

 

[Dream.dream]

I've been busy with work so I've been better. Seems the weekends are more difficult and that's when I miss him.

Do you have any friends or hobbies? If your finding it hard on the weekends probably because its when you have down time to think to much.

I learned to knit and crochet an I made my son a blanket , and took up swimming while I was Pregnant with my son.