just getting stuff off my chest.....

[hopefull85]

ok so i know i may be talking about my sister in law alot but it depresses me. ok here is the story. my brother is 23 and she is 22 this will be their second child their first is 5. they just found out they are having a boy. my sister in law knows the pain and heartache i have to go through yet in her own little way she throws it up in my face. she sat here in my house and said becasue she didnt get the girl she wanted that after this one they are going to try again. ok well the thing is they live with my almost 60 year old parents. my brother told her to quit her job just cause she got pregnant. he works at a casino as a dishwasher making $9.50 an hour. how do they expect to take care of 3 or more kids on that. im not rich nor am i poor. i have my own place and my husband is a truck driver who makes decent money. so we are more that readdy for a child. she thinks that because she got pregnant that she has to have all the attention. sorry but thats not the case. i know it may seem like im being selfish and maybe in a way i am. but can you really blame me. i was mad when at 16 she got pregnant i will be 27 this year and i cant even have one. i just really needed to get this off my chest please if you would just reply with whatever you feel you need to say.

 

[phoenixrose]

Wow, what else can I say besides...that really sucks! I would definitely try to distance myself just I wouldn't have to deal with the annoyance. To me she just sounds like she has no class, tact, empathy or courtesy!

 

[hopefull85]

she really doesnt and my brother is no different. and if i ask them to not really say awhole lot around me then im the one that doesnt need to be acting like that and i need to grow up. so i just let them say what they want to say. yeah it gets to me at times but nothing i say or do will make it any better.

 

[trying hard]

sorry chick. Infertility sucks big time. My eldest sister now has 4 and still wont tell her husband to get the snip. They are constantly under financial pressure and have been for years. What really annoys me is she started trying for her 4th after me and she now has a 1 year old who is in day care from 7am to 6pm!!!!! Why have kids if you aren't even going to raise them.

I totally feel your pain. Some people just don't get how much infertility hurts. Hopefully you get preggers soon and have a girl just to rub it in her face lol

 

[hopefull85]

i like how you think lol

 

[Lawyer chick]

I just wanna give you hugs. Stuff like this is tough

Last night I found out through fb that my son who is 17 in 2 months now has a ill half brother in addition to half sister who is 3 from his deadbeat father. All while I'm starting my journey at the fertility clinic.

When I ran into them when she was preg with their daughter I thought I was going to die so I certainly get how you feel and ESP when they say well I want gender x so I'll go ttc again. Hello any child is precious how and why do you get to decide.