Letter from Solicitors

[sassybaby]

Hello Girls,

This is my first post on here was wondering if any1 could give me advice or and possitive stories

i have a Son who is 6 and has not seen his father for 3 years not through my choice but he messed him around so much in the 1st 3 years I decided he either play a father roll or pee off and he decided the pub was more important anyway in the 3 years he has not seen my ds I have met a new man who my ds reconises as his Daddy and I have another ds on the way. I have recently received a letter from a solicitor says that his father wants access which I am fuming because his timing is all wrong he is going to mess my poor ds head up I am going to deny him access so it will go to court is there any1 out there that the court have found in favour of the mother because it would be to difficult for the child at this age??? I was never going to lie to my ds I was going to explain to him when he was older enough to deal with the situation.

Anyone in similar situation or advice

xxx

 

[Laura2919]

You need to air your concerns. He hasnt been around for 3 yrs and he thinks its ok to just drop you a letter like its nothing.

You need to speak to someone and explain that maybe if you see a change in your sons real dad that he may be allowed visitation rights.

My friend went to court about her daughter and done the same thing and the twit didnt even show up so judge ruled in her favour and all visitation rights were dropped. She has sole custody and he isnt allowed near them!

xx

 

[sassybaby]

I work for a solicitors so have taken legal advice my solicitor said she is not going to lie to me he will probo be awarded supervised contact but I think it is so unfair to the child if they have been let down in the past only to have it done to again
x

 

[scottishgal89]

what a horrible situation to end up in when everything had been working out just fine the way it was.
it will totally mess up your wee man's head and could upset him.
why do you think he has asked for contact after this length of time? obviously he is his dad but the court may actually see it from the point of view that its not best for your son? dont know if thats wrong but i would have thought it would be taken into consideration that he doesnt know him and views someone else as dad
im afraid i cant really help you cause my lo is only young. i stopped fob's access because of his behaviour and her health and i think hes about to take me to court too. just waiting on the order arriving. thats the main reason i answered you because i have also said no to him having contact when he has asked.
sorry if i've been no help. just didnt want to read and hun xx

 

[sassybaby]

Thank-you for your response I hope everything works out with yours too these men can be soooo selfish only thinking about themselves and not the child involved, Me & my partner have always decided that when my ds is at an age where he can understand we would tell ds but at the moment he is just to young to take it all in xx

 

[scottishgal89]

yeah i completely agree with the decision you made.

keep us posted.
hope it works out and he crawls back under the rock he appeared from
xx