just lost our baby and I'm heartbroken

[staycb01]

Hi Ladies,

I'm new here from 1st tri. We found out at our 9 week scan yesterday that our baby's heart stopped beating. Baby even measured ahead by 2 days yesterday so the Dr thinks the heart just must have stopped within a day or two. We had a great 6.5 scan with the heartbeat, so this is just devastating to my hubby and I.
I've never been in this situation before, and I know it'll get better with time I suppose but all I do is cry and it seems like I'll never get over this.... I just miss my baby
I have a couple of questions....
I have my D&C tomorrow so I haven't had a chance to ask yet but when did you ladies get your period after a D&C? Was it more painful/last longer? How long are you planning or did you wait to try again?
I'm so sorry that we have all had to deal with this

 

[Baby.Love12]

I am so sorry you have to go through that. I had a d&c at 8 weeks on january 3rd. My period came 36 days later. No bleeding after d&c at all. Very painless physically. I have been trying ever since and nothing yet. Keep us updated and if you need emotional support we are here. Good luck

 

[taztap]

Hi. So sorry for your loss.. I had a D&C on 13 June and just this tuesday (so almost 5 weeks) got my first period, it has been very heavy and very painful am on day 4 and already used a whole box of tampons, but I think everybody is different yours might be better. Doc said we could start trying straight away but we decided to wait for first period, so once its gone i guess we will get going again..

 

[Pixiedust22]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope your period comes soon although I have no advice about that.

 

[bamagurl]

I am so sorry for your loss. I went through something similar two years ago. At my 8 week appointment everything was great! We heard the heartbeat and saw the baby! Everything was measuring on time. When I went back around 12 weeks, the babies heartbeat had stopped. I had a d&c the next morning where I only bled for maybe 5-7 days after. I didn't get my next period until 45 after. I wanted to try right away! 3 months after I found out I was pregnant with our second daughter.
I am so so sorry for your loss it does get better but you never forget! If you have any other questions I can try to answer please let me know. It does feel better to talk about it!

 

[staycb01]

Thank you so much ladies! I feel like this experience is going to ruin the whole first tri for me next time I'm going to be terrified.
I just don't know who to move on from this

 

[kirsty15032]

Im so sorry i completely understand I have has 2 previous natural miscarriages and on 24th February this year I found out at a 12 week scan baby had died even after seeing heartbeat at 7 weeks I was devastated luckily I have a 2 year old daughter which made it easier in the sense that I had to get on with things. I bled for almost 2 weeks after and was in pain for about 4 days my period arrived a few weeks later I know it's heartbreaking but there is hope I found out I was pregnant again on April and this is going to sound awful but I didn't acknowledge it I wouldnt speak about it we didn't tell anyone it was the most stressful times of my life! We had a scan at 9 weeks and everything was fine but I still couldn't relax, I'm pleased to say tho that I had my 12 week scan on Wednesday and everything was perfect! I can guarantee you won't enjoy your first trimester next time I hated it but it's worth it and there is a very good chance things will be Ok

 

[Reyrey7]

I am sorry you are going through this. Everyone deals with things in different ways. I found out we had lost our first baby at 9 weeks too and had the d& c. I had my period about 6 weeks later, it was pretty normal. We were told to wait two cycles but by some miracle we conceived after the first cycle.

No words will make this easier for you both but you have eachother and I think it's only when this happens to you, you realise how common it is (not that it makes it easier). Just talk to eachother and don't be scared to voice your feelings. I had little relapses every now and then where I would feel empty and missed the little bub, but this is all normal. Our baby would of been born next month, so I'm sure I will have a tough couple of days, but I have to remember not to be hard on myself. We are only human.

You will get through this and you will be a stronger person by the end of it.

Xx

 

[07janet]

I'm sorry for your loss, I know exactly how you are feeling I miscarried back in jan 2014 at 8 weeks first pregnancy and it was hard I did not have a dnc because my body miscarried naturally yes it was very traumatizing for me. My doctor said i can try again after i get my period, I got it two months after the miscarriage but I did not want to try again until 2015 I just wasn't emotionally ready and scare But a month ago i change my mind instead of waiting to next year i will try in mid Oct. and hopefully everything works out this time. Im crossing fingers and praying and having faith that god will give me my baby. i just turn 31 and that is one of the reason I also don't want to wait because I would like to have at least 3 kids before 35. I wish you speedy recovery and take one day at a time it will get better.

 

[victoria1987]

I'm sorry for your loss it is just so devastating!
I lost my first pg at 6 weeks but I did not require a D&C and passed everything naturally, so I can't give you any advice on that front. With my natural mc though I basically bled for around 5-6 days and it was similar to a regular period only heavier and more painful.

I did manage to conceive my current pregnancy immediately afterwards and am now 30 weeks with a little boy! We were given the go ahead to try as soon as we felt ready and did not need to wait for my first AF but that may be different with a D&C. Talk to your Dr about it but research (and my own personal experience) have shown that women are especially fertile right after mc, so if you are ready to try again right away you may be very successful! Good luck and stay strong

 

[Mrs Guala]

I'm so sorry for your loss I too had a missed miscarriage on 17 february this year at 11 weeks. It was my first pregnancy and I was absolutely beside myself. I had a d&c a week later on 24 February as I hated the idea that I still had my baby inside of me but that I would never meet her The d&c itself was actually not too bad, a bit of pain afterwards nd only belt for about 3-4 days afterwards very lightly. Whilst I was in hospital I trawled the Internet looking for advice as to when I could try again, the dr said he would recommend waiting until one cycle but there was no reason we couldn't start again as soon as we felt emotionally ready. We pretty much started trying 10-14 days after d&c and still trying now! No BFP yet for us but will keep trying! Our due date is next month and every month I get my bfn I think to myself that I will get my BFP on my due date.... Who knows we will wait and see.... Good luck with everything xxxxx