just wondering how many of you...

[brewanneanan]

sorry if it sounds like a rude question but was having a little wonder to myself how many people were with the FOB at the time of conception or if anyone was in a very complicated situation....im not pregnant or have a child, but i know if i was to get pregnant now it would be in a very complicated situationl.!!

 

[laylasmommy]

When I got pregnant we weren't together, we were just hanging out and sleeping around. We both liked each other and didn't wanna jump into anything.

We started going out on my birthday though and a week later I found out I was pregnant...we totally jumped into it though and had major problems!

But now we're trying to take things slow and do what's best for our LO.

 

[Aidedhoney]

We were together and had been for 2 years previously baby was very much planned and wanted by us both, sadly reality of having a baby kicked in not long after.

Good luck xx

 

[teal]

We had been together for almost a year but broke up when I refused to have a termination. His loss xx

 

[WhiteGeisha]

I was with FOB at the time and when I conceived we were very happy..things took a turn a few weeks later then I found out I was pregnant. I wanted to give it another go but he didn't want me or the baby...nothings changed since then! x

 

[mummy_ellie09]

We were together at time of conception and all through the pregnancy. He even posted on here for me after the birth to let some of you know! He decided to walk out when LO was barely 3 months old

 

[KaeRit21]

we'd barely been back together 6 weeks, following 4 years of on/off when i fell pregnant, even got engaged....but...i was single and on my own by time i was 25 weeks and its just been me and LO since xxx

 

[Laura2919]

I was in a relationship and had been for 3 years! The twins werent planned but I have to be honest and say I dont think I loved my ex then. I fell out of love with him before the girls were conceived but when I found out I was pregnant it masked it and I just trained myself to believe I did!
Its definitely not my ideal situation! I would want to spend the rest of my life with the father of my children, but I cant do that when I dont love him!

 

[debsbaby]

I am divorced and am pregnant by a married man. Yep, sounds terrible, but he and I were high school and college sweethearts. It was a very unique set of circumstances that brought us together that night. I had sex ONE TIME in 2 YEARS...I kid you not, and got pregnant...at age 41. I already have older children (2 teenagers and a pre-teen). It was a shock, and I really don't know where all this is going.
I don't want to wreck his marriage. He has a 4 year old. I don't want to marry him (don't think I ever want to get married again), but I'd like to think he will be involved for the child at this point.
Initially I thought I wouldn't even tell him, but realized I'd have to. I only told him on Thursday at almost 13 weeks. He is completely shocked and is now thinking that in all fairness he must tell his wife regardless of what she decides.
I am still not sure what level of involvement he will have. He has asked me not to reveal him yet as the father while he wrestles with this. I do understand. But I am having to tell even my family that "father of baby isn't involved at this time and lets just leave it at that".
You can imagine that my parents (who are 70 and 73) are having a hard time with that.
So, if you are risking pregnancy in a tricky situation, I'd recommend you NOT take chances anymore. It is very hard.

 

[scottishgal89]

i had broken up with fob but was still sleeping with him
we got back together and found out i had fallen pregnant in the break in between
my lo wasnt planned but that doesnt mean she wasnt wanted (by me).
fob tried to bully me into an abortion but i stood my ground and here i am- single mummy to a 6month old gorgeous girlie he broke up with me when i was 20weeks gone but its definitly for the best, hes a total arse

 

[missynz]

i had been in a relationship but we split then decided to just sleep with each other,now little bug is on its way lol

 

[glitterbomb]

I was with fob at the time of conception, but he left me when I was 20 weeks pregnant

 

[expecting09]

Mine was quite a complicated situation. FOB lives 300 miles away, before I fell pregnant we were together to'ing and fro'ing between eachother, and I 'was' planning on moving up there before I fell pregnant, then when I fell pregnant he gave me the abortion option and I couldn't do that so he stayed up there and I stayed down here.

 

[QuintinsMommy]

we were only together for 3 weeks, by the time I found out I was pregnant, we weren't talking, so I was single my whole pregnancy, and now.

 

[DreaminOfBaby]

Yeah I was pretty much single from the get go. My FOB started out as my brothers friend so I knew him for a little while but we never talked. Then shortly before my brother moved out he started showing interest in me and we rushed into having sex before actually had a relationship but I was already planning on moving. I then moved 2000 miles away and found out I was pregnant and as soon as I told him his first words were "Terminate it" and I didn't want to so he threatened me and then told me that he was going to take my baby away. So yeah, I'm in one VERY complicated situation! But no matter what, even though we sure in the hell didn't plan this, I am SO HAPPY that I'm having a baby.

 

[whoops]

I'm not with FOB although we were friends for about a year.

It's a pretty bad situation though - he's in another relationship and we both felt awful after we slept together. I feel so guilty for what we did to his girlfriend that I'm essentially allowing him to walk away without telling her because I don't want to ruin her life. Although, it is killing me that he won't be involved with the baby.

His first reaction was 'get an abortion' as well, but he changed his mind after he saw how much it would affect me to get rid of the baby. He still says he can't be involved though.

The worst thing has been telling my mother the situation. I really feel like I've let everyone down. I've never slept with someone in a relationship before, and I can't believe things have happened like this.

 

[Laura2919]

I'm not with FOB although we were friends for about a year.

It's a pretty bad situation though - he's in another relationship and we both felt awful after we slept together. I feel so guilty for what we did to his girlfriend that I'm essentially allowing him to walk away without telling her because I don't want to ruin her life. Although, it is killing me that he won't be involved with the baby.

His first reaction was 'get an abortion' as well, but he changed his mind after he saw how much it would affect me to get rid of the baby. He still says he can't be involved though.

The worst thing has been telling my mother the situation. I really feel like I've let everyone down. I've never slept with someone in a relationship before, and I can't believe things have happened like this.

I wouldnt beat yourself up about it. People make mistakes and as long as you have learned your lesson then I dont see the need. Your clearly upset that he wont be involved in LO's life but that might change. You have a way to go yet so he may decide that coming clean is best so he can be involved with his child.

 

[whoops]

I wouldnt beat yourself up about it. People make mistakes and as long as you have learned your lesson then I dont see the need. Your clearly upset that he wont be involved in LO's life but that might change. You have a way to go yet so he may decide that coming clean is best so he can be involved with his child.

Thank you! I've got plenty of support if he doesn't change his mind, so I know I'll be ok either way. It's just a horrible situation to be in.

 

[debsbaby]

I'm not with FOB although we were friends for about a year.

It's a pretty bad situation though - he's in another relationship and we both felt awful after we slept together. I feel so guilty for what we did to his girlfriend that I'm essentially allowing him to walk away without telling her because I don't want to ruin her life. Although, it is killing me that he won't be involved with the baby.

His first reaction was 'get an abortion' as well, but he changed his mind after he saw how much it would affect me to get rid of the baby. He still says he can't be involved though.

The worst thing has been telling my mother the situation. I really feel like I've let everyone down. I've never slept with someone in a relationship before, and I can't believe things have happened like this.

I would like to say that you shouldn't deprive your child of knowing their father due to your guilt about his girlfriend's feelings. Your child's needs and feelings should come first. He will have to deal with what he has caused, and she will to. Coming clean is the best route for everyone. It is hard to do. Believe me, I know.

 

[whoops]

I would like to say that you shouldn't deprive your child of knowing their father due to your guilt about his girlfriend's feelings. Your child's needs and feelings should come first. He will have to deal with what he has caused, and she will to. Coming clean is the best route for everyone. It is hard to do. Believe me, I know.

I do understand that and that's really why I'm hoping he'll come round himself. I told him I wouldn't force him to do anything and I do want to stick to that, as he had a really bad reaction to finding out I was pregnant, and I'd genuinely worry about what he'd do to himself if I pressured him into something.

He knows that he can change his mind at any time though. And I will ask him for financial support when he/she is born so there's a good chance that will convince him that the baby and I haven't gone away.