Just starting out on the LTTTC journey..

[maybe_baby_]

DH and I have been TTC for the last 13 months. I have been tracking ovulation using BBT and OPKs and have confirmed O every month I've tracked. We've tried BDing every day, every other day, preseed, and all the other tricks in the book with no luck so far. I have an appointment with a fertility specialist on Monday, 10/10. I'm excited and nervous, so hoping to connect with other women who are also starting on this journey to overcome infertility so that we can share stories and lean on each other as the test results start coming in. My family and friends don't get it. If one more person tells me to 'just stop stressing and it will happen' they are going to get throat punched

Anyone else just referred to a RE and looking for a buddy?

 

[BelleNuit]

Hey there, we started TTC in November but I'm just about to start my 14th cycle in a couple days (I often have 25 day cycles, so they rack up over the year). At this point I find myself relating more to people who have been trying to conceive for a longer time (even though I'm just shy of the 1 year mark).

We also have tried all the tricks, BD every day, EOD, SMEP, pre-seed, softcups, supplements, acupuncture, etc. We've had some testing and what we know so far is that DH has great swimmers & count, my hormones are normal but my lining might be on the thin side, I have no signs of cysts and I ovulate normally every month. I'll be going for an HSG within the next week or 2 (as soon as i can confirm I'm on my new cycle). We just recently started with an RE but are pretty much right at the start of our journey with it.

My friends who know don't know what to say anymore. My infertility is like an awkward elephant in the room. My MIL seems to think I'll be pregnant at any moment and is SO EXCITED about her grandchildren to be that she's already started purchasing bikes and stuff for them :S it makes me SO angry because we aren't there yet. My mom doesn't know because we don't have a good relationship, my step-mom offered to help support us with the cost of IVF and my grandma has just said that it can take awhile. Overall people have been pretty supportive, but day in and day out I still feel very alone. I deal with this every day, its at the forefront of my mind every day. They can forget about it, I just can't.

Not gonna lie, I'm feeling pretty scared and nervous about what our next steps will look like. I think we are going to end up in the unexplained category.

 

[maybe_baby_]

I can totally relate to the overbearing MIL. Mine makes comments all the time that she will be dead before I give her grandkids... she doesn't know that we've been trying, but I can do without the comments regardless! We haven't really shared with anyone that we were trying. My best friend has known because she was trying as well (she's now almost 12 weeks after 3 rounds of IUI!!) and I recently told my mom who said "just stop stressing and it will happen"... if only it were so easy! She got pregnant no problem with both me and my sister- both planned, and got pregnant the first month trying, so she doesn't understand. After saying that though, she called me the next day and said she will help with whatever we need.

Where do you live? Do you have any coverage for fertility? I live in New Jersey, so I am very fortunate that state law mandates insurance covers fertility treatment. The most I will be out of pocket each year is $3000, which seems like nothing compared to the overall cost of the meds, labs, and procedures.

I had an ob/gyn appointment this morning and told her I had an appointment with the RE on Monday. She said because I'm young (29... I don't think it's that young!!!), get regular periods, and am in good health, she suggested trying for another 6 months before going to see an RE. I'm not willing to wait much longer and want to know sooner than later what our options are, so I'm keeping my Monday appointment. It's just a consult, but I'll also get an ultrasound so the Dr. can look at my ovaries. Hoping they will do some bloodwork that day as well, and send DH for a SA. Like you, I am nervous to find out something is really wrong, but also find comfort in knowing we are taking the next step to find out what's going on.

Hope you are able to get your HSG scheduled soon. I have heard the test it is not a fun experience, but hopefully it will be quick and painless for you!

 

[BelleNuit]

I was doing some reading and for unexplained infertility (at the 1 year mark) expectant management (no treatment) and treatment show the same likelihood of success, which is about 50%. So I think we are going to choose to wait another 6 months as treatment won't show an increase chance of conception at this point. It's also not covered for me at all so that's another factor.

Good luck with your testing! I'm trying to see it as good news that they haven't been able to find anything wrong yet for us.

Apparently 95% of people our age will be pregnant after 2 years of trying without treatment, so even though it's been awhile, the odds if us becoming pregnant are still in our favour

 

[mara16jade]

I wouldn't wait another 6 months! I had my first at 31 without any trouble. But here we are ttc and the most progress we've made in a year is a miscarriage. I'm 33 now, and went to the FS about 2 months ago. I just finished my 1st round of clomid and it didn't work. I pick up my next prescription on Monday and then should start my 2nd clomid round sometime next week.

I hope you have a super short ttc journey after this. Definitely get your dh checked and you'll probably be asked to get a HSG done (checks to make sure your tubes are clear).

Good luck! Fx

 

[mara16jade]

I also read that after 2 years, 95% will conceive. I'm just so impatient now. I have secondary undiagnosed infertility since we had our son without any troubles. Good luck ladies!

 

[lesondemavie]

Hey maybe, I just started my 14th cycle ttc (13th month). Our problem is a bit different. We've conceived twice, but both pregnancies ended in heartbreak. We had our first consult with an RE today too. It was a great appointment and it feels so good having someone take care of me for a change, but it still hurts to even be there in the first place. Hope yours went just as well