Last chance for fob

[Mummy1995]

So last week FOB emailed me after having no contact at all for 5 weeks. And he in a nutshell said he wanted to be in Isabellas life and it was my fault he hadn't been as I make it awkward because I contact his family asking them to come and see her.

I mean wtf?! He's seen her 5 times. Never paid a penny or bought her anything and didn't even get her an Xmas card or present. And I've pushed and pushed for him to come and his family, all of whom have never met her!! It's ridiculous.

So I've emailed him back and it basically says this is his and his family's last chance. They change now or they won't have an involvement in Isabellas life until she decides otherwise! X

 

[Dezireey]

Hope it works out for you. Men, they are just clueless plonkers! Good for you for standing your ground.

 

[Proserpina]

Side question, but if he hasn't paid a penny, any reason you haven't hit him up for child support?

If you want to give him a chance, that's fine, but stand your ground and don't let him play that blame game.

 

[Mummy1995]

He doesn't have a job or benefits as his parents give him money for whatever he wants so can't legally get anything but it would be the decent thing to do to put some of what his parents give him away toward her keep or into her bank account! X

 

[babycrazy1706]

well done you for being strong! let us know how you go on.... best wishes Xx

 

[Proserpina]

He doesn't have a job or benefits as his parents give him money for whatever he wants so can't legally get anything but it would be the decent thing to do to put some of what his parents give him away toward her keep or into her bank account! X

If he were mine, think I'd tell him that if he doesn't want to pony up some financial support, either in the form of work income or in the form of sharing some of what Mommy and Daddy are giving him, he doesn't need to be a part of her life.

I have my own woes with mine, but he says he's more than willing to pay child support and is going to make his first payment this Friday.

 

[greenbeans12]

Had the same issue with my DD's FOB and I had always told him if you can't love Ava then another man will. Sure enough I met my DH and he loves my little girl to pieces. Of he decides to not be involved it's his loss but eventually another man will come along and be a Father to your LO.

 

[babycrazy1706]

Had the same issue with my DD's FOB and I had always told him if you can't love Ava then another man will. Sure enough I met my DH and he loves my little girl to pieces. Of he decides to not be involved it's his loss but eventually another man will come along and be a Father to your LO.

That's lovely! I hope I eventually meet a nice man like that. Xx

 

[Mummy1995]

Well its been 2 weeks and had no reply yet, not even an acknowledgement of my email.

 

[babycrazy1706]

xx

 

[Proserpina]

Well its been 2 weeks and had no reply yet, not even an acknowledgement of my email.

I'm so sorry to hear that.

Sounds like your child deserves better.

 

[Mummy1995]

Well considering I told him it was his last chance shows how much he cares what on earth will I tell LO when she's older? Because the truth is daddy doesn't and never had loved or wanted her

 

[babycrazy1706]

terribly heartbreaking

so sorry