just joined you all :)

[daisy777]

ive just become a single mummy after 3 years of the most unhappy relationship ever. we gave it one last shot for my baby. he was the worst dad ever! and didnt help one tiny bit. after weeks of really bad arguing i finnaly got tipped over the edge when i asked my oh to feed my lo at night for the first time ever which he replied by telling my lo to shut the f**k up. my lo has bad colic and just wanted a bottle im obviously very happy hes gone! but how do you cope with the lonelyness? x x x

 

[rosie272]

to you... It gets so much easier when you find a little routine that works for you and LO. Most men are just quite useless to have around when you have a crying/colicky baby. I tried to always have visitors around in the day time when Charlie was tiny and I also had my sisters staying with me in shifts for a few weeks - it was a great help as my LO had colic too. Do you have any family and friends around? Usually just keeping as busy as possible helps with the feeling lonely (your never on your own anyway - you always have LO). Maybe you could join your local Surestart centre or baby groups and meet some new mums and hopefuly a few new friends?
Good luck with everything and hope your LO settles soon

 

[daisygirl]

it is hard at the beginning (the loneliness) but you have to think its better to be alone than to be unhappy, and you have to think what is the best most happy environment for your LO

 

[ProzacQueen]

ive been a single mum since jan and rarely get lonely anymore. Now when the girls are finally asleep of an evening i'm just greatful to sit down & watch telly thats not cbeebie or disney related, eat/drink/wee in peace - dont get time to be lonely!

its great to post on these forums too, especially the single parent ones as you know the other users can relate to you

 

[bobblebot]

hi huni....I'm kind of in same place as you, been a single mum of 4 before but then married again anotherbaby and 3 years of hell...still love him but hes so selfish, does anything he wants including cheat and always blames it on me, even having a baby with another woman he blamed on me........anyway i'm 9 weeks preggers and coping!

Given up on repairing things as while I can change he can't and kids deserve better. Just do things you and kids enjoy, plan holidays, see friends, go to tots groups and make friends....date if you like...have a bit of chatty fun online.....anything as long as it makes you feel good and takes your mind of the ex and being single....single can be good...good luck huni

 

[shyfox1988]

the loneliness is the worst part expecially in the evenings, but honestly you get used to it, the best way to get through the loneliness is invite friends and family around a few nights a week just too keep you company or just find time to relax and doing things to keep your self busy xXx

 

[Sandie_Cali]

I am newly single and to be honest I am in the angry stage so right now I am not having any problems with feeling lonely, I just remember all the crud he put me through and why I left him.

I am alittle scared though I have no one here and I am dilating already. Scared not because I will be alone during my csection, but who will care for our 4 year old while I am at the hospital. FOB and his family are very irresponsible and alcoholics, well his family is not him (rarely seen him drink in 6 years), but still irresponsible.